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Saying Goodbye to a Redneck Friend

Updated on September 17, 2016
Photos and article copyright 07/06/2013.
Photos and article copyright 07/06/2013.

February 17, 1950 - May15, 2013

My sister Nancy and her husband Sid Lebedoff are the couple who's photos make their appearance on many of the Redneck articles I write.

They suit the redneck image ideally and their lives influenced many of my articles.

Sadly Sid passed away not long ago. This was very sudden and completely unexpected. He suffered a major heart attack May 15, 2013 while at work. It was a hot day and he was probably working too hard just as he always did.

Sid would probably laugh at the irony that he passed away on the day before payday and right at the end of the work day. I can see his big grin as he says, "Well that would just be my luck".

A life of laughter, love, hard work, and humor.

The picture perfect redneck.

Sid had a number of close friends who will miss him deeply and none more than his wife Nancy. He was her partner, friend, playmate, and confidant.

Sid was hard working, hard playing, and highly loyal to family and friend. He was generous with his time, labor, money, and love.

He was always there for any person who might need his aide. If Sid had an extra dollar, and you were down and out, it was yours. If someone was in need of an extra pair of hands then he was there to help.

A kind heart shines brighter than any light.

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Each person shines in their own very special way. A smile and a kind hand say more than words ever will.

 

Life is the simple pleasures which make it rich.

He was papa bear

They lived in a trailer tucked into a small shady nook in the woods. My sister referred to Sid as Papa Bear and in return he nicknamed her Mama Bear.

Sid and Nancy lived a simple country lifestyle and fit the Redneck image ideally.

They loved their beer to excess, enjoyed the companionship of their family and friends, and depended deeply on each others company to make their way through this life.

Nancy and Sid didn't need much in their life to get by. They had each other and so long as there was a beer in the fridge their life was good. If their freezer was looking a little bare they would grab their fishing rods and head down to the river to catch a few fish to replenish their supplies.

Home Sweet Home

Sid was a very talented wood worker.

Sid was an amazing carpenter and could create the most beautiful items crafted from wood. As was typically his nature his crafts were generally done in a rural old country style.

He often would craft gift items for Nancy and was just as thrilled to present them to her as she was to receive them.

These hand crafted gifts were a labor of love. I think he gave a small part of his heart enclosed in each and every one.

On his front deck sits a table and chairs that he crafted from locally found logs.

Sid at the gallery which features his wood crafts.

Sid's hand crafted log furniture.

Your principles will one day be your legacy.

A funeral in typical redneck style.

If one's character is defined by the people who's lives you touch then Sid really was a great man. He made a difference to many throughout his life.

Hunting, fishing, dancing, helping out a friend, or crooning to his wife, Sid was always true to himself and his simple country principles.

In typical redneck style his funeral was held down at the local pub that he so loved. This is the type of funeral that he would have wanted to attend.

His funeral was an opportunity for family and friends to say good-bye to Sid and of course to also have one last drink with him. Sid attended in his urn and photos and memories of his life were handed out.

Rest in peace Sid. You truly were a wonderful redneck friend.

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Love lives forever in the heart.

The first few months can be very difficult.

The pain a spouse feels after their loved one passes is beyond description. A good support network is very important to put into place for those who are left behind.

The funeral tribute can be held in the home, at a friends, at the graveside, at a local pub, or at a local park. A celebration of life is a comfortable casual way to say good-bye. A last drink at the corner pub or a backyard barbecue are a perfectly acceptable venue for friends and family to gather to say their farewells.

Emotional as well as financial support may be required at this time.

Money may not be plentiful and the costs of even a simple funeral can be very expensive. It is important to do the best with what is available and for the spouse not to feel pressured by family, friends, or funeral directors to spend more than can be afforded.

Decisions that are made at this time may not be ones that others deem suiting, but these are choices that should be respected as ones made befitting the lifestyle, and needs of the bereaved.

A redneck generally does not need to be prettied up too much for his last viewing. He may have requested to look in death as he did in life.

It is important for friends and neighbors to check in on the ones left behind. Rednecks traditionally are very dependent on their close family ties, and may be emotionally, or financially at a loss when they lose their spouse.

Sid, Nancy, and the grand baby.

There is no love deeper than a redneck love.

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Two individuals who stand by one another through thick and thin, working toward common goals, will grow to completely and totally trust each another.

Over time two hearts will mold into one. Love this loyal will bond two individuals into a single unit comprised of blended soul mates.

 

Nancy at home with Sid in the urn beside her.

Love is deep and it is hard to define a loss.

Rednecks are often simple rural folk. They are defined by the qualities they wear so proudly. Hard working, fun loving, kind, loyal, proudly outspoken, they carry their heart on their sleeve.

Easy to laugh, easy to love, and easy to experience hurt. If you are good to them then they will move heaven and earth for you. There truly is no one more loyal than a redneck friend.

They are very giving but won't truly trust you again if you ever betray them. Rednecks stand by their principles.

The articles on this account are gifted to aide and thank Nancy for the kindnesses that she and Sid have shown for so very many others. RIP Sid.

