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80 Original Ideas on What to Write in a Sympathy Card

Updated on November 30, 2017
When You Miss Them So Much, Even Breathing is Hard - And Wish You Could at Least Walk them to their Destination so They Won't be Afraid - That's What Love and Loss Is
When You Miss Them So Much, Even Breathing is Hard - And Wish You Could at Least Walk them to their Destination so They Won't be Afraid - That's What Love and Loss Is

Finding the Right Thing to Say to Someone Who has Lost a Person Close to Them

Losing someone personally versus knowing someone who is going through a great loss are two very different things. If you've gone through a loss, you certainly understand the difference.

Until you actually live through the passing of a person you deeply love, you truly have no idea what to expect when the pain of loss hits. It's almost as though a light switch has been flipped, and your knowingness about life and death reaches a cosmic level.

If you've never gone through it, finding the right words to comfort people living a great loss can be challenging. This page is designed to offer you ideas about what to say to someone enduring grief. Granted, nothing we say will erase their pain, however it may bring a smile, lend a distant shoulder or show them that you also feel their loss. It means a lot to read a personal note, it truly does.

Photo: Because Someone We Love Is In Heaven... there's a little bit of HEAVEN in our home -Family Home wall By Blue Monkey Graphics

Father's Day In Heaven

Sympathy Words for the Loss of a Father

If you need to write something thoughtful to a friend or family member about the passing of their father, then below are 20 suggestions for you to choose from:

1. His heart and his kindness will always be remembered

2. He left a legacy of love, and was a beautiful example of how to live life

3. Your dad was like a dad to me and I was honored to know him

4. Your dad lives on in the hearts of all us; he leaves a void that no one else can fill

5. In the winter of his life, he was still filled will grace; he's truly a beautiful soul

6. Your loss is felt by all of us, we are all missing your dad

7. In a world of cynics, your dad always held the candle of hope

8. His endless gifts were his frequent kind words

9. Not many men leave an impact like your dad did, he was a trail blazer of love

10. In my lifetime, I will never know a greater man than your dad

11. The loss of your father has left all of us humbled as we reflect upon his grace

12. He passed 'go' and went directly to heaven; he was uniquely special

13. He's reorganizing heaven as we speak

14. His presence was huge, and there isn't anything that can ever replace that void

15. He's teaching classes in heaven on how to be the kindest person on earth

16. The stars dimmed their shine in honor of your dad's passing

17. His arms were big enough to carry us all; a special man, rare in this world

18. Your love for your dad was truly felt by all of us; our hearts are holding you close

19. He wasn't just a dad, he was a living example of how to be a class act

20. Yes, he'll always be with you in spirit - he'll watch over you as you go through life

The Best Thing to Write in a Card

If you're able to write a short personal story, a wonderful memory or a positive trait about the person who has passed, then this is always the first best option.

The next best choice would be a lovely, kind quote or saying, written in your own handwriting inside a card.

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Words for the Loss of a Mother

Here are twenty sayings you can easily put inside a sympathy card for someone who has suffered the loss of their mother:

1. Moms always keep us safe, no matter what side of life they're living on

2. Your mom will always watch you and care for you; that part will never end

3. Take comfort in knowing that your mom was loved and her grace was felt by all of us

4. Your mom's gifts were endless, making her spirit and love live on forever

5. Nobody can ever replace a mom which is why they always watch over us from beyond

6. Your mom was loved by so many people and so your loss is shared by many

7. Your mom was lady, a precious gift to many of us

8. Know that we feel your pain very deeply and are here for you during this time of sorrow

9. Heaven just received the classiest lady that ever lived

10. A little grace, a little style, and a lot of heart; heaven is even better now

11. Angels are hugging you with their wings and your mom's spirit is among them

12. Our mom's keep us close no matter where they live

13. In your hour of need I extend my heart and love to you

14. Mom is in heaven watching over you; you are never alone

15. Your mother was a ray of sunshine to many, and now she gets to shine from above

16. I loved your mother, she was an amazing human being, she will be so missed

17. Behind your mother's smile was always another smile, her memory will live forever

18. Kindness was your mom's specialty, we were all blessed to know her

19. If they're handing out awards in heaven, your mom just won first prize

20. Your mother's love was deeply felt by many

Tears in Heaven - Would You Know My Name if I Saw You in Heaven - I'll Love You 'Til the End of Time, and Time Never Ends

Honoring a Loved One with Quotes or By Building an Online Remembrance

A unique way to honor someone who has passed away:

For one year, as a way to honor my father's passing, I post a song and a written dedication to him on the 5th of each month (the day he passed away).

