Is International Men's Day Really Important?
Every year, each country celebrates women’s month, some celebrate it in March (USA) and some celebrate it in August (South Africa), we also have an entire month dedicated to breast cancer awareness, this happens every October. But what about men…..?
Yes, men also have an entire month dedicated to them, but no one really celebrates it with them. Every November, men are told to grow out their mustaches in support to raise awareness of men’s health issues, such as prostate cancer, testicular cancer, and men’s suicide. This month has also been called “Movember.” Now during this month there is a day which is dedicated to all the men out there, that day is the 19th of November...
What Is International Men's Day?
While scrolling through my Instagram feeds this morning, Something caught my eye, no it was not the amazing #DeepVeer one year wedding anniversary posts or funny videos, but rather a post celebrating the men in our lives. It was about International Men’s Day.
What is International Men’s Day?
It is a day celebrated every year on the 19th of November, it is a day when we focus on issues affecting men and boys, a day when we talk about male health, improving gender relations, highlighting male role models but most importantly, it is a day when we also focus on gender equality. While International Women’s Day (IWD) is celebrated in over 100 countries, International Men’s Day is celebrated in only 70 countries.
I decided to send all the men in my life a sweet “Happy International Men’s Day” message. You want to know what the sad thing was, none of them even knew a day like this existed! Many people did not know that there is a day for men as well. If you look on your feed on IWD, there will be hundreds and thousands of posts celebrating women, but today…. a handful of only 2000 posts about international men’s day.
Yes we want equality, but how can we get it if we don’t celebrate and thank the men helping us along the way?
I recently read a post about men feeling sad, having bad days and just wanting to be held at 2AM and be told that “hey, everything is going to be okay”.
Mental health plays a very important part in any individuals’ life. Sometimes when things don’t go our way, we tend to get frustrated, if we lose someone close to us, we become emotional wrecks. But men are told not to cry because it is a sign of weakness. men are told to hide their emotions because only women show others how they feel. But men have feelings too. They also want to be cuddled with, they also have mental breakdowns and they too want to cry and let all their emotions out.
I don’t know much about statistics but I know most men have mental health issues (yes I could have googled it, but google only gives the statistics of men who are available for interviews, what about those who conceal their emotions?)
There is not much I can say because mental health is fortunately being discussed across the world everyday. All I will say is, please hold your brothers, friends, husbands and just tell them “it’s ok”. Even if they seem completely happy all the time, you never know what they might be holding back, you never know what kind of day or month they have had, you never know the feelings or emotions that they are going through, men are taught to be brave and never show how they feel, it is important that we show them, that it is okay to let your emotions out and that no matter what, we will support and love them.
Why is it that we don’t celebrate men who empower and support women, why don’t we celebrate those single dad’s who are bringing up their kids on their own, or the brothers who are the only bread winners in the family and even those who work hard to support their families? What about those men who are currently helping women stand up against inequality, abuse and violence?
Let us celebrate these men, let us appreciate and acknowledge what they do for women. Let us talk about their health issues and the violence and abuse they face, let us talk about men getting raped and sexually harassed. And when we talk about these subjects, let us not forget to thank the men in our lives….
Thank You to all those men who are helping women in some way, those who empower us and those who work hard to help us achieve our dreams.
Thank you to those male teachers who don’t take advantage of young girls.
Thank you to the father’s who empower the women in their families to do what they love.
Thank you to the brothers who always stand by their sisters and mothers, those who are never afraid to speak out against the abuse that they face.
Thank you to the taxi driver who actually drops a girl off at her home, instead of taking advantage of her.
Thank you to those lawyers and prosecutors who are helping women put their rapists behind bars.
Thank you to the doctors who save the lives of women everyday.
Thank you to the police officers who assist women in reporting incidents.
There are so many men to thank. This post is just not enough.
If we want gender equality, we have to treat others the same way we would like to be treated. Let us not only celebrate IWD but let us celebrate International Men’s Day as well!
Maybe this post doesn’t even make sense, but I just had to put it out there, that all of us need love and support. So please show the men in your life that you love, support and appreciate them, maybe all they need is a tight hug from you.
If you know of someone going through a tough time, please try to help them as best as you can.
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