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It’s Valentine’s Day YaY - Not
Valentine’s Day has finally arrived…Yay! The day to celebrate love and being in love is finally here. But for many the yay doesn’t come. Single on Valentine's Day is a reminder that love isn’t in your life. That your life feels loveless. You hate this day! It’s the stupidest day of the year, and only reminds you that you’re alone - as in mateless.
You’re not where you thought you’d be romantically, spiritually, physically, or career wise. The love of your life you expected to share this day with must have taken a wrong turn because when you turn to look there’s no one beside you. They either got lost on their way to you or they slammed the door to your heart on their way out when they left.
If this sounds like you keep reading because I wrote this article just for you. I knew this is how you’d feel today. The ideas I’m sharing in this article are my sincere message directly for you. My gift to you. How to celebrate and love yourself on Valentine's Day.
Your heart is closed and you just want the day to end - but wait.
What is Valentine’s Day and Where did it Originate?
I hope you don’t want a complete answer to this question. Where and when Valentine’s Day originated is unclear. Some say the Romans started it when they killed two priests, another version is when they killed a dog and another animal and hit women with its carcass, and then they were a couple for a year. Another version is Feast day of Saint Valentine; the celebration of love and affection.
It makes sense that a priest would initiate a movement involving love and kindness right? And then someone figured out how to make it a way to make money so something beautiful was commercialized and turned into an expensive money grab.
Valentine’s Day: We’re going to go with the day to CELEBRATE LOVE and AFFECTION because it sounds wonderful,and we’re wondrous beings so it makes sense.
The Great News for you About Valentine’s Day
What’s great about making this your day to celebrate YOU is you don’t have to be in a romantic relationship to celebrate love and affection. In fact, the notion that couples should use this one day to celebrate their love is silly. Love and romance should be celebrated every day.
Another flaw with the commercialized version of St. Valentine’s Day is the focus on couples because there are millions of single people in the world. How dare they! Am I right.
Couples, Couples, Couples
How Annoyed Does Valentine's Day Advertising Make You?
Valentine's Day for Singles How to Celebrate YOU
I have some ideas and things you can do today to show love and affection for yourself and others. This means it’s time for you to sit up straight and prepare to broaden your smile bigger than The Joker’s (without drawing lipstick on your cheeks, but you can if you want to).
Today is your day to celebrate that Valentine’s Day is here especially for you.
All I ask is that you share 10 minutes of your precious life with me so I can show you:
Roses are Red and Violets are Blue and There’s no Other Creation Smarter, More Brilliant or Lovable Than you.
If you want to look at someone amazing and desiring of the greatest love I want you to look in the mirror.
What I’m about to share with you is for anyone who is alone, in a bad relationship or you’re just not feeling the love today.
Love and Affection Toward Yourself on Valentine's Day
You’re blessed to be alive and the world is blessed because you’re in it. I just wanted share this with you before we get started.
Put your hands on your heart. Do you feel your heart beating? Press harder and actually feel your heartbeat for at least thirty seconds. Do you know what it’s telling you?
Your beating heart is telling you that you’re alive. You’re a living creation. Your heart is beating and pumping your blood through your veins. It’s amazing how it does that.
You’re not here by accident. You started as a tiny seed and grew - you weren’t planted but I’m not getting into details, you know how you were made. While you were growing you developed hands, your brain developed, your internal organs, and then your nose. Eventually you were this beautiful creature and no one had to do anything.
You were born and the miracle of your life began. That is amazing, and a reason to celebrate YOU.
You're Surrounded by Natural Abundance
Abundance is around you. There are trees, flowers, birds, grass (even if you live in a city) and if you’re lucky like I am a body of water - river, stream, a lake. Have you ever thought about everything a bird needs to survive is there for them. They have no one to care for them and yet they have everything they need, and there are thousands of bird species with most of them getting along and living in harmony. This is amazing.
But what’s even more mind boggling is you are one of the chosen ones to live on this beautiful earth. Love and celebrate the simple things and get excited that you’re part of something bigger than yourself, and you’re just as spectacular as everything else that belongs to the earth.
Gratitude is a celebration of love and affection. Celebrate what you have - what you've created in your world. Write a list. Even if you think you don't have much you have an abundance. People who literally have nothing won't have access to this article. If you're reading this, you have what you need.
