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How To Celebrate Mother's Day When Your Mom is Deceased

Updated on May 9, 2014

Mother's Day Without Mom


Is your mother deceased? Is this your first Mother's Day without your mom?

Mother's Day can be a difficult holiday for those whose mothers have passed away. My mom died in 1994. I still miss her terribly. The first holidays without my mom were painful; the once joyous day left me in overwhelming grief. I didn't want to celebrate Mother's Day without my mom.

When the pain of losing my mom eased, I was able to keep her memory alive and honor her on the special day for moms. I enjoyed a wonderful relationship with my mother; I admired her, sought advice and shared dreams. She had been my biggest supporter, and her death had left a huge hole in my life.

Celebrating Mother's Day can be painful, whether this will be your first without your mom, or if it has been many years since her death. In time, your grief and depression will turn into healing and peace. Keep reading for ways to stay connected with your mom and honor her memory on Mother's Day.

Photo by Jennifer Akers

2011, All Rights Reserved

My Mom and I at a Friend's Wedding
My Mom and I at a Friend's Wedding

How Can I Celebrate Mother's Day Without My Mom?

Part 1 - My Mom

My mom and I had been close. With only small bumps of typical adolescent rebellion, I grew into an adult and rediscovered my mom. She was smart, funny, creative and my best friend. I was 27 years old, married and childless when she died. Her death was unexpected; she committed suicide. The news shook our family. My whole world somersaulted when my mom left this earth on a unassuming Tuesday morning in October.

I didn't think the pain could be worse than those first months. Then a few months later, pain flooded my first motherless Mother's Day. My heart had stopped skipping its joyful mother-daughter dance. The onslaught of flowery cards, thoughtful gifts, bright flowers and loving commercials bloomed in every store ... the first Mother's Day arrived seven months after my mother's death.

I wanted to skip the Mother's Day holiday. I had spied the perfect gift before reality punched the remembrance that she had died. I never skipped the day entirely since I devoted myself to my grandmother, who at the age of 73, never got used to losing her daughter.

A month after my mom's death, I met a counselor whose mother was gravely ill and died soon after we became friends. We talked about grief, our mothers, and how someone can celebrate a holiday without the honoree.

Part 2, Continued below ~

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Mother's Memorial Necklace
Mother's Memorial Necklace

Mother's Remembrance:

My Mother was the greatest gift to me,

patient and kind she loved unconditionally.

She was all I ever hope to be.

May she rest in peace with you

Lord for eternity.


Note: photo is from Loss of a Mother Pendant currently sold on Amazon.


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Does this loss sound familiar? Have you lost your mother? Do you find Mother's Day a difficult day without her? The grief process doesn't travel from point A to Z in a straight line. Grieving is different from individual to individual. Keep reading for ways to deal with grief.

In healing, you can embrace the holiday and your mother's memory. What are your memories of your mom? How did she make you laugh, smile or feel good? Start with the activities that remind you of her.

My friend used to go to a local restaurant and order steak dinner (her mom's favorite). She'd always wear a white carnation (a symbol to honor a mother who is far away or deceased) on her dress or suit.

Every year, my family gathered (or called each other when we moved farther in miles)on Mother's Day. We reminisced about past Mother's Days, like the one year we surprised Mom, with family smiles and fondue forks, at a new Melting Pot restaurant.

My sister and I inevitably started discussions of "Do you remember when mom made us pancakes for breakfast? She hated pancakes you know...she only made them for us." Sharing memories wrapped us in a loving blanket that we pulled on whenever we need her warmth.

We also visited her grave on Mother's Day and left flowers or plants with little gifts, cards or trinkets tucked inside the planter. We sat and chatted next to her. One year, my sister and I dragged a huge carboard box of old family photos there. Protected under the large Oak, we swapped pictures, laughed about old stories, and embraced our family memories.

It's wonderful and possible to celebrate your mother's memory on Mother's Day. The first Mother's Day holidays without your mom may not be easy. You may even want to skip your first few Mother's Days without your mom, but try to take a little time to think of her, your lives, and your love.

Find new ways to embrace her spirit and keep her memory alive on Mother's Day. Read your mom's favorite book, volunteer for her favorite charity, visit with family or friends, or simply share stories about your mom.

If your mom was your biggest cheerleader, then do something for yourself on Mother's Day - something she would have encouraged you to do. What better way to honor your mom than to grow and celebrate the life she wished for you!

Mother's Day Remembrance Jewelry - Special Gifts for Friends Who have Lost Their Mothers

I hadn't thought of jewelry when my mom passed away, but I really like the idea. I carried her picture in my purse for awhile. If you want something personal to remind you of your mother, I think remembrance jewelry would be comforting and elegant. It's a gift I'd like to buy for myself and my sister ... keepsake jewelry that would put a smile on our faces every single day.

These will also make wonderful remembrance gifts for friends who have lost their mothers. Jewelry is an elegant way to keep their memories alive. Every time they glance at their bracelet or hold their pendant, their mother's love will warm their hearts.

Mother's Day Remembrances: Creative Projects - More Ideas to Remember Mom

How do I remember my mom on Mother's Day? Think about her favorite activities, hobbies, or talents. Did she pass them along to you and other family members? Think of how you can remember her favorites things to do with special remembrance projects.

  • Mom's Garden

    Create a "Mom's Garden" with special flowers or plants. Did your mom make the best orange juice? Plant an orange tree. Did your mom love roses? Plant some in her favorite color to plant. Was your mom a gourmet cook?

    Combine edible plants, like peppers or spice herbs, that she would have loved in her kitchen. Her garden will give you a meditative place to think of her. More pluses: Gardening is good exercise and adds to the health of the environment.


  • Photo Albums

    Whether your photos are super organized or not, find a pretty album to dedicate to your mom. Ask family members for photos they may have - maybe you'll find pictures that you've never seen. Make sure to label photos with dates/places.

    Scrapbooking is extremely popular. If you're not an experienced scrapbooker, find a local class. You'll find friends, learn something new, and make a wonderful creation.


  • Write a Book

    Journaling your memories is therapeutic, and writing a book about your mom or grandmother can bring immense joy. As with the photo album, ask family memories for stories about your mom. Snippets of stories add up to a fuller picture of her life. Family or friends may recall stories that you never heard.

    A journal or book can be enjoyed by everyone in the family plus it will keep her memory alive for generations.


  • Create Mom's Cookbook

    Was your mom a great cook? Did she make family favorites, like spaghetti and meatballs for your sister and chicken noodle soup to fight colds? Before you discard those meals as typical family recipes, remember your mom's recipes are unique to your family. Whenever you need mom's magic, flip through your new "Mom Cookbook" for the best recipe.

