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How To Substitute Resolutions With New Year's Projections

Updated on December 30, 2014
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Travis is a contributing analyst for Seeking Alpha. He maintains a central hub of stock market information at DIY Stock Investor.

What is on your mind?

We likely think more about what to change in other people.  (Old debunked Phrenology chart)
We likely think more about what to change in other people. (Old debunked Phrenology chart) | Source

A New Year's Projection Could Be Fun

The New Year's resolution will contain pledges to lose weight, save money, spend more time with family and the list goes on. These resolutions are notorious for being broken. Throughout the year, we probably spent more time thinking about what other people ought to change.

There are popular television shows centered around judging entertainment acts: The Voice, American Idol, and America's Next Top Model. They exemplify how to observe others and suggest fixes. We seem to like this aspect of criticism as much as we like the display of talent. Perhaps more so.

Creating a New Year's resolution requires a sense of introspection. This can be difficult due to our natural self-preservation to deflect or project. Change is not easy.

If All Else Fails: Project ;)

The tradition of New Year's resolutions has traditional barriers. One of them is that we shirk introspection. So tryout some New Year's projections instead.

Defense Mechanisms

Projection: "a defense mechanism that involves taking our own unacceptable qualities or feelings and ascribing them to other people."

Deflection: is a mechanism that changes the topic of concern or redirects the focus of concern towards someone else's condition.

I propose drawing from both of these mechanisms. Although my examples may not be pure projections, they are within the spectrum of projection-deflection.

Since it can be uncomfortable to contemplate our faults or shortcomings, we will likely use a defense mechanism when faced with resolutions. We have also formed a habit of choosing resolutions that our peers will accept if broken. This is an example of unconditional positive regard. Your friends are prepared to console you if you lose the 15 lbs or not. Although comforting, it can also be of little aid towards change.

Fireworks to Celebrate the New Year

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Introspection is difficult. We tend to judge others with less inhibition. A projection will likely set off some fireworks.This year celebrate with a projection. If only in jest.Not sure what to change for the New Year's Resolution? Give suggestions for others.Projection: "a defense mechanism that involves taking our own unacceptable qualities or feelings and ascribing them to other people."
Introspection is difficult. We tend to judge others with less inhibition. A projection will likely set off some fireworks.
Introspection is difficult. We tend to judge others with less inhibition. A projection will likely set off some fireworks. | Source
This year celebrate with a projection. If only in jest.
This year celebrate with a projection. If only in jest. | Source
Not sure what to change for the New Year's Resolution? Give suggestions for others.
Not sure what to change for the New Year's Resolution? Give suggestions for others. | Source
Projection: "a defense mechanism that involves taking our own unacceptable qualities or feelings and ascribing them to other people."
Projection: "a defense mechanism that involves taking our own unacceptable qualities or feelings and ascribing them to other people." | Source

Peers and Unconditional Positive Regard

After raising awareness that we tend to fail our New Year's resolutions, we have dually noted that peers are likely to enable us. Is this really a bad attribute? After all, we don't want to surround ourselves with fair weather friends or jerks for that matter.

Our friends and acquaintances tend to offer up Carl Roger's unconditional positive regard: "showing complete support and acceptance of a person no matter what that person says or does." If Roger's whole system of humanistic self-actualization is utilized, there is a chance for change. However, most people will stop at the simple support and acceptance phase.

In contrast, one could use a drill sergeant to motivate change. This process will surely exclude soothing words, warm hugs, and compliments for missing goals.

Regardless of the system, if it is used more than once and fails, we are likely to grow weary of even trying. Hence why many have lost the appetite for New Year's resolutions. If you project change towards a teammate then the goal is likely to rope you in too. Some groups/teams have a better grasp on the balance between positive reinforcement and yelling at you when it's needed.

Group Fitness & Competition

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Popularized by CrossFit, team workouts can help meet weight loss goals. So give this as a projection to your friend.Competition can create anxiety, but you can train as a team and compete as a team. Make a New Year's projection to your team.Group fitness can include individual stations, which still allow for group motivation via lateral support.Also popularized by CrossFit; unconventional exercises. This might be a new resolution/projection that wont fail.
Popularized by CrossFit, team workouts can help meet weight loss goals. So give this as a projection to your friend.
Popularized by CrossFit, team workouts can help meet weight loss goals. So give this as a projection to your friend. | Source
Competition can create anxiety, but you can train as a team and compete as a team. Make a New Year's projection to your team.
Competition can create anxiety, but you can train as a team and compete as a team. Make a New Year's projection to your team. | Source
Group fitness can include individual stations, which still allow for group motivation via lateral support.
Group fitness can include individual stations, which still allow for group motivation via lateral support. | Source
Also popularized by CrossFit; unconventional exercises. This might be a new resolution/projection that wont fail.
Also popularized by CrossFit; unconventional exercises. This might be a new resolution/projection that wont fail. | Source

Projection Role Play: What Not To Do

Reggie is a new teacher at a local high school. He has followed the old teacher adage, "don't smile 'til Christmas." While he is about to abandon this stone faced approach due to a lack of difference in classroom conduct, he realizes the alternatives are equally frivolous. The school is simply out of control and the principal is to blame. Reggie attends the in-house New Year's Eve party. The staff begin to profess resolutions:

[Principal] I'd like to thank everyone for their hard work this semester. I know that this class is a bit unruly, however you are doing a bang-up job.

[Reggie] Yes, having an 80% refusal rate from the substitute hot-line has made for a difficult time.

[Principal] Well, I think everyone knows that some prefer to teach at the charter schools and there are a few other unknown factors (blame shifting). What is your New Year's resolution (deflection)?

[Reggie] That you would be a more active principal and less incompetent. I am also setting a goal for you to stop leaving work an hour early each day.

Class Dismissed

It is entertaining to contemplate the alternative idea to setting and breaking annual promises. The tradition has good intentions and not all end poorly. Discussing our draw towards defense mechanisms and the tendency to project can be helpful in identifying tools to manage it. I have proposed a mixture of sarcastic ideas with ones of sincerity. I hope the sarcasm can be identified. I do not recommend projecting upon your boss. I do think highly of supportive groups and reaching goals together.

"They Don't Let You Quit..." [Teammates]

© 2014 t aaron brown

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