Letters to YOU: “How do I start a new life?” Part I
How many times have you said “I want a fresh start”, “I want to start my life over”, “I can’t continue living like this, I want to make life changes”. Most people and I’m not an exception, have tried starting a new life with cleaning the flat, getting rid of old clothes and moving furniture around. The truth is that was a good start but also the end. As soon as your flat is spotless, you’re in a much better mood, you’re pleasantly tired and you decide “maybe my life is not bad after all”. Your life goes on as usual until the next time you decide to change things around and you just end up with a clean flat again. Whatever your reasons are for wishing to transform your life, forget about cleaning and prepare for a roller coaster. Life changes don’t happen overnight. Whichever situation you are in now, you have to make sure you are serious about making changes. It’s time to put words into actions. You will need self-control, self-discipline, determination and will-power. Start making changes now with these tips from my personal experience and turn your dreams into reality.
- Be honest with yourself. Write down, truthfully, where you are now in various areas of your life i.e. career, work/life balance, relationships, hobby etc. Now you are ready to write down ideally how you want the situation to be. For each point you mention, write down what resources you might need for the changes to take place. For example, you might need family/friends support, finances or professional help. Write down a list of actions you have to take and when exactly you want to take that specific action. It’s important to do this exercise to gain some clarity into the situation you found yourself in. Now it’s not just in your head, but on the paper, you can do some brainstorming, add more actions to the list or make any other adjustments until you are completely satisfied it. Take as much time as you need, be completely honest with yourself and write down as many details as possible. It’s probably easier to make a table and print it out once it’s complete. Use these headings for your columns:
Start date – achieve by
- Think of all the people that are hurting you, make you feel down and don’t believe in you and ….. GET AWAY from them. Surround yourself with positive people. Start socialising in different places and expose yourself to meet the type of people you really want to stay in touch with. When you decide to stop being friends with some people, don’t lie that you are busy and can’t meet up with them. Explain that you’re starting your life over, tell them how you feel about their presence in your life and say goodbye! Don’t just ignore these people or remove them from your friends on Facebook – they won’t go away! Man up and tell them the truth, you will feel relieved. Explore your true desires – sign up for dance/yoga classes, photography/acting/make-up course or simply take a walk around your area more often. You have to be open and genuine to invite people into your life. Make a list of activities you’ve always wanted to try but never did because of constant excuses. Research where these activities happen and decide when exactly you will try them out.
Be healthy, wealthy and happy…..& Remember: “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending”
Always by your side,
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