If you have a comment this would be the spot.

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      Mel Carriere 7 months ago from San Diego California

      Beautiful tribute to the talented man. I would have loved to throw back a beer or two with him.

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      sister nancy 2 years ago

      thank's sis i needed this today happy heart's too all today xoxoxoxoxo

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      mary-strain-77 3 years ago

      A touching tribute and a recommended read!

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      Lorelei Cohen 3 years ago from Canada

      @Nancy Hardin: The first winter really is a difficult time. The spring sunshine truly does bring a new warmth along with it.

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      Nancy Carol Brown Hardin 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      Sorry for the loss of Sid, he sounds like somebody I would have liked to know. Please give your sister Nancy my condolences. At this season, it is particularly hard on those who have lost someone, and you've beautifully expressed things to help them. Beautiful lens and heartfelt.

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      Lorelei Cohen 3 years ago from Canada

      @CaztyBon: She is starting to be okay during the day but the nights are the hardest time. I think this Christmas will be a rough one for her. That is a rough time to be without someone you have been with for so very many years.

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      CaztyBon 3 years ago

      I am truly sorry of the loss of Sid! You are right his woodwork that you show is beautifully done. I hope that Nancy recovers and carry's on.

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      Lorelei Cohen 3 years ago from Canada

      @Hannah Writes: This truly was a very difficult article to write. Each picture of Sid brought back images of him and Nancy. You can see the love in their eyes in every photo. They relied on each other very much.

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      Dancing Cowgirl Design 3 years ago from Texas

      Awww, so sorry for your loss. This is a wonderful tribute.

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      Lorelei Cohen 3 years ago from Canada

      @ColorPetGifts: Thank you so much for stopping by. I saw my sister the other day and read the comments here to her. Of course she started crying again too. The thought that so many others care is a tribute to Sid's life that really does mean so very much to her. She was very deeply touched by the comments and she laughed and cried as I read them to her. She will carry these thoughts forever in her heart.

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      ColorPetGifts 3 years ago

      Rest in Peace, Sid - I'm with Ruthi and can't help but shed a tear. But I get the sense that Sid would want everyone to keep smiling in his honor. So, I am smiling through the tears. Thank-you for the beautiful tribute. And please give my love to Nancy.

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      Lorelei Cohen 3 years ago from Canada

      @Ruthi: You couldn't offer a nicer tribute than that. A tear and a beer lol. Thank you so much for those sentiments and for stopping by today. I talked to my sister earlier and I will share this with her the next time I talk to her. You brought me a smile today and I am sure that she will smile reading the comments too. Friends truly are priceless.

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      Ruthi 3 years ago

      I must admit I have shared a tear on my visit here today. The loing hearts you have shared, including your own, deserve a toast, redneck style of course, and you can believe I shall raise by Bud Ice bottle to you and your loved ones this evening. Wonderful tribute to your sister and Sid - thank you for sharing.

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      Hannah Writes 3 years ago

      This was a beautiful tribute. I can feel how much you loved him. May his memory be for a blessing.

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      Lorelei Cohen 3 years ago from Canada

      @TapIn2U: I am sure that he will. Thank you very much for that sentiment. It is a lovely one.

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      poppy mercer 3 years ago from London

      Thank you for a glimpse into such a warm and loving world, even in times of sorrow. These things are so tough to deal with, but I see that you and your sister have an amazing community of support which is beyond price, and sadly not so common these days.

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      TapIn2U 3 years ago

      Your friend will be very happy if he sees this. Such a wonderful tribute! Sundae ;-)

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      Michey LM 3 years ago

      Beautiful tribute to a friend... Thanks for sharing!

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      goldenrulecomics 3 years ago

      What a great tribute. Thanks for sharing.

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      Virginia Allain 3 years ago from Central Florida

      I didn't know Sid and Nancy, but my heart is heavy for her after reading about the loss of Sid. May your memories of better times bring solace to her and to you.

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      Lorelei Cohen 3 years ago from Canada

      @JoleneBelmain: Yes, they truly were. They relied on each other so very much.

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      Lorelei Cohen 3 years ago from Canada

      @DuaneJ: Thank you very much for stopping by Duane.

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      DuaneJ 3 years ago

      May Sid's soul rest in peace. This was very touching.

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      JoleneBelmain 3 years ago

      Nancy and Sid were soul mates for sure. Very rarely do you find two people so perfect for each other. RIP Sid you will be missed!

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      Lorelei Cohen 3 years ago from Canada

      @MaggiePowell: Nancy misses him very deeply. They were a partners, a team, and it will be very different for her to be without him. They were together for many years.

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      Lorelei Cohen 3 years ago from Canada

      @noner: That is so very true. In the country you love deeply but you also enjoy the warmth, love, and humor of good friends to help get through the pain. Talking about the good times and laughing about all the goofy silly rough times is exactly what happens at a redneck funeral.

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      MaggiePowell 3 years ago

      wonderful tribute..

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      noner 3 years ago

      One thing I know for sure is that a redneck funeral, or at least all the ones I went to, were less mournful than celebratory. A party to tribute the life of the one no longer with us.

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