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How to Be Happy and Single on Valentine's Day

Updated on November 28, 2012

Up until age twent-four or so I was much like a majority of the world: In a constant state of being in a relationship and starting a new relationship immediately after another one ended. In fact from the time I was fourteen until age twent-four I never went more than three months without saying yes to the next person who asked me out. My longest relationship was ten months and the others lasted between six and eight months so I have never been able to enjoy an anniversary. I have noticed the pattern, however, that I tend to start relationships in the middle of winter, usually just a few weeks from Valentine's Day which makes one wonder if I do this on purpose just to have a Valentine.

Is it a Happy Valentine's Day?

If you're like me and have jumped into a relationship just so you won't be alone on Valentine's Day, look back on those days and consider were they enjoyable? I can answer 'no' almost every time.

One example was a girl who I was dating wanted to surprise me by taking me on a trip to Navy Pier in Chicago. It would have been great except she didn't tell me where we were going until we were halfway there and she didn't make sure I had the next day off of work (I had to be at work at 4 a.m.). The first thing we did when we got there was get our pictures taken in a photo booth, after which she asked me if she looked fat. Of course I answered no, but apparently I took too long and she ran off crying. It took me an hour to track her down and when I did she acted like nothing had happened. We ate dinner and then I commented that we should leave soon since I worked in the morning. She threw a fit about how I cared more about my job than spending time with her and to make a long story short, we fought the rest of the way home, I went to work the next morning with two hours sleep because she still wanted to argue when we got home, and the only nice thing to come out of the trip was a photo album she bought for me with a hand-carved wooden dragon on the front (which she took with her when she moved out).

If you happen to have similar memories of Valentine's Day, remember them before jumping into the next relationship just so you won't be lonely.

Single is Not so Bad

It took several incidents like the one I mentioned earlier before I finally decided I was better off single. I've been single for three years now and they've been the best three years of my life. Not that I don't want to be with that special someone, I'm just not settling for the wrong person when the right person is out there waiting for me and the right person can't be with me if I'm busy fooling around with the wrong person. My parents were married thirty-one years and only my father's death separated them. That's the person I want to spend Valentine's Day with: the person who was meant for me, not the next person who will have me.

So all you single people can do what I do on Valentine's Day: treat yourself to your favorite meal, watch your favorite movie, and listen to break up songs so you can remind yourself that being single is better than being miserable!

My favorite break-up song!

Reading material for singles


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    • Mary Merriment profile image

      Mary Merriment 

      5 years ago from Boise area, Idaho

      I love this. Too often we depend on others to make us feel special on special days. But if we decide to treat ourselves to something that makes us feel special, it can fulfill us even more so than when someone else does it. Love should always begin within.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Who says that you must be married to be happy? Not me. Ha..Great article..Cheers.


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