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Rude christmas gifts

Updated on November 28, 2009






Is,this right or wrong?

While I was driving home today I was listening to national public radio and they were airing a story about how rude it is to give cash for christmas.The guest on the show had a problem with stores being allowed to keep the money from unused giftcards that expired after so many months as is allowed in many states.He had the Idea that it would be better to have any unused giftcard or any unused balance on giftcards go to charity instead of to the store that sold the cards.

I can understand the correctness of not buying household items unless the person specifically asks for them,and I can see buying them a giftcard for which they can buy them on their own if they wished to.However I personally would rather have cash with where I can pick the store where I want to purchase those items myself.Limiting where I can buy them seems " to me " to be rude.

I remember when growing up,our parents never thought very much about wheather we wanted something in particular for our birthday or even Christmas.Money was tight so those things were not a priority for them.I can understand that better now that I am a grown man with bills to pay.But children whose parents can't afford everything don't always understand that,so they might feel deprived ,because they may see their friends or extended family members getting things they don't or can't have.Nothing new there.Keeping up with the "Joneses" is as old as the hills

Sometimes we are reminded that there are millions of people in the world going without the necessities of life much less gifts.That's true,so maybe we should be more mindful of that fact.

It,seems to me that we as children almost always got items we needed on our birthday and christmas.Our relatives got us clothing too.We got toys for christmas,but I can't remember us kids getting much of anything we really wanted Our parents usually guessed what we might want and they usually guessed wrong.I can only guess that our parents thought if they asked us what we wanted,that they couldn't afford it,or they thought we might get spoiled by getting what we really wanted.we never asked them outright if that was the case.As I recall ;not liking what we were given was considered to be rude and thoughtless and being spoiled .If,expectation without gratification is considered spoiled,then What can expectation with gratification be considered? "Spoiled rotten" ? That may well be true but,you would think you could expect to have at least one Christmas where you could get what you wished for.

Why,is it wrong to expect something special that everyone says this particular Holiday is for?

I know ,it was designed by merchants in order to give themselves a christmas gift of profits of which christmas is the biggest prospect,among all the other holidays,of which seem to be increasing exponentially as the years go by.

Do you consider it rude to give cash for a gift?

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Do you like to get clothing as a GIFT , feel free to comment as to, or from, whom and why,and how

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      6 years ago

      Giving money as a gift, rude? Come on, give me a break. I love to receive money, or clothes a gift. I consider that to be a very heartfelt gift.

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      9 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

      These days money for the necessities would be appreciated by those who need them much less anything else.

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      9 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      I think it is better to give money, the amount you can afford and let them get what they want, that way they get what they want. You should give some one what they want not what you think they might want. As for giftcards it think there are a waste of time, because the person you are giving the card to might not like that store or have the time to make a special trip there or they may feel it isn't worth it. They probably would only go if the amount was big. No one ever thinks or feels that it isn't the amount or the gift but the thought. Some would be glad that you thought of them. So do what you feel like and know you can't please every one.

    • someonewhoknows profile imageAUTHOR


      9 years ago from south and west of canada,north of ohio

      A very good point Don.

      There is a difference between someone who can't afford to give gifts that cost much,but are nevertheless heartfelt,that have that personal touch especially if,they are from children,neighbors, friends,sibilings and parents and those that can afford to buy something that's expensive..It is appreciated just the same for the thoughtfulness and happiness it gives the giver rather than wheather it's what you wanted or how much it cost them.

      Even expensive items are not necassarily appreciated by some for practical or even personal reasons.Which Illistrates the point that it's not necessarily how expensive it was,but how heartfelt the thought with which it was given.

    • greatAmerican profile image


      9 years ago

      Number one,, Money?

      Rude? I guess I am rude, since I stopped packing up packages, sending them wherever my family is, years ago.

      So much easier to write a check, or even a gift card,

      and pop it in the mail. I can even send more $ since I don't have the expense of UPS to deal with.

      If I am rude, why haven't my kids complained? Hey if they don't like it they don't have to cash the check...

    • Green Lotus profile image


      9 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      Any gift "should" be appreciated but if it's something that's going to wind up in the basement or garage it's sad and just a waste of money. Sometimes gifts given without much thought or effort are recognized by the receive as being just that - so it all depends on whether you care for the gift giver. It's so true that it's better (and easier) to give than to receive.

      Nice Hub!

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      9 years ago from Windermere, FL

      Nice Blog, Someonewhoknows. But I don't think any gift is rude. If someone gives me one of their pet rocks, or something very small or obtuse, I would take it and shut my mouth, except to thank them. I grew up poor. We knew that any gift we got was from the heart. You, obviously, did not. I respect that. I also liked your take on gifts. It was a good Hub, especially because it was so timely. Don White


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