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"Thank-You" Notes: Rules for the Wedding!
"Thank-You" Notes, What the Bride-To-Be Needs to Know!
To me, there's nothing more important when it comes to wedding etiquette than the proper use of the "thank-you" note.
Family members and wedding guests bend-over-backward when it comes to weddings. They may be obligated to purchase shower and wedding gifts, pay for travel and lodging to and from the wedding, buy the appropriate garments to attend in style--and may give the couple an engagement gift, to boot!
That's why these wedding guests and family members, who have put so much time, effort, and money into your wedding, be shown the appropriate thanks, and it must be done timely!
As the Engagement Progresses: Send "Thank-You" Notes!
There are many pre-wedding celebrations that the bride's family and/or friends will host for her as the engagement progresses. And at many of these celebrations, she will receive gifts.
The key is to keep a log of all gifts received. List the party's date; who gave the gift; what it was; and the date the thank-you note was sent.
Always send thank-you notes within three weeks of receiving a gift! Let your family members and wedding guests know that you are appreciative of all they do for you!
"Thank-You" Note Rules
Before the wedding, you may buy notes that have the bride's monogram on the front, or the simple words "Thank You".
At no time should you buy a card with a thank-you verse printed on the inside. That's tacky! You are the one who must write her personal thanks for the gift you've received. That's what makes thank-you notes memorable and special.
Keep your log, and always send the notes within three weeks of receiving your gifts, whether for engagement, shower or wedding.
Thank-you notes may be sent from the bride, or from the bride and groom.
"Thank-You" Notes After the Wedding
Once again, all thank-you notes for gifts received at the wedding, must be sent within three weeks of receiving the gift.
The thank-you note may come from both the bride and groom and may be their monogram. Let's say that Susan married David Chase. The monogram on the front would be:
sCd Bride's first name; couple's surname; groom's first name.
NOTE: If you purchase expensive wedding invitations, you may save money by buying less expensive thank-you notes. No one will be the wiser.
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