    Remember to gather other family members and trade scattered recipes. My older sister once made a mini cookbook of my mom's holiday cookies. The cookbook brings not only delicious cookies but also Mom's touch to our holidays.


Memorial Garden Stepping Stones - Complete your garden with memorial plaques

When you create your memorial garden, think about adding memorial stepping stones. They can be a loving reminder of your mom and all she means to your life. These are some of my favorites because the poems are so touching.

Evergreen Enterprises EG25903 Those We Love Don't Go Away, Stepping Stone (Set of 1)
Evergreen Enterprises EG25903 Those We Love Don't Go Away, Stepping Stone (Set of 1)

Beautiful and colorful stepping stone to remind us that our loved ones aren't truly gone from our lives. They are beside us in spirit and always in our hearts.

 
Broken Chain Stepping Stone
Broken Chain Stepping Stone

The broken chain stone reminds us that our family may have a 'missing link' but the chain will be complete one day in heaven.

 
Roman 47477 Joseph's Studio Memorial Stepping Stone (10.25-Inch)
Roman 47477 Joseph's Studio Memorial Stepping Stone (10.25-Inch)

A simple but elegant memorial garden stone. Though your mom is an angel, she will always remain in your heart.

 
Solar Lighted Memorial Angel Sculpture By Collections Etc
Solar Lighted Memorial Angel Sculpture By Collections Etc

This beautiful angel lights up at night. The scripture reminds us that our loved one remains in our hearts. Lovely memorial sculpture for your garden or at a grave site.

 

Mother's Day Memories: Memory Photo Books

Create Stunning Memory Books from Your Photos and Your Stories

Here's an easy and beautiful way to remember the wonderful times with your mom: Customize a photo book about your mom or create a memory book as a gift. These books are gorgeous!

It's easy! Gather photos of holidays, special events, or favorite natural-posed pictures. Use your digital pictures to create a memory photo book with their huge selection of backgrounds, fonts, layouts, book sizes, and other options.

You're in control: see everything online, change photos or layouts, or even add pages. You personalize your book.

While I had many digital photos, I wanted to use some older photos (stacked high in my photo box) and not on my computer. I simply scanned the photos to my computer and added them to the editing software. If you don't have a scanner at home, you can use scanners at office supply stores, or drug stores like Walgreen's or CVS. If you have a lot of photos, you may want to create a CD to download to your computer.

Different layouts allow everything from simple text, like for names and dates, to full-page for sharing memories.

In my book, I arranged a two-page spread for each member of the family. I included photos, and everyone wrote about their favorite time. I gave suggestions, such as:

" _________ was a _______ person. I will always remember her when she _________... "

"My favorite memory was the time ..."

The book surpassed my expectations - it's a beautiful keepsake filled with my family's memories!

Create a Memory Photo Book

Photo by Jennifer Akers

2011, All Rights Reserved

Mother's Day Remembrance Flower Projects

If you'd like to display your remembrance in an art project, try an art kit. To start my project, I chose fresh flowers, including my mom's favorite - roses - and dried them. There are a couple of ways to dry flowers. You can use crystals specially designed for drying flowers, or you can also use the microwave flower press.

I worked with the crystals; through the process, the flowers lost a lot of their original color. To re-color and preserve them, I used specialty paint for paper crafts since the flowers are so delicate. After the roses and leaves dried, I laid them out on newspaper and carefully spray painted them different colors - yellow, pink, and white for the roses and baby breath, and green for the leaves.

If you don't want to go through the process of drying your own flowers, you could also buy dried flowers, such as rose petals.

I made several and gave them as gift for family members as a remembrance of my mom.

Fill Your Heart ... - Or Another Acrylic Shape for a Great Remembrance Gift

I filled a clear, acrylic heart with a selection of flowers from my mom's funeral. On the inside of the heart, I glued a poem that was read at my mom's service. I made sure the poem was facing outwards and glued as flat as possible in the container.

The heart came with a pretty pink ribbon through the top loop. If yours doesn't, I'd recommend tying a ribbon through the top so you can display your heart or other shaped globe.

Gifts for Friends whose Mothers have Passed Away - Things to Say When Your Friend's Mom Dies

Mother's Day gifts are given to all the females in our lives - mothers, stepmothers, sisters, grandmothers, cousins, daughters, aunts and more. If your friend's mother recently passed away, find a gift for her on Mother's Day. Give comforting and healing gifts.

Even through the painful Mother's Day years, I appreciated friends acknowledging my mother. I welcomed the opportunity to share memories and talk with someone else.

Grieving is a difficult time when others don't know how to express their sympathy. While comfort can be expressed in different ways, I found comfort when people said some combination of the following, when my mom died:

I know how hard this is. I miss her too.

She was a wonderful person. She loved you very much.

The last time I saw your mom, she was ....

I'll always remember what a talented seamstress, artist, .... she was.

She was so proud of you. She's watching you now.

She's not hurting. She's at peace.

If there's anything I can do, please let me know.

Believe or not, even people who said, "I don't know what to say" helped - at least they were thinking of my mother and trying to comfort me, though they didn't have the words.

The worst things I heard:

It's the circle of life. We're all going to die. (It's true, but not comforting as someone's grieving a recent loss.)

Why are you crying? (It should be obvious, but I actually had someone ask me that. She thought "something else had happened.")

My favorite gifts were those that helped me release my feelings in a positive way. Hopefully some of these gift ideas will help you find something perfect for Mother's Day.


More Ways to Honor Mom's Memory - Donate to Mom's Favorite Charity

Make a donation to your mom's favorite charity. There are many worthy organizations that need donations: libraries, local wildlife sanctuary, scouting, schools, missing children's, MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving) just to name a few.

Animals were special creatures to my mom, and she donated to a few charities. If you need ideas, choose one of my mom's favorites.


Donating in mom's name is a wonderful way to honor her.

Angels Helped Me Remember My Deceased Mom

After my mom died, I started to notice angels everywhere -- in a friend's comment, self-help books, angel books, and angel keepsakes. I decided that for every Mother's Day, I would buy a new angel keepsake. The new angel would remind me that my mom lived in my thoughts and heart.

One of my favorites is the Angel's Touch ornament. It has a special place on our Christmas tree every year.

Angels 101: An Introduction to Connecting, Working, and Healing with the Angels
Angels 101: An Introduction to Connecting, Working, and Healing with the Angels

Doreen Virtue is an author, speaker, who helps others connect with angels. She also has a regular column in Women's World, in which she highlights readers' angel experiences. Her Angels 101 book is a fantastic introduction to connecting and healing with your angel's help.