Having had a great deal of trouble coping with his passing, I find it helps. You can see it here, Song Dedication for Dad. I started posting these on facebook, but then decided I needed a more permanent and organized place as a keepsake. So I added a page for my father to my website. If you have a blog, you could also create a memorial that way.

You can use this idea to create a loving gift and memorial for a friend or family member. It's a wonderful gesture.

Encouraging Words to Say Regarding the Loss of a Loved One

20 Encouraging Sayings You can Put in a Card for a Friend or Family Member Suffering a Loss:

1. Your life was made better by his presence, and will continue to be made better as he works unseen

2. He is looking down congratulating himself for the wonderful family he raised

3. When Heaven hands out awards, your loved one will receive the Grace & Dignity Award

4. Hope comes from the strangest places, even through sorrow there is hope

5. A human life is our gift, a spiritual life is our eternity

6. All of us go home where we gather around to discuss our contributions

7. In the end, there is no end, life goes on; hold on to your loved ones, they haven't left you

8. Hope is a place where flowers grow with or without seeds

9. In our hearts we hold each other close; it's the place where beauty gathers

10. Know that your love carried her, and that she now carries you

11. The spirit houses the soul as the body did, so your loved one lives on

12. Life is a beautiful journey that continues on passed this world

13. Life begins with birth, and upon our passing is the current reflection of our soul

14. Time never ends, life never ends, love never ends

15. Separate and distinct from the body, is the soul; it lives forever

16. Missing someone never means they are missing

17. We never cease to be, we are simply awakened to a new existence

18. A heart of kindness passes into a new awakening free of encumbrances

19. We are the total sum of willingness to spiritually evolve

20. In life we hold on, in death we let go; the spirit is free to love, unencumbered

Missing You is Forever - I Feel You Beside Me Everyday

I feel your presence every single day, and I miss you more than words can express
I feel your presence every single day, and I miss you more than words can express

Sympathy Thank You Card Wording

During a time of grief, it can be very difficult to find the right words to say thank you in response to the sympathy cards, and contributions such as cooking and helping. Here are 20 different ideas on how to express thanks. Feel free to write them in a card:

1. Your words were very kind and truly appreciated, thank you

2. It's been so hard but your beautiful card brought a much needed moment of light

3. You're such a wonderful friend, thank you for all you did during this very difficult time

4. Without people like you, people like me would never get through times like this

5. You are the gift I give myself, thank you for being there

6. During my hour of need, you were there; thank you so much

7. Didn't think I could get through this, and there you were holding me up; I love you

8. Your arms held me close and filled my soul with much needed moments of peace

9. Thank you for your thoughtfulness, it was greatly appreciated

10. You are very special people, and your loving support meant the world to all of us

11. I feel as though you are the only one who really understands my pain, thank you

12. You were there for me when I needed you most; you are a true friend

13. It's hard to explain my pain to people and yet to you I don't have to; you truly feel it too

14. For your time, your cooking, your help, your heart and your love, I thank you

15. Know that I cannot put a value on what you did for me; it was deeply appreciated

16. As I move forward in life, knowing you are still here, brings me peace

17. Your support and gracious generosity is rare these days, you are special, thank you

18. You hold my heart, I hold your heart, thank you

19. In this life, knowing you are here means so much, thank you

20. Where there is darkness there is light, you are my light, thank you so much

A Small Thank You Gift to Send with Thank You Cards - Thank You Fridge Magnet

Thank You Fridge Magnet - A small gift idea
Thank You Fridge Magnet - A small gift idea

Get a collection of these Thank You Magnets and send them to those who helped you - It becomes a combination thank you note and gift: A Small Gift of Thank You

Temporary Home, A beautiful Song by Carrie Underwood

Temporary Home by Carrie Underwood

This song speaks perfectly about this world being our "temporary home" and paints the picture with life examples. The hardest verse to listen to is the third verse - I can barely get through it. It's so hard, but so true.

The Nevers: Another Small Gift

The Nevers - A Fridge Magnet
The Nevers - A Fridge Magnet

These words may make someone even more emotional, however, they were personally written and designed by me (Brite-Ideas), after the passing of my dad. The words came straight from my heart, and express the greatest pain I felt when I lost my amazing dad. Dad I love you. I miss you.