How to Feel Gratitude
I adopted a minimalist lifestyle a few years ago so I'm not a fan of excess but I'll share parts of my gratitude list. I live in Penticton, British Columbia and it takes me about two minutes to walk to the picture below. I’m surrounded by abundance - nature and commerce - car dealerships, hotels, and businesses.
My freezer is full of chicken (yum), and my fridge is full of healthy foods. My studio apartment has everything I need, and more. I only have a three minute walk to work. Anything I want to learn is literally at my fingertips - and I spend hours learning. I have the freedom and time to write whenever I want.
This winter has been very mild. I am warm, healthy, happy and blessed. I have surplus in my bank account.
Although there’s tons I still want to experience I can always choose to love and appreciate what I have. You can do this too. I'm thankful everyday my life is the way it is.
It took a lot of trial and error, removing myself from toxic people and environments, so I could figure out who I am, what i want, who I want to become and what I want to give back.
What if Everything Right Has a Set Time?
What if everything that's meant to happen happens at the perfect time - when it's supposed to. Thus, you haven't met your soulmate because you're not ready. There's something (or many things) you need to do first - that is figure out what you want, who you want to become to live the life you want. So you can be in the right place at the right time when they are.
The past hasn't worked out or you wouldn't be reading this. Chances are that you're not living your authentic life (your day consists of a bunch of things you don't want to do). There's something you want to do with your life and it's always in your mind.
But, you ignore it and tell yourself you can't do it for many reasons. I'm going to talk about this after I tell you a story about Jim Carey to help me explain what I said above.
Jim Carrey Story
When Jim Carrey was an unknown actor he wrote himself a cheque for 10 million dollars for acting services rendered. He kept it in his pocket and 2-3 years later he found out he was making 10 Million dollars for Dumb and Dumber.
What i found interesting was that it didn't happen a week after he wrote the check to himself. It took a few years. There were events that had to take place before the ideal came and he earned what he set out to do. Then he was at the right place at the right time.
- He had to get better at his craft
- Farrelly brothers and Bennett Yellin had to write the movie
- They had to find a producer, director, etc.
- Jim's agent had to hear about it
- He had to go for an audition(s)
I am not Discussing the Law of Attraction
You’re meant to be alone because you’ve got plans to make. A new life to build. One where you’re the protagonist (main character of your life story) who’s kicking ass. It’s not because you’re flawed, because you’re truly not. It’s because there’s something you're not doing that you want to do.
You're the Author of your life story - The best reason why you should love and celebrate YOU!
This is your time to harness your power (we'll talk about this shortly). Perhaps there’s something you have to learn about yourself to find your perfect mate. You don’t want to waste any more time on the wrong mate do you?
Something Inside you Wants to get out
No, it's not an alien. It's the part of you hiding under your self doubt, toxic people around you, self talk,ego, etc.
Something inside of you is screaming to get out. You have a vision of who you want to be. What is it? How do you want to live. If you've gotten this far in the article you still believe in something. There’s something in your heart and you felt it when you had your hand on your heart. I hope it's beating faster (in a good way).
Why are you so fortunate to be here. What’s special about you? Figure it out - remember today's the day to celebrate and love YOU.
In an interview Vishen Lakhiani, entrepreneur, author, and speaker talks about how to find a way to figure it out.
- What experiences do you want to have? Focus on the end goals and write them out. It doesn't matter how crazy or impossible they sound.
- How do you have to grow as a person to do what's on your list. What skills need sharpening, what do need to learn? Write out this list.
- How can you give back?
When you figure out the answers out to these questions you have goal list.
What gets you excited when you think about it? Spend a lot of the day thinking about what makes you excited.
How to Uncover and Change Negative Thoughts About Yourself
To see what your negative self talk is try this exercise: Think about doing something that scares you. Not something that’s really scary like following a serial killer, but something like public speaking.
Then make a plan to do it. When you're planning what negative thoughts come into your head? Then ask yourself if they're true. Can you come up with factual proof that they're true and not lies you or someone else has fed you.
If they're true work on overcoming them. If they're lies then start overriding them with the positive truth.
You're Powerful - Celebrate and Love YOU
You’ve got more power than you know. You were given the gift of life. It’s rare that you’re here. The quote below is from a video which I will put at the end of the article. I suggest you watch it.
You are the most magnificent, the most remarkable, the most splendid being God has ever created. But you do not know who you are, and you think you are a great deal less. You are the only one who can decide who and what you really are and who you want to be.
Go to the highest thought about yourself. Imagine the you that you would be if you lived that thought every day. Imagine what you would think, do and say and how you would respond to what others do and say. Imagine the you that you would be if you lived that thought every day.