 
An Angel's Touch 2004 Hallmark Ornament QXG5634
An Angel's Touch 2004 Hallmark Ornament QXG5634

My sister gave me this angel for Christmas. Its elegance reminds me of my mom and her love for me. My Angel's Touch ornament is one of my favorites and has a special place near the top of the tree.

 
Simple Joys: Admire Rainbows, Make Your Mom's Favorite Recipe, and Say A Love You Prayer
Simple Joys: Admire Rainbows, Make Your Mom's Favorite Recipe, and Say A Love You Prayer

Honor Mom on Mother's Day

Simple Ways to Remember Your Mom

Remember that honoring your mom can be a simple act: perhaps just sitting quietly and thinking about how much you loved her. Light a candle and say a prayer. Look at her photo and say "I Love You, Mom". These solitary moments connect you both on Mother's Day.

Do what feels right to you. Do something that keeps your mom's spirit alive in your heart. If you have children, do something to continue the circle of love from your mom to you to your kids. If your mom always picked you up from school with a snack tucked beside her, do the same for your kids and tell them grandma had brought you snacks when you were little.

Keep her memory alive by reminding your kids of grandmas' special gifts, like drawing cardinals, making the best brownies, or running the fastest marathon. Remind them of gifts she handed down to them, like her business mind, her pug nose, or her clumsy waltz.

If making books or planting gardens seem overwhelming, slow down and make it simple. It's best to choose something that is authentic of your relationship with your mom. If both of you could barely boil a pot of water, then don't choose to create a cookbook. It's all about feeling and sharing your love.

As I created this lens, my mind danced with many wonderful, funny and loving thoughts of my mom. I miss her still and wish she was as close as a phone call or a big hug. I wanted to do something to honor her. In writing this lens, I realized all she gave me and continues to give me. I think she'd be proud.

I hope all of you find peace and joy in connecting with your mothers.


Photo by Jennifer Akers

2008, All Rights Reserved

Missing Mom on Mother's Day - Help is Available for People with Overwhelming Grief

Do you find yourself sad at Mother's Day?

Missing your mother is normal. Feelings of sadness, anger or depression are part of the grieving process. So many of us want to hop over these negative and painful emotions. I learned that skipping those emotions only delays the healing; we can only fully heal if we go through the emotions.

Reading books about grief and healing may help. Talking to friends may help. Sometimes, you need extra help, like if you experience overwhelming and persistent sadness or depression.

You may need to speak to a professional grief counselor who can help you identify the stages of loss and move to recovery.

Please don't let embarrassment or fear stop you from reaching out. When my mother passed away, I worked as a case manager for elderly clients. I counseled others in my job, but I needed my own counselor to deal with my grief.

I found healthy ways to cope with feelings of sadness, anger and profound loss. Sometimes the extra help or an empathetic, knowledgeable stranger is the best way to cope with the loss.

Know that it is okay to ask for help.

Stages of Grief - Is This Typical?

Unfortunately, grief does not have a timetable, and it does not follow steps 1 through 5 until we're healed. Everyone copes differently. It helps to know the stages of grief, so you understand what is "typical" grief. I say "typical" only in that there are guidelines to each stage. Everyone grieves differently: going through the grief stages in an up and down path, and healing takes various periods of time.

Some feelings may drift into trauma or a deep depression, which requires professional help.You may need to talk to a professional. If you're not sure if your feelings are part of the stages of grief, please find a counselor. You do not have to endure the loss by yourself.

This Mother's Day Lens Was Featured On Squidoo Lens Reviews

Honored to be chosen by Squidoo Lens Review

Squidoo Lens Reviews featured my lens on May 7, 2010. I'm honored that my lens was chosen! Thank you, Kim!

Books on Grief & Recovery - When the Pain Remains Sharp - Get Help in Grieving

Mother's Day can be painful if you are still grieving. If you need help, these books can show you how to heal and thrive after your loss. Mothers and daughters have a unique relationship, and literature can make you aware of how the loss of this special relationship may affect you.

I found great information and comfort from these books. I submerged myself in Motherless Daughters and Gifts from the Sea. I hope you find comfort in one of these books.

Kids' Books on Grief & Recovery - Help Kids Deal with Grandma's Death

Remember kids need help grieving too. When Mother's Day looms, kids may not know how to deal with their feelings about missing grandma. Here are some books to help.

I keep my son's connection with the grandma he never knew by telling family stories, showing photographs and remembering her in our daily life. These books can help kids that miss a grandma they knew.

How Parenting is Shaped by Your Loss

Like some women, I lost my mom before I became a mom. My grief revisited in full force after my son's birth. When I needed advice about my newborn, I longed to talk to my mom. I was grateful when friends offered their support and advice.

I adored my son and watched him with fierce love and amazement. I wanted to ask my mom if her grandson and I shared similar light up the world smiles, sleeping through the night, walking late, loving books and drawing. I could only recall a few stories my mom told me about myself as an infant - "You were a happy baby - always smiling."

I had so many unanswerable questions. Had she breastfed me or were bottles "in" when she was a new mother? Had she cried about her lack of mothering skills trying to soothe my colic? What would she have told me about preventing her Houdini-like grandson from escaping his high chair? I mourned not having her in my new adventures.

As my parenting skills grew, I told my son nuggets about his grandma --- "She was a wonderful artist. You have her creativity." --- or of traditions that now held special meaning. The circle of love wrapped around the three of us ... before I even realized the memories held us together.

Whenever I think of my mom, I wonder what life would be like if she was alive now. Would she spoil my son with the latest Spiderman video game? Would she teach him about career skills in art or business - or both? Would the woman who doted on me, and hated aging, enjoy being a grandma? The pain of losing her softens when I am able to share her spirit with my son.

Motherless Mothers shows how our parenting is shaped by the loss of our mothers. Author Hope Edelson is an incredible writer. She presents her research in helpful and caring prose. I highly recommend her work.

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A Story From My Mom's Service

Arranging my mom's funeral was difficult. Not difficult in the actual planning because she had a will and made her wishes known before she had died. But we were in shock and trying to find all the other things that become vitally important at a funeral: items for the funeral home, like my mother's picture, clothes, makeup, and trinkets to leave in the coffin; getting flowers; arranging family photos around the funeral home; meeting with the pastor, etc.

One thing I really wanted was a copy of a poem my mother had read to me about a month before she passed away. The poem was titled "Success". My mom wondered if she could say she had a successful life. I thought she could. I so loved the poem and even made a copy that I kept in my office.

Of course, under the emotional stress of the event, I couldn't find that copy. Not only couldn't I find the copy, I couldn't remember the title or author. I remembered it was about giving to others, how to judge a successful life, and that my mom and I had talked about it. I really wanted it read at her service.

