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A DISTORTION THAT BLOCKS THE FLOW OF SOUL: SELF DEFEAT
IRRATIONAL THINKING THAT IS EERILY COMMON
Sometimes when communication shuts down between two people and one begins to "guess" what the other person is thinking or feeling towards them.
It will be helpful to you on your journey to delve deeper into yourselves as we explore the cognitive disorder "mind reading". As we are all emotional beings, we must realize, that allowing these emotional roller-coasters to destroy us, make us feel guilty, ruin relationships, families and friendships, must be accepted and TAMED! We are all human with real feelings and emotions that are REAL to us and while we live in darkness we may not know the true NEGATIVE EFFECTS that self destructive thinking has not only ourselves but THOSE AROUND US!
Assume that the other person's thoughts are against them or negatively conclude that someone is ill of them, without proof or evidence, and without checking it out for themselves.
This kind of thinking effects mood, energy levels; your whole outlook on life continues into this dark abyss because you never really know the absolute truth about what someone else feels about you; and what you have concluded is negative and INCORRECT!
YOU ARE MIND READING!
We may say what others think and feel about us doesn't matter and that may be true to some extent. Yes we tell them they can all go stick it some where, yet it DOES matter to someone who "mind reads".
Some way some how you are sitting up thinking about what the other person is feeling about YOU. Now ask yourself how do you feel about YOU?
STOP THIS MIND TRICK NOW! If this is how you have been dealing in relationships, business, or career, you must check yourself when you begin to "put words into other peoples mouths" or should we say "putting thoughts into your head about other people's thoughts about you". Ha!.. that's too much work on our brains, let alone just to write it!.
By doing this you block all opportunities to dialogue and learn new things about the person you love or people you choose to have in your circle.
I am beginning a series on cognitive disorders and how they disrupt our soul's natural flow. They are common occurrences in each of us. Yet we have no clue as to what they are and when to recognize them.
Unknowingly, we are damaging our selves in the process to experience a soulful life and hurting others around us.
Other self destructive ways of thinking are:
1) "all or nothing" thinking--- thinking that it's either one way or the other. No median. No solutions, no other options or alternatives. All positive opportunities. or self image are ignored and overlooked because the shadow of the negative outcome has overtaken the person.
2) "Mental Filters" thinking--- taking all the GOOD things in our lives and totally disregard it, we are blinded by the BAD things that are happening. We can never fully enjoy our happiness because we are constantly complaining about what is wrong.
and many others that will be exposed over these hubs.
Just to ensure we are on a path to clear up our cognitive static and better communicate the soul-ful aspect of ourselves more effectively, these mental illnesses that we are so unaware of in our lives, must be addressed.
Remember a man's thoughts decides what is going to happen!
Since these thoughts are subconscious, it is these thoughts that will evolve.
THEREFORE WHEN THERE IS NO LONGER ANYTHING IN OUR MENTALITY WHICH DENIES OUR WORD, A DEMONSTRATION WILL BE MADE; NOTHING CAN STOP IT.
IT IS LAW.
Our minds are very complex instruments that sometimes play tricks , most often we are not aware of them. We as children adopt a way of thinking that is so important to our adult lives, if we grasps the destructive path of our thoughts we usually go astray and become angry and frustrated. Most of humanity has become angry and frustrated.
LET'S BREAK THIS UNHEALTHY CYCLE!
Everyone on the planet is thinking what the others are doing and plotting yet it is frivolous to spend anytime on thinking about what someone is negatively plotting against you! You must immediately turn inward when you feel yourself falling into this thought pattern!
If you don't believe me think about someone you really "don't care for", for a lack of better words. Do you immediately feel like they did something to you and would do it again if given the chance? OK now, think about being that person and then think about yourself! Ha! now how does that feel? Ugh right? I Know!
THIS IS HOW THOSE WITH MIND READING DISORDERS DO! ALL DAY LONG! But they also do this when the other person has no history of wronging them! wow.
So many of us do this at some point or another. It is not so uncommon as you may think; believe it or not.
The way we are thinking plays a crucial role in becoming spiritually and emotionally sound. We are on this journey called life and I am discovering many things about SOUL'S self that I have never known. IT IS TRANSFORMATIONAL.
