Is Mother's Day a Real Holiday?
Mother's Day in the US
Mother’s Day in the United States is observed on the second Sunday in May. It is to celebrate motherhood and to show appreciation for mothers and mother figures. Many believe Mother’s Day originated in 1870 when Julia Ward Howe encouraged pacifism disarmament amongst women. The holiday was continued in 1907 by Anna Jarvis, who held a private Mother’s Day celebration in honor of her mother and then organized Mother’s Day Work Clubs to improve health and cleanliness of the area in which she lived. In 1908 Anna Jarvis helped arrange a service in the Andrew’s Methodist Episcopal Church in Grafton, West Virginia that was attended by 407 children and their mothers. Andrew’s Methodist Episcopal Church is now the International Mother’s Day Shrine and has been designated as a National Historic Landmark.
Most people send cards and visit their mothers on Mother’s Day. Traditional gifts include flowers, candy, clothes, jewelry, and meals.
I Love Being a Mommy
This year will be the second Mother's Day I have celebrated since becoming a mother. And let me tell you - it isn't for my own benefit that I will be celebrating it. No - it is for my own mother's benefit and for my children. Let me go back and explain my history with Mother's Day a little bit more to help you understand my position.
I love being a mommy and I love my mommy. So what gives? Why do I dislike Mother's Day? To be honest - I dont dislike it but I also dont like it. My first Mother's Day I was super psyched as a new mom and I was happy to celebrate by spending the day with my 2 month old baby girl. Then every Mother's Day after that I have worked. Now before you start to feel bad and throw me a pity party I DIDNT MIND! Seriously. Mother's Day is just like any other day of the year to me.
Working on Mother's Day
I rather enjoy working Mother's Day and being alone. Does that make me selfish? Maybe - but since it's Mother's Day nobody can hold it against me. It IS my day after all. See, I only work two days a week. Therefore I get to be Mother all week long, Monday through Friday and do all the stay home mom things like volunteer in classrooms, read to groups of children in the preschool, attend any and all sporting and scouting events throughout the week and to be honest I AM EXHAUSTED when I go to work on Saturday and Sunday, to work 12 hours each day. BUT my job is a lot easier than being home with three kids. I need my two days at work to recuperate from the week. And if that means missing Mother's Day because it just so happens to fall onto one of my work days - then so be it.
I dont want to be celebrated one day out of the year - I want to be celebrated every day of the year. And technically I am. I have three wonderful daughters who spend time with me, defend me, look up to me, write about me, and love me all year long. I always get special little surprises from all three daughters. One wrote me a hero acrostic poem last July, another picked a bouquet of wildflowers for me out of the front yard in September, and the third asks me to cuddle with her almost daily. THAT is appreciation. On the other hand I also love and appreciate my own mother all year long. I almost die if I go more than a day without talking to Mom. And I think about her all the time. Everything I do or dont do depends on the things Mom taught me while I was growing up.
The Ultimate Mother's Day Gift
So to me, Mother's Day is not a real holiday even though it is recognized as such. Don't get me wrong - I know there are many women out there who love and look forward to Mother's Day and who have surrounded it in family tradition. Really, I think that is wonderful. Keep up the family traditions and do what you want. However, for my own celebration I think the best Mother's Day gift is the one that is given all year long and not just one day a year. Love me all the time and appreciate what I do for you all the time. Tell me how much I mean to you throughout the year. For me, seeing my children grow up into wonderful, responsible, loving, compassionate, successful individuals is the ultimate Mother's Day gift. I do realize some mothers and mother figures will expect a gift - something you spent time finding and money buying. So please at least make these tangible items in addition to the year-long expressions of love and gratitude that you show.
Other Mother's Day Gifts
Because so many people do purchase Mother's Day gifts I also feel like i should add traditional Mother's Day gifts to the mix. Some tradition gifts include:
- Flowers and a card
- A visit
- Spa Day
- Bath beads
And then of course there are the really creative gifts you can give mom or grandma - the gifts that aren't typical like the ones mentioned above.
- Experiences - such as a helicopter ride over your city
- Scrapbook collection of family heirloom photos
- Share/s to her Favorite Company such as Disney, Harley, or Martha Stewart. Be sure to include a plaque to thank Mom for the years you "share"d together
- Movie of images from family vacations - use your own computer and scan images to a disc that can be played in your DVD player