With a heavy heart, I told the pastor that I couldn't find the poem. The family would be happy with whatever he found fitting to say at my mom's service.

It was hard to stay focused, during the service. I can't even remember everything running through my head as I sat in the front row with my sister, husband, best friends, and other family. The whole event felt surreal. The pastor's speech was comforting, and I tried to hold my emotions as best as I could.

Halfway through the service, I heard the pastor say that we can judge if a person has led a successful life if ....

Yes, it was the poem "Success" that I hadn't been able to find for her service.

As the pastor read the passages, I couldn't hold my tears. I wept in amazement. Angels, my mom, God - it all came together in a way more meaningful than if I had found the poem and gave it to the pastor.

I do believe my mom's life was a success.

I keep the poem handy, so here it is for you. Remember your mom is with you, but the connection is in a different way than you've been used to. Find comfort in knowing you can still reach her.

Success Poem
Success Poem

Success

To laugh often and much;

To win the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children;

To earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false friends;

To appreciate beauty;

To find the best in others;

To leave the world a bit better whether by a healthy child, a garden patch, or a redeemed social condition;

To know even one life has breathed easier because you have lived.

This is to have succeeded.

~ Ralph Waldo Emerson

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2012, All Rights Reserved

Tell us about your mom and how special she was - Was she a gourmet cook? Did she love hiking? Here's a chance to share.

Are You Proud of Me, Mom?

I've often thought this question over the years. In this lens, I mention I feel my Mom is proud of me, particularly in writing this lens for her and to help others missing their moms.

I found another lensmaster who lost her mom far too early and then worked her life to patch the missing parts of life. She wrote a touching lens and tribute with songs that may uplift you too. Please be sure to visit:

Dear Mom, Do I Make You Proud? by Ruthi Cox

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      Carla Rose 15 months ago

      To My Dearest Mother,

      It was on February 6th, 2016 that your usual Good Morning e-mail was oddly absent from my inbox. I called you again and again that morning, and you did not pick up. I was desperately afraid. You had always gone above and beyond to be there for me, and this lack of communication was highly unlike you. I knew that something had to be horribly wrong, which is why I called 911. EMS came and found you, lying on your favorite spot on the couch, unresponsive. You had no pulse, and you weren't breathing. Out of nowhere, you had died. When I spoke to you on the phone on the night of February 5th, I never imagined that would be the last conversation we would ever have. When we exchanged emails later that night, I never imagined that those would be the last emails we would ever exchange. We talked, texted, emailed, every day, and I visited you every weekend, and sometimes more often than that. You were an integral part of my day to day life, then, without warning, you weren't there any more, at least not in the sense of being a living, physical presence in my life.

      According to the medical examiner, the autopsy showed very bad heart disease. We had no idea. I thought that you would be in my life for many years longer. I know that you thought the same. You were too young to die. There was a thirteen year age difference between you and my father, yet you shuffled off this mortal coil less than two years after he had. I know how much you missed him after he passed on. I hope you two have found each other again.

      I've had more than my share of challenges in life. I don't like to think where I'd be at this juncture had you not been there to guide and support me all these years. It has now been three months since your very sudden and unexpected death. All I can do is battle to survive each day as best I can, because what the heck else can I do? I have not found my way in this world without you, and I don't know that I ever really will. But then, does anyone really find their way in this world?

      Fortunately for me, the memories did not die with you. Your body sadly expired, and yet, your memory lives on, alive and well in my heart. I know that you are with me every step of the way as I go about my day. Your memory sustains me, supports me, and strengthens me.

      Thank you so much for everything you did for me in the years we had together. I know that you've always been prone to second guess yourself, and dwell on the mistakes. It's true, you weren't a perfect mother. Nor way I a perfect daughter. Your mistakes and imperfections pale in comparison to all the ways you enriched my life.

      Thank you so much for all that you have given me, Mom. Thank you for all the unconditional love and support, all the heart to heart talks, all the humor and laughter. All of that I will hold close to my heart for the rest of my life.

      Happy Mother's Day, Mom. I love you and I always will.

      In loving memory if Judith Lois Wechsler Rose (November 5, 1945- February 6th, 2016)

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      Libby 15 months ago

      I just lost my mom 2/8/16, so this is my 1st Mother's Day w/o mom. We had such a close relationship and I miss her so much. I'm trying to make this easier on my dad too since they were married 65yrs. I think we will go to their house and work in the flower beds and plants rose bushes (yellow) in her honor. Come when you can, eat when you are hungry kind of day. Def not a sitdown dinner.

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      JenniferAkers LM 3 years ago

      @RinchenChodron: Wow, what an intriguing thing for her to say! Thank you for visiting and sharing that memory with us.

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      JenniferAkers LM 3 years ago

      @CrossCreations: That's true - it's hard for a few weeks leading to the holiday as we're faced with the endless commercials, gift-giving ideas, mom tributes, TV-themes, etc. I'm sorry it's difficult for you too. Thank you for visiting and leaving your kind comments. Sending blessings to you.

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      JenniferAkers LM 3 years ago

      @Nancy Hardin: Nancy, it's a wonderful idea to create something to remember our moms. I love the idea of planting the tree too. We did that to honor our grandma when she passed. Made me happy, as the years passed and the tree grew. The book you wrote sounds wonderful - therapeutic while you created it and a gift of memories to comfort you over the years. You're right about the pain - thankfully, we have good memories and friends to lessen the pain. I feel lucky that my mom and I were close; I know not everyone enjoys that kind of relationship. Happy Mother's Day to you, Nancy! Many blessing to you and your family!

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      JenniferAkers LM 3 years ago

      @mbgphoto: Mary Beth, I'm so sorry about the passing of both your mom and mother-in-law. How difficult to lose them both in the same year! Sending prayers for you and your family. Thanks for visiting and sharing.

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      JenniferAkers LM 3 years ago

      @Paul Ward: Thank you, Paul. Yes, I do think you blessed this before. :)

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      RinchenChodron 3 years ago

      I remember her saying "I know I'm dying, what an interesting experience!"

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      Carolan Ross 3 years ago from St. Louis, MO

      Mother's Day is tough for me as well, one of those 'Hallmark Holidays' I often dread, then feel relieved each year when it is overwith. Excellent ideas here and ways of treating a tough topic with compassion.

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      Nancy Carol Brown Hardin 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      My Mom passed away in 1995. We planted a pink dogwood tree in my sister's yard in Indiana, because Mom loved those trees. I also wrote a book, self-published for only our family. Each living child (me and my sister) got a copy, and each grandchild at the time of writing got a copy. I still have mine. My sister passed away in 2010 in Indiana, I have no idea where here copy is, or if any of the other grandchildren still have theirs. But the two things helped me get through it. The book itself, was great therapy, it was like I was finally coming to grips with the fact that she was no longer with me. The pain of loss is so intense and it does take a while for it to lessen, but we never forget those we've loved and lost. Thank you for all the ways to celebrate Mother's Day, without your Mom.

