Weddings & In-laws: Be Smart or Pay!
Hosting a Wedding? Be Smart...
If you're hosting a wedding (meaning you're paying the tab), the worst thing you can do is give the family who isn't paying carte blanche.
How many times have I heard from brides-to-be and their families, "We had a small guest-list on our side, about 50 people, but when we asked for the groom's family's list, it was returned with 150 names. We're devastated!"
Not only are you devastated, you've got a very bad situation on your hands! You asked for their guest-list and that's what you got.
The Budget Constraint that Saves Big Bucks & Hard Feelings!
If you're hosting a wedding, you need to decide ahead of time how many guests you can afford to entertain at a wedding reception.
If the total is 100 (that's 50 couples), for example, then the hosts must decide how the invitations are to be divided. Maybe they'll decide to keep 20 invitations for themselves and extend 15 to the future bride and groom and 15 to the family who's not contributing.
What you've done is set parameters! Everyone involved knows ahead of time how many people they can invite.
NOTE: Should the non-contributing family come back with "additions", just explain to them that they will be responsible for any extra centerpieces, food, liquor, invitations, favors, etc. That will nip the problem in the bud!
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