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The Perfect Valentine's Day
Valentine's Day is one of those holidays that people either love, or despise. The history behind it is somewhat religious, and even a little dark. In all honesty, Valentine's Day is what you choose to make it. Celebrate it with a romantic partner, or a best friend, and even family. There are no limitations to whom this holiday can pertain, so be creative with some lovely expressions.
Does the world today need a designated holiday profess love to those they care about? Absolutely. Hate is everywhere, and anyone can get wrapped up in the negativity around them. Too many responsibilities can drag even the most motivated go-getter down occasionally. If one day a year can be focused on saying "I love you" to all those special people in our lives, why not? This simple phrase can soften a tough skin, and heal. So, get out and get loving!
A Brief History on the Origin of Valentine's Day
Listening is something that many people think they do, but in reality they are missing a multitude of tiny details that simply whiz in one ear and out the other. People provide hundreds of hints about the places, and things they enjoy in a single conversation. By suddenly making an attempt to interpret dialogue during a conversation, a helpful gift idea may begin to present itself.
Of course, someone may not always give up helpful information in any given interaction. It also takes asking the right questions. While it may seem difficult to find the information of a person's favorite restaurant or dessert without being obvious, an easy way around this is to ask questions that they won't necessarily feel are specifically geared in any direction. This can be as easy as carrying on a typical conversation. For example:
"What kind of cupcakes should I bring to work for Valentine's Day?"
"I love this new ______ album. I wonder what it would be like to see them live. If you could see anyone in concert who would it be?"
This kind of snooping is only for the extremely trusting and integral. There are several areas off-limits: phones, browser history, diaries and journals, as well as anything that is deemed questionable. When in doubt, don't touch it. Regardless of how strong the relationship is, if questionable information reveals itself, or nothing is found at all, bad snooping can open up a big can of worms. That is an invasion of privacy, and suggests a lack of trust. Now, here are the areas that are mostly harmless to snoop through:
Does this person wear jewelry? If so, how often, and how much? Check for a jewelry box; is it jam packed? Is there a specific jewelry item this person wears all the time. Silver or gold? Petite or chunky? What's the history behind it? If that necklace was given to them by their dying grandmother, and they never take it off, don't get them another necklace. Get them a bracelet, or earrings instead.
“Music expresses that which cannot be said and on which it is impossible to be silent.” -Victor Hugo
It's true. Music can deter or invoke sadness, it can build confidence, and make your sexual senses tingle. More often than not, music is a winning horse on Valentine's Day. Not just any music will do. Who is their favorite music artist? Concert tickets are on the pricey end of gifts depending on the artist, but a "mix-tape" will always and forever be a romance home run. However, make sure that research is completed on the songs. Some sound beautiful but have very dark meanings.
The favorite movie is a big one. There is a lot to be learned about a person based on their 'feel-good' movies. These are the movies in their personal library, they always get caught watching for the 100th time. Romances are especially helpful for a perfect Valentine's Day. Dig through their collection, and pick up any love related movie, then watch the hell out of it. Take notes. In addition, this movie could play a big role in the gift if they haven't purchased it, but they watch it every time its on cable.
When in doubt, pull the Pinterest out.
Do they have a pinterest? If they do, this snooping business is going to be easy peasy. Pinterest is a gift giver's gold mine. The person of interest has been poppin' pins of things they like, love, want, and enjoy and it is ripe for the picking.
Is this person sentimental? The easiest way to sleuth this out, is to recall any previous gifts given by them. Did they keep movie ticket stubs? Do they have a scrapbook? Are there dried flowers crumbling around their room? Do they make a lot of gifts for others? If the answer to any of these questions is 'YES', then this gift cannot be 100% store bought to really impress them.
There is a plethora of people out in the world that know what this person likes and dislikes. Choose your people wisely. A big-mouthed friend can ruin the surprise before it even starts, and a friend who makes suggestions with their own interests in mind are just as detrimental. Others will smile and agree with any idea that may be presented to them.
With that cautionary advice in mind, find the right buddy or family member, and pump them for information. With a quality source, this is one of the most lucrative way to get ideas. Bounce some ideas off of them. Don't approach them with an empty head and expect this person to plan Valentine's Day. It would just cheapen the gift, and make it less thoughtful. In addition, be warned: these helpful hands may try to take the reigns. Stay involved. Regardless of what treasure trove of information is given, it is ultimately not their choice what will end of playing out.
Questions to ask (even though many of these should already be known):
What is their favorite flower?
Favorite thing to do as a child (if its a family member)?
What is a favorite memory they share?
Any secret wishes or wants they've expressed?
Any special Valentine's specific memories?
Make a List
List making is the only way to organize a multifaceted plan. Once all the information is gathered, the next step is making a list of supplies needed, and then a list of time based tasks. If a reservation needs to be made, what is the deadline to get a decent table? Do 1,000 tiny hearts need to be cut out of red construction paper? The lists may look like this:
Blow up 30 Balloons:
By Thursday Night
Pick up Flowers:
Chocolate & Strawberries
Make Choc. Covered Strawb:
1 HOUR then Cool 1 HOUR
The game plan is extremely important. Try to take on too much, and everything will fall apart. Bad timing is just as detrimental. Surprises are fun, but not when someone has another obligation, and it throws a wrench in the plan. In addition, there has to be a time frame set, so you can reasonably accomplish everything, and nail every detail.
Find out: What's their schedule on Valentine's Day? If they are working, when are they off? How long does it take for them to get home? How much time is necessary to complete everything? In most cases, due to multiple work schedules, and other obligations, planning has to start the 6-14 days ahead of time. No one wants a Valentines Day that consists of their beau on the floor feverishly cutting out paper hearts when they arrive home.
You Gotta Work
One thing is certain when it comes to pulling off a perfect Valentine's Day, its going to take some work. However, that moment when the person you love's eyes light up, and all the trouble and time spent preparing for this moment just fades away. It's worth every paper cut and grease fire, just to see them smile.