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Don't Thank Me

Updated on May 30, 2019

What is Memorial Day?

Most Americans are aware of what Memorial Day is. It is a day to honor service members that gave the ultimate sacrifice. The average American views this holiday as the unofficial start of summer. It means the beginning of camping season. Others use this holiday for parties. Retailers use this day to boost sales.

What most do not realize is that this is a somber time for military families. Husbands, wives, sons, daughters, brothers, sisters have given all to secure the American way of life. These are people that will never experience another family moment again. Fathers and mothers that will never get to see their child laugh and grow. Children that grow up with one parent and never know the other except through stories and pictures.

Battle Cross.  Commonly known as the Fallen Soldier's Cross
Battle Cross. Commonly known as the Fallen Soldier's Cross

"Memorial Day isn't just about honoring veterans, its honoring those who lost their lives. Veterans had the fortune of coming home. For us, that's a reminder of when we come home we still have a responsibility to serve. It's a continuation of service that honors our country and those who fell defending it."

Pete Hegseth

Difference between Memorial Day and Veterans Day

Most Americans will go to a member of the military and thank them for their service on memorial day. There is no harm in that right? No not completely but the major difference is, that Veteran you are thanking is still alive. Memorial Day is for those that gave the ultimate sacrifice.

I am a living Veteran along with my husband. We do not want to be told thank you. Save that for November when its Veterans Day. I would personally you rather visit a military cemetery and just take in what you feel. There is no joy or happiness there.

What you will find are families crying. Spouses and children telling a piece of marble what has been going on in their lives. Parents of fallen Soliders telling a stone how much they miss them. Fellow Soldiers stopping by their battle buddies grave to drink a beer together and talk about that time Sgt. So and So did that one thing to Private What's His Face.

Understand that there is a difference between Memorial Day and Veterans Day. Know that that Veteran you are talking to has seen friends die next to him. He doesn't want your thanks. He wants his friends with him.

Thank you

Thank you to all past service members. You gave all in defense of our nation. Your sacrifice will never be in vain.

To my siblings in arms that I lost: Armstrong, Sweeney, and Garvin. Not only was it an honor serving with you all. You will never be forgotten. Each year I think it will be easier and each year I am wrong.

The difference between Memorial Day and Veterans Day.
The difference between Memorial Day and Veterans Day.

"Our flag does not fly because the wind moves it. It flies with the last breath of each soldier who died protecting it." Unknown

My feelings

Understand that these are my personal feelings on the matter. There are most likely other service members that feel differently than I do on this matter. This is however something I do feel strongly about. Please realize and understand that there is a difference.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2019 jbean21


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