ARE YOU TRANSFORMING? ARE YOU DOING NEW THINGS? SPEAKING LIFE MORE OFTEN? BEING MINDFUL AND AWARE OF YOUR WORDS, THOUGHTS AND DEEDS? Be honest with yourself, nobody else is looking at you with a magnifying glass but YOU. We magnify the most insignificant, little things and then turn them into big issues and dwell on them so much that all our vision becomes darkened. FOCUS. ALLOW SOUL TO FLOW NATURALLY. CLEAN YOUR COGNITIVE STATIC. IT'S MUCH BIGGER THAN YOU!
Lets choose today to stop all the cognitive noise that interrupts the flow of SOUL. We must allow ourselves to be positive filters so that the spirit can communicate with the soul without static from our Ego's, false emotions and self righteous assumptions that may not even exist!
EXAMPLE: I want a job but 'am afraid the interviewer will tell me to cut my hair; so I won't apply for it, even though it is an ideal job!
I offer this lesson for all the young beautiful women who have lost love and are starting fresh . All the young men who have never understood why it was so hard to ask her on that date, yet did it anyway.
Do not make the mistake of allowing YOUR WRONG THINKING to cause you to miss out on golden opportunities in love and friendship or even a career.
Humans have a way of wanting to reason with the unanswered "WHY", and we unknowingly think of ways to make sense of others and sometimes, most of the time we are wrong.
Until you check it out yourself, until you experience with your own eyes, ears or touch, never attempt to read another person's mind!
It's hard enough trying to figure out your own thinking so why would you torment yourself with the pain of what someone thinks of YOU!
Again this is MIND READING! It can send you deep into depression. It can misinform you and rob you of your true blessings or calling.
THESE SELF DEFEATING THINKING PATTERNS GET US INTO A MISERABLE EXISTENCE!
TURN INWARD. UNDERSTAND THAT YOU CANNOT READ INTO SOMEONE ELSE'S THOUGHTS ABOUT YOU! BE YOURSELF AND ALLOW THEM TO MAKE A SPIRITUAL ASSUMPTION, A SOUL CONNECTION; this is what draws like minds together.
"our worst enemies and our best friends are our own thoughts!"~unknown
QUICK example: Someone you never talked to in high school, suddenly contacts you and wants to partnership on a project.
- do you think "oh he doesn't like me he never did because of..?"
- do you think of a reason why "he never cared for you and would never..?"
- do you think "what is the motive? what is he up to?"
- Call the person and get the full scoop on what the details..
Most people would never do the simple thing and call. They would play these images and say words about what the person is negatively thinking and why, and what ifs..etc..etc.. sounds like you? WELL STOP IT! This thinking is worthless it is self defeating and stops all blessings in its tracks!
First you have decided on the issue before it could even play out! Second you are tormenting your brain over a person who probably means well.
SELF-CHECK: If you find yourself always reacting negatively and trying to guess what someone will react to, we can also call this "jumping to conclusions."
Yes I know some of us can relate to this type of thinking! It is not natural to become obsessed with what another is thinking or reacting towards you! It debilitates you and only hurts you in the end. Your journey will be long and dark if you are attempting to MIND READ.
"Keep thinking what you're thinking and keep getting what your getting!"-unknown
"PEOPLE ARE DISTURBED NOT BY THINGS, BUT BY THE VIEWS THEY TAKE OF THEM"-Epictetus. philosopher 55-135A.D.
Thank you for hanging with Asahda, p.o.t.n.a.....She is evolving! Are YOU?
This is a real and true cognitive disorder!
Truly we are beings of community and we all must have a small part inside of us that knows and understands that what people see in us, does matter. Especially those closest to us and those we love. This should help you communicate effectively. Open up and say more. Be sure of how someone feel about you instead of second guessing or not truly knowing if someone means well by you. You can miss out on a lot by making assumptions and jumping to conclusions before you even know its outcome.
"As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he"- Proverbs 23:7
Let's make sure we are openly communicating with those we love. We cannot think negatively about people that mean us well. We must know. Check it out for yourselves. <speak_life>..more latta. 1