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      Mary Beth Granger 3 years ago from O'Fallon, Missouri, USA

      Both my mother and my mother-in-law have passed away this year. It will be a sad mothers day without them. Thank you for your helpful suggestions.

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      Paul 3 years ago from Liverpool, England

      Revisiting. I do hope I Blessed this in Angel days.

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      JenniferAkers LM 3 years ago

      @memyselfni: Dear Ashley, thank you for your kind comments about my page. My condolences on your mom's passing. I can relate to the heartache and wanting to talk to my mom on the not-so-good days and the awesome days. Please remember to be kind to yourself. Grieve, write in a journal, listen to your songs and know you are not alone. I like to think that although my mom is not physically here, she is still beside me in spirit, so I can talk to her and she sees what's happening in our family's life. Big hugs in dealing with your first holiday. I find comfort in sharing our grief, healing and our love of our moms. Bless you.

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      memyselfni 3 years ago

      Thank you so much for your post. Very much needed as i too get ready for my first mother's day without my mother. She passed away a month and 6 days ago. So this is all so new and not getting used to it like i would like. Listening to songs about mommie has helped but not the way i would like. Life wont be the same until we are together again. Which wont happen.... ugh... sorry. It sucks when you are having a horrible day and the only person who can make it better you can't even talk too. I wish i could hold her hand one last time, hear her sweet voice, give her a hug that wouldn't end. I long for her kiss and her touch. Could never do wrong in her eyes. She loved me UNCONDITIONALLY. Man a mother's love. I wish i didn't have all these holidays to deal with. Mothers day, father's day (she was mom and dad) my birthday her birthday (UUUUUUUGGGHHHHHHH) and all the other holidays Im not ready to acknowledge yet. I keep hearing that it will get easier but i don't think my heart wants to accept it. It seems like she is on vacation. lol. I hope she knows how much i love her miss her. She was the best @ everything (of course) and she always had a smile on her face. She stayed looking beautiful and i know she is now. To all the women and men who are going through a mothers day without a mom you are in my prayers. May GOD keep you close through this difficult time.

      Thank you for reading. sorry for ranting. lol. new to this.

      thanks again,

      ashley

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      JenniferAkers LM 3 years ago

      @debbie-yates-18: Thank you for your kind words, Debbie. My condolences on your mom's passing. I'm glad you found some comfort in this page - I hoped it would help others who are missing their moms. I'm sure that your mom is very proud of you, and grieving isn't something that follows a linear, forward, upwards line. Take the time you need, and remember to be kind to yourself. You don't have to be 'creative' this Mother's Day - simply remember some of the good memories and your mom's wise words. My blessings to you and your family.

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      debbie-yates-18 3 years ago

      Thank you so much for the wonderful ideas. As I prepare to have my first mothers day without my mom I am in tears. I can't imagine this day without her. I don't know that I will be able to do anything this year to remember her properly and she will be upset with me for not being strong. She always told me that this too shall pass. It has been 10 months since she unexpectly left us. I just don't know that I can be strong this year. I just don't know that I can be creative this year. Maybe next year.

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      JenniferAkers LM 3 years ago

      @Ruthi: Dear Ruth, Thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful comments. Many of my friends are now dealing with their aging parents, so I know exactly what you mean. I miss my mom so much, especially as my teen son grows into a young man. I know they would've had a great relationship. At least on this Squidoo page, I was able to find an avenue to share my experiences with others, letting them know they're not alone...that's a huge comfort to me. Blessings to you.

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      Ruthi 3 years ago

      Oh my goodness, Jennifer, you have shared such love and pain and set my own emotions afire, too. What a wonerful tribute to your Mom and to motherhood, and being a daughter. I lost my mom when I was 20. Here I am at ann age when I should be my elderly mother's caretaker and she is not here for me to fill that role. She missed out on so much of life, but... she is in a much better place that where she was when alive, that is the saving grace.

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      JenniferAkers LM 3 years ago

      @lesliesinclair: This is a special lens to me, and I really appreciate your thoughtful comments. You have a great idea about sharing and opening up the lines of communication. What a treasure that would be - to extend the love and bond. Thank you so much for visiting and leaving your thoughts.

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      lesliesinclair 3 years ago

      What a rich treasure you offer to all women who have lost a mother and to the others who will someday experience such. I think it would be helpful to our daughters to talk about our own mothers, eventually to talk about the effects of their loss on us, thinking it may open up lines of communication that would otherwise be blank slates to them.

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @karmanGhia: My condolences on the loss of your beautiful mother. We were about the same age when our moms passed. I still think of my mom often too. It helps to share memories with someone, just as you have here. Thank you for sharing and your kind comments on my lens.

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      karmanGhia 4 years ago

      Wow - this is a great lens! I can totally relate to this. I lost my beautiful mother unexpectantly when I was 27 years old. She was everything to me - and 17 years later I still think about her everyday. I miss her dearly. Thank you for everything you put into this lens!

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @mrdnf5m: My condolences to your friend. I hope your friend finds some comfort and resources here to help through the grief and healing. Thank you for passing the lens along and for sharing your thoughts - I appreciate it!

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      mrdnf5m 4 years ago

      This is a really good lense and I plan to share it with a friend of mine's who recently lost her mother and is having a difficult time dealing with it. This lense is sure to help.

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Eleni ~ Thank you so much for your kind words. I was touched by you, and your sharing your memories of your mom. I think my mom is proud of me; she always told me that she was. I felt unconditionally loved and supported by her. My greatest cheerleader, always pushing me to higher goals. This page is very special, one of the first I wrote here. I know how hard it can be and hoped my story and journey would help others who are missing their moms on Mother's Day. I'm humbled by everyone, like yourself, who visits this page and finds help and a virtual friendship to help each other through this difficult time. You touched my heart too, Eleni - thank you for your heartfelt comments. Please feel free to visit and/or comment whenever you need support. I'm always around.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      @JenniferAkers LM: Thank you so much Jennifer. I am so grateful to have found your page. So many beautiful ways to help cope thru this difficult loss. I love the idea of writing a book, with input from people in my mom's life. I love when people tell me stories about her. She was truly loved.

      Your sharing has helped me so much today. Thank you for reaching out. I feel your hugs and I am grateful for your support.

      I know your Mom must be so proud of how her daughter is helping others to heal. What a beautiful tribute to her.

      May you find peace and joy in the memories of your mom this Mother's Day.