Everyone who has ever done something great such as Steve jobs for example. They’re not smarter or better than you. We're all born equals. They just believed and exercised the power within themselves.
Remember - You have this same power within you.
Single Valentine's Day - Love and Celebrate YOU
This is your day to take five breaths in and consider why you’re here. There is a reason. Think of all the people who died yesterday, and yet you live. You’re special and there’s a reason. What is it? You must be a little curious. Why were you created so effortlessly? What is the universe waiting for you to do next?
Are you Ready?
How to Celebrate and Love YOU on Valentine's Day
Stay off social media. Today's the day you celebrate and love you. Social media will be full of people pushing their thoughts and posting photos of what they want people to think today about their life.
Forget yourself and get to work.The strongest feeling of love comes when we do something for others. This is your day to be someone’s hero. What can you contribute. In the next section I have a way you can do that.
We're naturally creators. Create something for someone else and give it to them; or do it anonymously as a surprise or a secret.
Discover yourself today using what I've shared in the article. Break away from the pack. Mediocrity is a fallacy.
How to Celebrate and Love Others on Valentine's Day
Acknowledgment - What Everyone Want
Love the unlovable - who society deems unlovable. Wherever you live you probably have wonderful souls without a home. Remember they’re human and their struggling too.
Perhaps life is kicking them more than it is you. They didn’t sleep in a bed, they might not have showered, and when they’re hungry they can’t just walk to the fridge and grab something.
They rely on the kindness of people like you.
Remember today is a day to celebrate love and affection. Love is selfless and how they got there is none of your business. Think for one second how you could make their day by just acknowledging their existence.
As a core need we all want to be acknowledged. You can say Hi, wish them the best, pray for them if you’re the praying type. You can give them money, or food but you’ll make them feel in their heart too if you showed them kindness. Maybe you'll get as much from the interaction as they do and you’ll find your new path in life.
I have a story to share that I think you’ll find interesting. I used to work at a shelter that was a safe place for people under the influence of drugs and/or alcohol or other substances. Regular shelters won’t allow people who are under the influence.to sleep there.
Most of the patrons lived on the streets because of their addictions. Part of the shelter was a detox. When they needed a break - for their bodies or their sanity, they could go there for a few days. It was like a dorm with a few beds in each room. I’m not sure how many because I was never in them. When I worked my shift in that area our job was to sit with them and get them anything if they needed.
One evening I realized I was sitting watching the TV show Friends listening to them talk about politics, and what was going on in the news. I thought it would be so cool to freeze time so they could stay safe, warm and sober. I had seen many of them sleeping on park benches and in the street. Many had also asked me for spare change when I went to work at my day job in a law firm.
They are people with hopes, dreams and opinions. Many have broken hearts. We’re all in this life together.
Get some chocolate hearts and go to a coffee shop frequented by seniors. There’s many lonely seniors. Even if they aren’t lonely they’d still love to be appreciated for just being alive and thanked for how they’ve contributed to
People You Don't Like
Is there a teenager, young adult or neighbor whom you don’t like. Maybe someone at a shop you frequent who tends to be grumpy more than they're happy. You can reach out to with kindness. If nothing else you'll feel good doing it and you'll freak them out. They will remember what you did and they will look at you differently.
It might not repair any issues, but they won't look at you the same again.
Forgiveness - How to Love and Celebrate YOU
I saved this for last because it's a biggie.
Anger and resentment toward someone else eats away at your happiness. Show yourself some love and forgive them, or begin forgiving them. Have you heard this quote before?
“In fact, not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.” Anne Lamott, Traveling Mercies: Some Thoughts on Faith (1999)
Your anger doesn't affect them but it eats a huge part of you leaving less of you to love and celebrate on Valentine's Day.
The following may help you:
Dr. Joseph Murphy, author and New Thought minister, ordained in Divine Science and Religious Science said this about forgiveness and I'm paraphrasing. I forgive myself for harboring negative and destructive thoughts and I release my former associates to God. Completely wishing for them all the blessings of life. Whenever I think of them I will immediately affirm I have release you. God be with you.
How to Love and Celebrate YOU
I hope this article helped you today. Please remember that you are here for a reason - many reasons in fact.You are a chosen one, the mystery lies with why? Once you figure that out your life will truly take off.
As I mentioned I'm placing the video below. If you watch the video, please let me know what you think in the comments.