When it comes to loving your body as a women it can be a daily struggle. Women have so much pressure by social media, tv media, and their peers to look and be a certain way. The media tends to create this unrealistic image of what and how a women should be and look like. We often find ourselves stuck in this situation where we don't feel "good enough" to love our bodies, because we are constantly comparing ourselves to those around us, instead of taking the time to point out what we love about ourselves.
As someone who has struggled with body image issues a big majority of their life, I can truly say it didn't really click for me until just recently. I was getting ready to head over to my significant others parents home for Mothers Day. As I was looking through my closet to figure out what I was going to wear, this huge wave of anxiety came over me. Nothing fit the way it used to and nothing I owed currently made me feel confident in who I was. Clothes were flying in the air left and right as I was trying to find the perfect outfit. Eventually, I had an emotional and mental break down. I was so overwhelmed with how I looked and how I felt in my clothes (that didn't fit the same), that I couldn't even focus on anything else. I went to our living room and broke down crying. After a few minutes went by, my significant other came out to comfort me. He told me that I looked beautiul in whatever I wore and didn't need to be so worried. I was then finally able to find an outfit that I felt "okay enough" in to wear. We then gathered our gifts and jetted for the door.
As we arrived at his parents house and got settled in, all I could think about was how upset I felt. I was so self conscious about how I looked, I couldn't even enjoy myself in the moment on Mothers Day. Once we finished making dinner, I stepped aside into a separate room and called my aunt to wish her a Happy Mothers Day. In which she asked me how my day was going and my answer was not as exciting as hers. There was so much on my mind and I didn't know where to start. I told her that I was strugglig with loving my body and accepting how I looked in that moment. She then stopped me as I was rambling on and said, "Mercedes, you need to learn to love yourself and not care so much about what other people think". Such a powerful concept and yet it was so hard for me to really take it all in. There is so much truth behind this statement. We need to learn to love ourselves and encourage others to do the same. Whether you want to loose weight or not, love your body regardless. Weight is only temperary, loving yourself should be long term.
This whole process of loving our bodies can be hard and sometimes we just need to be reminded that we are accepted and loved just the way that we are. By having others love and accept us, not only does it encourage us to love ourselves, but it encourages us to love others who also might be struggling with the same thing. We are living in a time where people are slowly becoming more accepting of different female body types. The process is still taking place, but we are getting closer and closer to teaching women to love who they are. In conclusion and in honor of Body awareness week, let's encourage each other to love who they are. Because who you are is perfect and you shouldn't have to get validation from anyone else to feel good about yourself. Who you are is perfect and beautiful and it always will be.