Ways to Enhance My Life
How can I enhance my life?
We have all heard phrases which have made us stop and think. Some of these phrases caused us to re-evaluate our perceptions on things while others have inspired us to reach out to others or make drastic changes in our lives.
I have yet to hear one phrase or quote which sums up everything, thus I enjoy the pearls of wisdom I sometimes receive. These pearls of wisdom have great potential to enhance our lives so that we can live life to the fullest and not lack for the things which are most important in life.
Granted, we will always see something we would like to have, or own, but that gives us something to strive for; it gives us something to hope for in the future - a goal to work toward. It should not be a reason to be jealous of someone else.
Over time, there will me many pearls of wisdom added and I've decided to create the lens in ascending order, so that the newest pearls of wisdom will be at the top.
Come and see the great pearls of wisdom we will be offered today!
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Spend time alone
You need it. You deserve it, so give it to yourself.
Allow yourself time to feel refreshed as a person so that you can be of good to the people surrounding you on a daily basis.
Spend time alone at one of your favorite places and drift back to that place when you begin to feel overwhelmed.
Smile when picking up the phone; the caller will hear it in your voice.
When you realize you've made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.
If you see smoke coming through the floor in your house, you won’t ignore it and let it engulf your entire house.
If you e-mailed a business report, only to discover you made an incorrect entry, you would correct it and e-mail the amended version.
The same is true of life, in general. Don’t let a situation become worse by ignoring it. Take whatever steps you legally can to correct your actions.
Don't let a little dispute injure a great friendship.
Remember the three Rs: Respect for self, Respect for others, and Responsibility for all your actions.
Respect yourself enough to not compromise your integrity and your morals.
Respect others - their person, their property and their possessions. Respect their points-of-view (even if you don't agree) and respect that they have needs and desires, as well as a past, just like you.
Take responsibility for all your actions, or lack thereof. People will respect you when you do, even if they don't like you.
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People and respect
Do you feel respect is almost non-existent in today's society?
When you lose, don't lose the lesson.
Life can be a great teacher if you are willing to learn from your mistakes.
Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.
Nothing comes easy in life; you must be willing to work hard for your achievements - sometimes sacrificing things along the way - and, often, taking great risk.
The same is true of relationships. Sometimes you have to let friends go so that you can be complete as a couple. Sometimes you have to be willing to make personal sacrifices for the sake of pleasing your partner, whom you love with every fiber of your being.
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When someone asks you a question you don't want to answer, smile and ask, 'Why do you want to know?'
Chances are they will be intimidated/embarrassed by your question and will withdraw theirs.
Talk slowly but think quickly
You want to get your words right and you want people to understand the words you are saying or point you are trying to make. However, you have to think faster than you speak or people will get bored in having conversations with you and will not want to linger long enough to hear what you have to say.
Don’t judge people by their relatives.
No two people are exactly alike.
In disagreements, fight fairly.
Don’t call your date/partner names. Don’t use demeaning words such as stupid and idiot as adjectives.
Deal with private issues without inviting the attention of an audience. Don’t take the chance of discussing private issues - which have the ability to erupt - in social settings.
Disagree as though you love each other and it’s tearing you apart that you are having this disagreement.
Love deeply and passionately.
Yes, you might get hurt but you won’t live a full life otherwise. Sometimes you just have to take a chance and become vulnerable to another person, by allowing them into the deepest recesses of your soul. It’s truly the only way to live life completely - by experiencing the highs as well as the lows.
Never laugh at future dreams and/or goals.
If you don’t have dreams, you don’t have much of anything. Dreaming gives you an additional reason to look forward to tomorrow and all that it may bring; the same is true for others.
Be engaged at least six months before you get married.
Every date is a possible mate.
Is the person you are dating involved in illegal activities? Does the person have an uncontrollable temper? Does the person think solely of him/herself? In summary, do you see characteristics in your relationship that you know you could never live with permanently?
Exercise caution in proceeding forward because every date can, ultimately, lead to a lifetime mate - and you can’t guarantee that a person will change.
A book every dating couple should own
This book covers every aspect of a dating relationship. It leads you from the beginning of your journey - when you are exploring the thought of dating and the types of personalities you may be attracted to. It continues by pointing you toward the direction of finding your perfect mate and provides lots of insight for making a relationship one that has the potential to last a lifetime.
Believe in love at first sight.
The Biblical definition of love cannot be achieved at first sight. However, it’s possible to feel you’ve found the one when you first see that person. You can feel those butterflies swimming around in your stomach and those nerve ends tingling. You can feel as though you can’t breathe properly.
All of these feelings, if mutual, can lead to a first date and, possibly, a lifetime mate.
Love and You
Do you believe in love at first sight?
When you say, 'I'm sorry,' look the person in the eye.
If you look at the ground, it gives the implication that you are embarrassed.
If you look at the sky, it gives the implication you say it because you feel forced.
When you look the person in the eye, it implies sincerity and that you will try your best never to commit that offense again.
When you say, 'I love you,' mean it.
This one is vital. You should never feel intimidated into saying, ”I love you.” If you don’t mean it, don’t say it; you’ll be lying otherwise. If a person really wants to hear you say those words, he/she should be willing enough to ask you what can be done so that you may be able to say those words and mean them. Ultimately, it will enhance both of your lives.
Communicating with your partner
Can you comfortably talk to your partner about any subject?
Don't believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.
People love to make up stories and, when you believe them, it gives them pleasure in making up other stories - especially those intended to embarrass and put down others.
Don’t spend all you have; you never know when an urgent need will arise.
Sleeping is great but you can get too much of it. If you sleep all you want, you will destroy your level of productivity, depression will set in and, ultimately, you may not even want to wake in the morning.
Marry a man/woman you love to talk to.
Communication is essential to any relationship. When you can talk to your partner openly, it goes a long way toward making it a forever after relationship. No subject is off limits, trust is paramount, and fear is non-existent.
On a lighter note, your partner may love football but you don’t know much about it; share his enthusiasm anyway and allow him to teach you a little of what he knows. You may learn to enjoy the game.
Perhaps you love knitting but your partner doesn’t. Allow him to take a look at what you are doing, explaining as you go along. Who knows? He may wish to learn himself and, if you have the patience to teach him, it can be a wonderful hobby for both of you, especially on cold wintry nights.
Ultimately, conversational skills will be as important as any other - if not the most important, especially as you grow older and physiological changes take place. If you continue to talk together, you can make it as a couple.
Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.
Do you enjoy it when people do things for you only because they are forced into helping you? It doesn’t make you feel very valuable, does it?
However, when you ask someone to mow your lawn and they decide to trim the weeds in your flower garden, you are thankful and appreciate that they took the extra measure to help you.
When your son or daughter asks for $20 to go to a movie with a friend and you decide to give them $30, telling them to have fun and, possibly, bring you home some popcorn, it should elicit a smile, at the very least.
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Do you have a few pearls of wisdom you would like to offer?