Taking Back Valentines Day
This morning I woke up to great cuddling. After making a concerted effort to just have a great morning, the wife, Jamilyn, says, "Happy Valentines Day!"
Yep. I forgot it was Valentines Day. I don't really dig on Holidays the way most people do. I feel like we have commercialized them so badly, the point is overshadowed. And V-Day is about candy and "love toys".
Then I see the post by my friend, Ashley, this morning. She commented on how we also make v-day about success in relationships, or being a failure at love. She goes on to say that when we talk about love it shouldn't be about one person. Love is not an exclusive thing. Everyone special to us should be in our hearts, as they truly are on other days.
Thank you, Ashley for the reminder.
A holiday is what we make it. It's personal. It's not lived by everyone in the world within the scope of your life. It's your life. And you are the one living it.
So, I say to you, who are frustrated, alone, or sad on a day like this:
Join me! I am taking this holiday back. Screw the social idioms. I will love and express love as I see fit. Without silly social dogma. Without requirement to buy stuff. Without the requirement to be with someone else on a certain day. I love me. Loving me is all I need to be successful in love. Truly loving oneself is all the love one needs. This will bring happiness. Not identifying oneself by the love someone else brings you. The romance follows. And THAT romance is truly loving.
And for that missing love, sometimes it's just on the horizon. Wait for it. It will come when you love yourself. "I just haven't met you yet."
© 2013 Cole Ikerd