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Eleni, my condolences on the loss of your mom, Rose. She sounds like a wonderful person. I am glad you found my page and I hope you are able to use some of the suggestions to help you grieve and heal. Sending you hugs and blessings for this Mother's Day as you honor your mom's memory. I know she's proud of you and watching over you.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Thank you so much for your story. It gives me comfort in coping with the loss of my mom, Rose. She was my best friend, my soul mate and we did everything together. She was selfless, kind, thoughtful and generous to everyone. So many things have become apparent now that she is gone. Like her name, Rose, she was full of love. She always told us how much she loved and appreciated us.

      I never gave much thought to what life would be like without her. I knew everyday was a blessing, and tried to live in the present moment. I still can't believe my beautiful mom who was so full of grace is gone. I think about her every minute of everyday. I cry for her and my heart is broken. I kiss her picture and talk to her every night before I go to bed.

      I am trying to live my life with love, grace and compassion in her honor.

      Mother's Day will be especially hard. We loved to plan together all the holidays, birthdays and anniversaries. I plan to honor her on this 1st Mothers Day, but I know it will be hard. She was my angel and now she is with the angels watching over me.

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Debbie ~ my condolences on the loss of your mom. I appreciate your visit and sharing memories of your mom. It's a special bond with our moms, especially when they give so much of themselves. It's good to feel the love, the connection, and the gifts she gave so generously to you. Hugs and blessings to you this Mother's Day.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      My Mom passed in 2011 - I cry each day for my loss - she was such a strong woman and I always felt love and acceptance from her - I think that is one of the greatest gifts she gave me -

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Tameka, My condolences on the loss of your mom. From your note, I imagine that your mom was very proud of you and felt blessed to be your mom. I completely understand about dreading Mother's Day -- and the days leading up to it, when commercials, stores, etc. are announcing Mother's Day gift ideas. My sister and I talked about being envious of friends who still have their mothers too. I am glad that you were able to share special moments with her before her passing. Though the holidays and birthdays can be difficult, I hope you can find comfort, as I have, in some of the ideas listed on this page. I also found it helps to to keep the bond and honor her spirit, though she is in heaven. My prayers to you and your mom.

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Joane, My condolences on your mom's passing. I can only imagine how hard it's been to lose her unexpectedly on the holiday. It sounds like she was a wonderful mother and person. I know the holidays, especially, Mother's Day can be difficult. Be sure to do what you've been doing -- what a nice idea to do volunteer work, just like your mom -- and reach out for support from family and friends. My prayers to you and your family.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      My mother passed away last Feb. She was my best friend, advisor, and greatest supporter. I was blessed to be able to tell her how proud I was to be her daughter. But I still miss just as much today as when she passed over. I never imagined my life without my mom and still have a very hard time dealing with her loss. This is all still new to me and I am dreading Mother's Day...all the commercials and cards, flowers. I get so envious of my friends who still have their mothers because I just would give anything I have just to hear her voice again or touch her face....pray for me and God give me strength to make it through this one....Thank you for your story. It was very touching and it gave me some very good ideas on how to not dread the holiday so much but still celebrate my mom, even if she is in heaven.

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      My Mom was a typical Italian Mother.She made the best eggplant, meatballs and Italian Wedding cookies(these passed down to her from Her Mother).She died this past Christmas Eve 2012 unexpectedly.She could also sew and crochete(everyone in the Famiiyand Friends owned 1 or more of her scarves).She lived with me for 19 years after the death of My Father who also died unexpectedly. I miss her more than words, but I am doing voulenteer work at a local farm for aged Equine where she loved to go and feed the horses.Her birthday was 2-28 and I truly had a heavy heart leading up to that day, but did things she enjoed on her birthday and plan on doing something similar on this my first Mother's Day without her.I am sure I will be sad as will my Brothers and the rest of our Family.

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @Aunt-Mollie: Yes, this page is very special to me. Thank you for recognizing it. I hope others find some resources and comfort here too.

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @VspaBotanicals: Enjoy all the wonderful times with your mom, today and in the future. It sounds like you two are close....what a treasure. Bless you and your mom.

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @AnaGajic LM: My condolences on the loss of your mother. I know how it can seem like a lifetime ago and only yesterday ... all at the same time. It sounds like you were very close to your mom, as I was to my mom. It's comforting to remember happy experiences and moments. I agree, she'll always be a part of you.

      Thank you for visiting and sharing memories of your mom with us. Bless you.

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      Ana 4 years ago

      This is a very touching story. My mom passed away five years ago, and although they say that time heals everything I still miss her as much as I missed her on the day she left. However, when I remember all the joy she brought into my life, it gets a bit easier. She was my biggest treasure, and she'll always be a part of me.

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      VspaBotanicals 4 years ago

      I thank God for my mother everyday. This story is so touching. It will help so many. Wonderful lens.

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      Aunt-Mollie 4 years ago

      It's very difficult on this day when you've lost your mother. I appreciate very much all of your suggestions and I know they are from the heart.

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @gin001: My condolences on the loss of your mom. I think of my mom almost every day too. It's amazing how much she influenced my life today. Thank you so much for your visit and kind words.

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      gin001 4 years ago

      This is a great lens... it touched by soul. My Mom passed away in 2011. Not a day goes by that I don't think of her. She was a wonderful Mom.

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @nanafisher: Thank you so much for sharing your precious memories of your mom. I'm sorry for your loss...I know how hard it can be, especially when you have a close relationship. Be patient with yourself as you grieve, and cherish the times when you feel your mom's presence. Hugs to you and your family.

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      nanafisher 4 years ago

      My Mother was one of 13 brothers and sisters. She and her sisters (9) girls, they loved to sing gospel and were blessed with beautiful voices. I found a CD that was made from a tapped cassett in 1976 of my monther and her sisters singing together, an hour of gospel songs. That is what they did when they got together and all the food and hoopla was over, they sang gospel songs together. I still have my mothers piano, she used to sit and play everything she knew and I would sing with her. When she was in hospice last july/Ausust 2012, she and I sang hr favorites as I played my auto harp for her. She was one in a million, I miss her so much everyday. She passed on 08/07/1. I feel her presence when I play her piano, but I'd rather have her singing with me.......

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @anonymous: Thank you for visiting and for your kind words!

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Amazing lens! I really like this lens

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @AdityaAgarwal: Thank YOU so much for your visit and nice comments. The lens is special to me. :) Blessings to you and yours!

