Letting Go of Unrealistic Expectations During the Holiday's
Definition of Expectations
1. the act or state of expecting or the state of being expected. 2. (usually pl) something looked forward to, whether feared or hoped for: we have great expectations for his future, their worst expectations. ... an attitude of expectancy or hope; anticipation: to regard something with expectation. Source: Dictionary.com
How I Changed my Attitude about Expectations
I look back at how I dealt with the holiday season once I was in high school and college.My expectations stayed idealistically high for a person who knew Santa was never coming again. I had certain expectations of get together's with friends, what my family would get me for Christmas, and the list goes on and on... If I look back now, it just set me up for sadness and depression because it never added up to my expectations.
I can confidently proclaim that the Christmas season means more to me as an adult than it ever did when I was a child. Of course I would never trade those childhood memories of believing in Santa for anything but I have finally figured out the real meaning of Christmas and the secret of not setting yourself up for a let down. Sure, it took me awhile as I'm in my fourth decade of life, but at least I'm admitting it.
The Christmas season is about your blessings. It's about what you have, not what you don't have. I have learned to see what is right in front of me instead of dreaming of what ifs and missing the good stuff. I think many of us think we should be in different places in our lives instead of fully loving and accepting where were at right now.Christmas is about showing love and compassion to not only family and friends, but strangers and people in need. When you give, you get the biggest gift of all when you see someone smile or laugh in joy. Christmas is about family and loving them where their at, even if their not quite where you think they could be. Christmas is about hope and believing that things will get better. Fully embrace all you have: Anything from a roof over your head, to good friends, family, pets, transportation, good health, better health-your alive, etc...We are alive and the world is our oyster as we speak. Give love and don't hold back. Once we can see all the blessings we have and learn to live in the moment, everything else during the holidays is icing on the cake.Take it from a slow learner like me and your Holidays will Never be a disappointment.
Happy Holidays and God Bless all my friends and family
Christmas Eve- 2011
Be Realistic during the Holiday's so your not Let Down
I was having a conversation with my twin sister the other day about how my expectations of Christmas and the holiday season has changed over the years. As we discussed the topic at length over a holiday cocktail, my sister said, "I think you need to write about this." Please, go sit and relax in your favorite chair with your favorite holiday beverage and I'll share my thoughts with you.
It all began when I was a young girl believing in Santa Claus. There is nothing more magical than thinking a kind-hearted man flies all over the world, dropping presents down chimney's. Oh, the anticipation of Christmas morning was exhilarating and beyond...I can remember how I would swear I heard Santa and his reindeer on the roof every year. My mind would go over and over the gifts Santa would hopefully leave me. My siblings and I would all hunker down in the same room and have Christmas songs playing on the radio throughout the night. Oh, how I miss those days of pure childhood innocence.
At some point in our childhood we learn that Santa Claus is not real. Sure, he is real in the symbolic way but the magical mystery tour is over. We figure out Santa Claus is really mom and dad. How could mom and dad sleep at night keeping a secret as big as this from us. Then add to this their guilt for crushing our little hearts when they decided to tell us we were deceived. Growing up is so painful!
Expectations for the Holiday Season
Have you struggled with high expectations during the holidays
© 2011 Linda Rogers