Second-Time+ Brides: Bridal-Party Rules that $AVE Money!
Second-time+ Brides: Bridal Party Rules Will $AVE You $$$!
Second+ weddings are different. The rules change, as well they should! There are traditions that remain in the realm of the first-time bride and one of them is the bridal party, in the traditional sense.
By that I mean that formal and semi-formal weddings usually have large bridal parties--on average, five bridesmaids and five groomsmen. Now add up the flowers you'll need for 10 people, and then add on their dates and/or spouses, whom you'll be feeding (not to mention the beverages they'll consume) and you've spent a boat-load of money!
How the Second+ Wedding Changes the Game-Plan!
When it comes to second+ weddings, it's only appropriate for the bride- and groom-to-be to have one attendant each. That means a maid or matron of honor for the bride and best man for the groom.
There are no groomsmen/ushers (just have friends who are attending the wedding do the honors), bridesmaids, flower girls or ring-bearer (or their parents, whom you had to invite the first time, if they weren't family members).
Just think of the money you've saved!
Bridal Parties and Other Pre-Wedding Celebrations
Traditionally, the maid (matron) of honor hosts a shower for the bride, while the best man hosts the bachelor party. But when it comes to second+ weddings, showers are out.
If you'd like to have a bachelor/bachelorette party, why not? But in this case, everyone should pay their own way, even the bride- and groom-to-be.
* Engagement parties do not require guests to extend gifts to the engaged couple, but most do. Therefore, for second+ weddings, I don't advise them. (Again, think of the money your family has saved.)
Big Bridal Parties = BIG Money!
Second+ weddings give you the perfect out when it comes to those BIG bridal parties. Heck, it's just not appropriate--as you tell your friends/family when they ask why they are NOT going to be a bridesmaid or groomsman.
Second+ weddings should be as beautiful and meaningful as the first time you walked down that glorious aisle! The problem today is the economy and money... and the rules for second-time+ weddings give you the opportunity to $ave more than you ever imagined!
P.S. Visit Deborah McCoy, AAWP: www.aa-wp.com