Gifts for Women and Girls
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Guys, here’s some advice for buying gifts for women and girls, birthday gifts, anniversary gifts, and Christmas gifts for your wife or significant other, your mother or sister or daughter. I've included some dos and don’ts; proceed with care.
My first bit of advice is, do not wait until the last minute. Know when her birthday is. Remember when your anniversary is. About a month before the occasion, decide what you’re going to buy her and start the process.
Next, observe. What color does she wear a lot? Does she ever wear yellow? If not, don’t buy her something yellow. When in doubt, go to her closet when she’s not around and look through her clothes. Does blue predominate? That’s a clue that you can keep in mind when shopping. If you go shopping with her and you notice that she lingers over this one item, checking it out, then comes back to it again, and then walks away, you might go back later by yourself and buy it.
Analyze her jewelry. Does she always wear silver? Then do not buy her gold colored jewelry. It won’t go with all her other jewelry. Women usually wear either all silver or all gold; they seldom mix. She will be placed in an awkward position if you buy the wrong metal; she knows you will be hurt if she doesn’t wear it, but it doesn’t go with her other stuff.
What is her birthstone? You don’t know? Go on line and look it up! You can also go on line and look up what type of material you could buy for your wedding anniversary. For example, did you know that the wedding gift material suggested for your first anniversary is paper? You can also search for "traditional" and "modern."
If you buy her jewelry, clothes, or art, make sure she understands that it’s fine with you if she wants to return it for something else. Tell her that you want her to have what she wants.
Do not buy your wife a kitchen appliance, a vacuum cleaner, or an iron; she will take it as a direct insult. Same goes for pots and pans, mixer, miter box, weed eaters, power tools, and the like.
Do not buy her anything practical. You want to buy her something she wants, not something she needs.
Do not buy her a flimsy, sexy, see-through, lacy nightie if that’s not her style. It may just irritate her. She may prefer to sleep in oversized tee shirts. Women sometimes read more meaning into things than you intended. “He’s unhappy with me; he thinks I’m not sexy enough; he is hinting that he wants more out of this marriage.”
Who’s her all time favorite band? Buy tickets for two to a concert. Would she love a day at the spa? Give her a gift certificate to a posh spa. Pay at least enough for a facial and a massage, or even better, a facial, massage, and manicure and pedicure.
Is she consumed with a favorite hobby? For example, I am a mosaic artist and I live, eat, and breathe mosaics. One can never have enough tools, glass and glue. I love it when my husband buys me a gift certificate to Blue Moon Glassworks and I can wander through Jim and Rose's store selecting items like a kid in a candy store. One year my group of friends all went in together and bought me a gift certificate to Maryland Mosaics. It was fabulous. That was the first time I bought Wedi board.
Her best friend, her mother or her sister might be a good source to check with.
The best gift I ever received from my husband was a Jane Yoo handbag. Jane Yoo is a Korean artist who lives in California (I think) and she makes lovely designer handbags, soft leather, painted in soft blues and greys, just wonderful, each one unique. He bought it at a gift shop in Salado, Texas. You can buy them on line. Just type in “Jane Yoo.” Often women come up to me in the grocery store, the post office, or at the mall, and say "I love your handbag! Where did you get it?" And I take pride in saying, "My husband gave it to me for my birthday."
A trip would be a wonderful gift if you can swing it financially. Has she often remarked how much she would love to visit France or Russia, or perhaps Santa Barbara? Maybe she would love a weekend away at a bed and breakfast. If this is what you decide to give her, you line up the babysitter and the pet sitter and make all the arrangements, so that all she has to do is pack her clothes.
Unique gifts tailored just for her are always lovely and show that you put some thought into the selection. For example, if she collects books, a nice first edition by her favorite author would be nice.
An uninspired yet acceptable gift is her favorite perfume. Do not give her a different perfume. She might hate it. Perfume is quite personal. Did you know that it smells differently on one person as opposed to another? Another uninspired yet acceptable gift would be a gift certificate to her favorite clothing store in the mall.
Find out what her favorite flowers are. Do not just automatically send her red roses if her favorite flower is the star lily. I happen to know a woman who dislikes red roses. She is secretly offended if a new boyfriend sends her red roses for Valentine's Day. Send her favorite flowers to her place of work. Her co-workers will be impressed.
So, for her birthday or for your anniversary, make reservations to her favorite restaurant. Take her there, give her an appropriate gift, gift-wrapped, with a card, and you will be rewarded with a loving smile and a kiss and she will tell her co-workers and friends what a sweet and thoughtful husband you are.
Gifts for teenage girls change with the times and with their ages. In our family, we have progressed from Justice, Hollister and Forever 21 to Hot Topics (band merch). We went from My Little Pony, Barbie and American Girl dolls to the iPod Touch, cameras and the Nintendo DS. Now we are at the stage where they just prefer money. They also love to shop on-line. I wrote an article about gifts for teenage girls here: http://silvahayes.hubpages.com/hub/BirthdayGiftListForGirls
This hub was suggested by a fellow hubber, PDXKaraokeGuy. Thanks, Justin. My friend Cathy contributed some helpful advice. Thank you, Cathy.