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      AdityaAgarwal 4 years ago

      heart touching lens you shared thanks a lot for these...God bless you

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      JenniferAkers LM 4 years ago

      @ElizabethSheppard: Oh, yes, your mother was so right!! My mom was an artist as well, though she hadn't ventured into pottery. I agree - handmade items, made with love and spirit, hold something more special than an assembly line produced product. Thank you so much for sharing a story about your mom! I appreciate your kind words and Angel Blessings - (This lens is one from my heart and means a lot to me) -- thank YOU!!

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      Elizabeth Sheppard 4 years ago from Bowling Green, Kentucky

      My mother was a potter. She made some awesome pots and talked about "thie beauty of imperfection." That is, (for example) anyone can find a "perfect" mug made by machine. It's the little imperfections in something handmade that makes it special. I loved this lens so much. I will be re-reading it often. ::::blessings!::::

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      Lori Green 5 years ago from Las Vegas

      Really great lens. I lost my mother 21 years ago. It was only 23 days after my first child was born. It was one of the hardest times of my life. Thank you for the lens.

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      Paul Turner 5 years ago from Birmingham, Al.

      Great lens. I did something similar with a page a wrote called Fathers Day For The Fatherless.

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      Rose Jones 5 years ago

      Thanks for sharing this with us, Mother's Day can be a hard holiday and it helps when we stick together. Angel blessings.

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      kmyangel 5 years ago

      I'm a very lucky woman because both of my parents are still alive ! I am very sad when i meet people that aren't so lucky :(

      I hope that your lens will give some comfort !

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      Sandy Mertens 5 years ago from Wisconsin

      My mother passed away a couple of years ago. Nice lens.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      My mother passed away 4/12/2012 a few weeks ago. This is my first mother's day without her and I miss her so much. She was my best friend. She was in the hospital for 38 days and I am so thankful that God allowed my siblings and I all these days to spend with her before she left us. I know she is no longer suffering and is at peace and I find some comfort in that but I can't help missing her.She was the most kindest and wonderful person I have ever know and the best Mom. I will Love her forever!

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      OliviaDaughter LM 5 years ago

      My mother passed in 2010. I miss her so much ! Thanks for sharing.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      My mom passed away 8 months ago; she had cancer and heart problems, but I believe that incompetent medical professionals supervising her 'care' helped hurry her passing. I helped care for her for about three years, and even though we never had a particularly 'close' relationship, I miss her terribly. This being my first Mother's Day without her is extremely difficult. No one acknowledged the possibility of this, except one lady at church, not even my fiancé, my sister, or my stepfather. I am angry and depressed and trying not to lash out at people who, for their own reasons do not have the capacity to respond in a caring manner. I found this site by accident, and think it wonderful, and I wish better days for all those experiencing the same feelings. Thank you for this lens!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      This site has given me hope! I was wondering what I could do to remember my mother to make me smile, more than make me sad. I lost my mother very recently, on April 27, 2012. She took her last breath and passed away in my arms at the tender age of 64. This was really hard because her birthday was May 2, and mother's day was right after that. My mom was the type of mother that shared her love to everyone in her presence. I miss her terribly, but I know she is always here in spirit.

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      Spiderlily321 5 years ago

      Excellent and very beautiful lens! I am very sorry for your loss.

      Thank you very much for sharing

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Thank you for this site! Mom passed away in July. She struggled to breathe because of interstitial lung disease. I try to take comfort that she is with the Lord and free of pain. This is a very difficult day and I miss her so much. Again, thank you for your words!

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      My mom passed away 10 years ago, when I was 5 years old. Although this is not my first mother's day without her, it is still painful. When i was younger did not understand the concept of death very well, and I am now starting to feel the grief I denied or hid for so long and I am realizing what it means for me to not have my mom. Thanks for this post, it was really helpful to me.

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      bigjoe2121 5 years ago

      Wow. what a wonderful lens and tribute. My mother and I were never close. She had something broken inside her that kept me at a distance. She died three years ago, and honestly I don't miss her at all. :( But I like the angel-her and the heaven-her. Sometimes I can feel that :)

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      My mom passed away four weeks ago tomorrow, just shy of her 79th birthday. The loss is overwhelming. She was the kindest, most gracious and most selfless person I have ever met. She was my best friend. I am so, so fortunate to have had her as my mom.

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      efriedman 5 years ago

      Will link to this lens from my Missing Mom Mothers Day When Mom is Absent lens

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @rallo-smith: My condolences on your mom's passing. It's hard when we lose someone we love, especially when we have such a close relationship as you mentioned. What a wonderful tribute to have a CD of favorite photos with your mom's favorite song! Thank you for sharing that idea with us. My best to you and your family on Mother's Day.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Dear Robert, my condolences on your mom's passing. You are so young, and I can only imagine how hard it has been /continues to be for you. I hope you have support to help you through this time and maybe some ideas on this page will help you cope through Mother's Day. I'm sure your mom is proud of you. Thank you for sharing your memories with us. My best to you.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Dear Tina, my condolences on your mom's passing.It sounds like you had a close and loving relationship. I wrote this page five years ago because I wanted to share my feelings of missing my mom on Mother's Day. I hoped it would help others who felt the same and found the holiday to be difficult.

      I appreciate your kind words, and I'm glad the page helped inspire you to see the holiday in a different light. I think it's comforting to share your memories with others who are in similar circumstances.

      By the way, the poem "Mother's Remembrance" is from remembrance jewelry sold on Amazon. It touched my heart too.

      My best to you and your boys on Mother's Day.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Dear Vanessa, thank you for sharing memories of your mom. It sounds like you had a close relationship, and I've no doubt she shared her beauty and strength to you. I'm sure she is watching you and is proud of you. My best to you and yours on Mother's Day.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @MarilynThompson: My condolences on the recent passing of your mom and mother-in-law. Sharing memories is a comforting way to spend Mother's Day and remember the special moms in your life. My best to you and yours.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @RuralFloridaLiving: Thank you for sharing your memories of your mom. She sounds like a determined woman and a great mom. My best to you and yours on Mother's Day.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Dear Coryna, My condolences on the loss of your mom, especially at such a young age. I can imagine Mother's Day is difficult, and I understand how you can miss her more as you grow older (I've had a similar experience as I grow older). I'm glad that you have a wonderful family to support you. My best to you and your family.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @srsddn lm: What wonderful memories of your mom! She sounds like a proud mom and one that did everything in her power to make your life happy. I'm sure she is proud of you and all you've become. Thank you for stopping by and sharing your story of your mom.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @JaneEyre9999: Thank you for your visit and kind comments. My condolences on your mom's passing. I think a video collage sounds like a wonderful idea! I've found those special types of remembrance projects bring us closer to our loved ones and bring much comfort. Thank you for sharing your idea with us.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Dear Ann, Thank you for visiting and sharing your wonderful memories of your mom. She sounds like a special woman, and I'm sure she is proud of you. My best to you and your family.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Dear Ruth Ann, How wonderful that you have so many precious memories of your mom growing up and with your kids. Thank you for visiting and sharing your special mom with us. My best to you and your family.