The Nevers - A Magnet

See You Again, by Carrie Underwood

© 2013 Barbara Tremblay Cipak

Have you ever suffered a painful loss of someone close to you? - Feel free to add any original words of thanks you may have used in the past...

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      Barbara Tremblay Cipak 6 weeks ago from Toronto, Canada

      Donna, thank you for stopping by and leaving such a thoughtful comment. When dad passed and people send cards by the 100's I couldn't believe all the thoughtful words expressed to us and was shocked by just how much we needed to read them.

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      Donna 7 weeks ago from East Yorkshire, UK

      It is so very hard to know what to say to a bereaved person at a time when they most need understanding and empathy. This is a lovely thoughtful article. We sometimes avoid people when they need a friend the most because we just do not know what to say and how to respond.

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      Barbara Tremblay Cipak 2 months ago from Toronto, Canada

      Lorelei, it sure is, I remember when the cards and notes came in for dad, it meant a lot.

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      Barbara Tremblay Cipak 2 months ago from Toronto, Canada

      Thank you Pat, and thanks for stopping by

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      Lorelei Cohen 2 months ago from Canada

      This is one occasion where I have always had difficulty finding the appropriate words to say. Thank you for this list. Grief is such a highly emotional time.

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      Wednesday-Elf 2 months ago from Savannah, Georgia

      Your idea of sharing a personal memory of someone who has died is my favorite. It's heartwarming to hear favorite stories others have of your loved one.

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      MariaMontgomery 3 years ago from Central Florida, USA

      This is a beautiful, soothing lens. Thank you for sharing its contents. It will be useful to many, many people.

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      Tonie Cook 3 years ago from USA

      There are times when you just can not find the right words to express, but thanks to this site the task will be a little bit easier. Thank you for sharing this information to help others during their time of need.

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      saba-khan3 3 years ago

      It's brilliant

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      Barbara Tremblay Cipak 3 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      @Diana Wenzel: thank you so much for the kind comment - and you are sure right, I wrote these after losing Dad

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      Renaissance Woman 3 years ago from Colorado

      These are really powerful and touching sentiments you have written. We do need these thoughts prepared because it is so hard to think during the exhausting time of experiencing a loss. Only someone who has known a painful loss could write such beauty. Thank you for pouring out your heart and spirit in this way to help us all.

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      Marie 4 years ago

      Finding just the right choice of wording for a sympathy card is something so many people struggle with. This is such a helpful resource page and filled with beautiful and sensitive ideas.

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      Pam Irie 4 years ago from Land of Aloha

      Wow, did you write all these? I'm impressed! This is a super helpful page!

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      Barbara Tremblay Cipak 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      @Pam Irie: I did write them, thank you very much :)

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      Shinichi Mine 4 years ago from Tokyo, Japan

      You know, I wish I was this lens last month when my mother's father died. I really didn't know what to write.

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      Barbara Tremblay Cipak 4 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      @LisaMarieGabriel: very sorry to hear about the loss of your dad, it's been 8mths for us, and I really understand your pain

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      Lisa Marie Gabriel 4 years ago from United Kingdom

      I think of my dear father every single day, nearly two years since he passed over. There are some lovely ideas here. Thank you!

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      This is such a useful page for people who are often at a loss for words at a time when just the right words are needed. Thank you for sharing this.

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      flycatcherrr 4 years ago

      We've all lost someone dear - or, if very young, perhaps not yet; but we will experience the loss in time - and yet it never seems to help to find the words for sympathy for someone else in the same grief. I am sure that a great many people will be grateful for your suggestions for gracious, kind, heartfelt words.

      My sympathy to you on the loss of your Dad; it's clear from reading this that the two of you had a very special bond and he will always hold a place in your heart and your memory.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Nicely done and very sweet sentiments. Thank you for sharing this. I'm sure many who have lost their loved ones will be touched by your gesture.

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      DougB101 4 years ago

      Thanks or sharing these wonderful words. I always make my own Sympathy/Birthday cards. Now I have another source for soothing words. Thanks again.

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      frenchlingo 4 years ago

      Thank you so much for this lens. It was quite interesting to gather such information. The song I have never listened to it before so thank you so much for sharing. Really nice one to add to my collection.