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      rallo-smith 5 years ago

      My mom passed in 2007 she was my best friend. I have a CD of all the families best memory photo's with my mom's favorite song playing during a slide show of the photo's. Love the idea of the book with favorite memories.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      My mom died a year ago (I'm 14 as of writing this) it's been hard without her. I will never miss her cooking. RIP Audie Heyward, always loved.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      My Mom passed away seven years ago this June. Even though I have two boys, in my mind, Mother's Day is about her; not me. Her love for me was unconditional. I miss having that. I still love to honor my Mom whenever I get the opportunity. I fully enjoyed reading this...thank you to whoever wrote it. I especially love the poem 'Mother's Remembrance'. I also loved the unique ideas of celebrating Mom though she's only here in spirit. Thank you again to whomever wrote this. It has inspired me to look at Mother's Day differently. :0)

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      my mother passed away 14 years ago,a week after mother's day.feeling kinda sad today.I couldn't have ask for a better mom,she was Godfearing & kind,the best friend i ever had,when she died i was at her bedside,i think she passed some of her innerbeauty & strength on to me in her last moments on earth, i love you mommy,i know one day we'll meet again

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      Marilyn Thompson 5 years ago from Washington State

      It's been one year since my Mom passed and one and a half since my mother-in-law passed, this will be a Mother's Day spent sharing memories

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      RuralFloridaLiving 5 years ago

      She was a hard-working woman who did what needed to be done regardless of how tired she was.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      My mother was taken from me when i was 9 years old. This november it will make 13 years and some days are still hard. Mothers day being one of them! I have a 4 year old who never got to know her grandma, my sister as well in a sense never got to know our mom as she was only 5 when it happened. I miss her more and more each day as i'm getting older it seams. But i have an awesome family who helps each day get easier and easier!

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      srsddn lm 5 years ago

      It is long back now. I still cherish the memories. The type of patience shown by my dear Mom was exemplary. Though not educated herself, she would make sure that there was no hurdles in my schooling. Days were tough as it was all walking during those days, going to school or purchasing books from a nearby city. All walking and sweating. But the touch of my Mom made it all sweet and I am still inspired by those days struggling days.

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      JaneEyre9999 5 years ago

      Very touching lens! My mom has been gone eight years. I am going to make a nice video collage of photos to honor her.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      Eleven years ago tonight is when my Mom passed away. I can still recall every detail of that whole day. My mother raised 5 kids by herself after my father left when I was nine. She worked tirelessly to make sure we all knew how much she loved us and she could make a "normal" day into something special. She loved Christmas... she taught us the traditional Christmas story and we were all in the Christmas play at our church growing up. She played the piano and we all learned to love all kinds of music because of her. I could come up with all kinds of memories to share but I will stop there. There isn't a day that I don't think of her and wish I could talk to her "just one more time" but that will have to wait. Until then, I know her spirit is here with me and she is looking down on me from Heaven. Mom, I miss you terribly and I love you even more. I look forward to seeing you again.

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      anonymous 5 years ago

      My Mom had a the voice of an Angel. She was more musically inclined than anyone else I know to this day. She loved to play the piano and later played the organ, both of which we had in our home. She also sang with Sweet Adelines and a local Civic Chorus. I can say we enjoyed both of those groups as we sang together in the Civic Chorus and later in my life I sang with Sweet Adelines. She could cook and can, sew, and garden. She worked a full time job most of her life, but still found time to spend with family and friends. She loved her grandchildren as no one could and spoiled them rotten! I miss her laugh, her smile, but most of all I miss her voice. You never get over the loss that's for sure. I was 26 when she passed away suddenly and unexpectedly, that was 1982, it never gets easier. I miss you so much Mom, and can't wait to be with you again one day.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Dear Sherry, My condolences on the loss of your mom. It sounds like she was a wonderful mom and that you two had a very special relationship. That's something to cherish and honor every day.

      Thank you for sharing the creative ways you remember your mom on special holidays. I love that you tell your kids that their grandma is here as your family's angel. It's wonderful to keep those wonderful memories active in your life, as you experience all the good things that happen since she became an angel (Congrats on your upcoming marriage!) I share stories with my son, too, so he feels a relationship, even spiritually, with his grandma.

      My best to you and your family. Thanks for stopping by and sharing your suggestions.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Thank you for your visit and sharing about your mom and mother-in-law.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: I like your thinking ... honoring our moms could be done every day. :)

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Dear Amanda, My condolences on your mom's passing. And I don't think your art piece sounds cheesy at all. I imagine that you'll work through a lot while you're creating the piece and it'll will bring you much comfort and peace. I'd love for you to stop back and share what you've created, so we can share with other readers. It's a wonderful idea!

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @surfer1969 lm: Thank you for your kind comments and sharing about your mom.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Dear Cindy, My condolences on the recent passing of your mom. I remember that I didn't want to celebrate my birthday either. With your first Mother's Day coming, remember to be kind to yourself as you go through the emotions.

      Gravestones differ on what types of things are allowed; I'd check with the cemetery on possible options (flowers, wreath, potted plant, memorial plaque / stepping stone / photo plaque come to my mind, but again, check with them so you're buying something that can be placed). My best to you, and my thoughts of you on Mother's Day.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @designsbyharriet: It seems like there is always something else we could have said, and looking back, these missed opportunities can sadden us. I imagine that your close relationship and time together spoke volumes to her. You can still talk to your mom, just in a different way than before her passing. Remember the good times, her love, and think of all the good things/ knowledge/traits she passed on to you. My best to you and your family.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @karMALZEKE: Thank you for your visit and kind words.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @anonymous: Dear Karla, My condolences on the recent loss of your mom. It sounds like you were very close. I know how hard losing a mom can be. Remember to ask for help if you feel you need some support.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @goo2eyes lm: It sounds like your mom was very special and raised wonderful children.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @Loraly: Dear Loraly, I truly understand. While I hadn't yet had my son, I was still responsible for others in my life (namely, my grandma and uncle). YOU do count, and you're hurting. You need to find a support person / place to lean on and help you through this difficult time -- I'd suggest looking at grief counseling or support groups in your area. Some Hospice organizations offer grief counseling open to the public. I hope you find a local organization that can guide you through the grieving process. It sounds like your mom was wonderful - and remember, you are too! Find someone experienced in grief / loss to help you through this. My best to you.

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      JenniferAkers LM 5 years ago

      @wrapitup4me: Thank you for the kind words. I'm glad the lens helped you with ideas to comfort your friend.