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Real Talk - Holiday celebrations and Christmas time

Updated on February 20, 2014
By FutUndBeidl
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The wisest thing to do for them is to go back into teaching what it means, by reading of Bible passages (look for the true meaning of Christmas there, all the answers are awaiting for sure, and maybe read many other verses as well it cannot hurt to do so).

Try to pray for forgiveness if at all necessary, because I do not think that God meant us to become so materialistic as to expect to receive a thing, on that very day our savior was born of December 25th.

Giving gifts

During Christmas time many children worldwide plan each year to receive all that they dream to get from their parents. Santa had at one time truly existed in the hearts and minds of most kids, but today its pretty tough to keep that white lie from tricking them into believing it. Mainly due to the fact that there's so much technology, and exposure to revealing information today kids will stumble onto the truth quicker then Jiminy Cricket could snap his tiny fingers.

Gift giving is something that is pretty much universal, in America millions of children are somewhat spoiled though in many ways compared to kids per say from third world countries, and many American children expect to receive something each Christmas.

There are however special cases that do indeed exist where some unfortunate toddlers, and young whipper snappers just don't have the opportunity to receive a thing. If anything they would hopefully get a single gift from a charity group known as Toys for tot's, but for the most part Santa Claus cannot make it to their homes.

There's nothing like the gift of love - maybe give this to your wife


Not so funny!

The funny thing is how America found some sort of way to twist it all into a marketing scheme, that people have fallen victim for, and literally dubbing over the original purpose of such a holiday.

So as the season moves in, and it's early December now, many folks will definitely need to make any and all adjustments if they can, because many more people are facing this true harsh reality of not having money to live it up anymore.

Dedicated Church goers

Many church goers that are truly dedicated to their faith are into the true practice of the twelve days of Christmas, according to Wikipedia and not only in the United States its a Christian practice around the globe, and right after Advent ends. (The twelve days starting on 25th of Dec and ending Jan 6th) & (Advent beginning 4 Sunday's before Christmas day)

Harsh times call for desperate measures for some folks

Depression does indeed lurk during the holidays due to such pressure on parents to always give, and expectations of their innocent children.

It's psychologically tough on these very unfortunate poor kids, because when they return back to school after the holidays. They tend to usually hear so much noise from many of their classmates and friends if any, all about what others have received for Christmas. When their parents really couldn't afford to provide any gifts for them, and due to their parents being poor as ever. This tends to leave mental scars on their psyche, and it indeed hurts them pretty badly to feel let down each and every consecutive year for many.

This is a undeniable reality today, and so many more millions of people in the United States are now getting a bitter taste of what it truly feels to celebrate the holidays empty handed. So, where's the true spirit of Christmas at for them one might think to themselves, as many of us are all forced to go through it together today (Some parents will even use their credit cards if they haven't yet been swept into debt already, and to try and make up for trying times as a compensation leading to further debts).

Well, actually the gifts being given during Christmas, are suppose to represent Jesus the son of God being given gifts by the Three Wise Men, Three Kings, or Magi after hisimmaculate conception. This all according to the Christian bible verses, and he was given these special gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh. (This was where the holiday derived from, but today its very different how the world views it all as for children is concerned and all the commercialism involved)

On a much more positive note, people worldwide who do indeed have the money to play in the gift giving games will indeed enjoy this festive moment in time, and for them tends to make for an even more amazing televised event celebration extravaganza.

Santa's Elves are restless

Every known industry on planet earth for the most part tries their hardest to benefit from this sort of summoning of the masses around the ritualistic practices of the holiday celebrations all year round. Now as for Christmas time, the giving of gifts by parents has become a norm pretty much, that is not only widely accepted worldwide, but its promoted in every way shape and form.

Ironically however, it has also become a major dependency in terms of economic turn around for most businesses whom manufacture such gift items, also for most societies as a whole.

Many sales begin popping up, advertisements and the works beginning with Black Friday starting directly after thanksgiving day, Cyber Monday is the Monday after, and various other commercial ways to make sales meet customers demands, so businesses and companies can try and at least break even before the end of the fiscal year. Business owners can only hope for things to get much better soon financially for us all, so we can continue to spend more precious hard earned money.

This is the undeniable truth, and nothing but it, about the true inner and outer workings of Santa's little elves during this holiday season, and loads of trucks are currently at bay trying to transport, and ship these goods from store front to store front in time for the Holiday rush!

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A mothers love

My mom was so loving, she provided all that she could for us all in the family, me and my older brother were the first and then she had 3 other young boys.

Every year when the holidays arrive it hits me to the core, because I experienced living without all throughout my life, and I know how it feels to be deprived, to have nothing at all, and to feel hopeless.

My mother even went to the furthest extent to no-longer celebrate the Christmas holiday, which had broke my heart as a child, but I think she done so, so that we wouldn't have to suffer an further by hoping for something to arrive for us all at such a time period (All we use to get is an empty tree to stare at each and every year, she couldn't afford presents, but at least we had each others love & mommies love is the best gift a child could ever have), the holidays is a tough time for many people worldwide whom are without food, without shelter, and without a home or shelter.

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Working hard as a child - True memorable life story passage

I'll never forget the times when I myself (The author of this article) decided to make all the difference at a very young age and get a off the books job when I was about 12 years old. It of course was an unofficial job working for some grocery store known as C-Town in the neighborhood I grew up in of Bronx New York.

I done so because I wanted to earn enough money to give my mother a Christmas gift. It was a cool thing to do at the time. I had felt that if I could do such a thing for my mother that it would definitely make things feel much better for a change.

Despite the very fact that we never really had the money to celebrate the holidays in the traditional material aspects of it all as most Americans had done. Being showered with presents generally has become almost every child's fantasy of sorts, and is a reality to all those who do indeed have the economic means to receive gifts from their parents.

Wow! she talks non-stop LOL, but this puts it all into perspective

What's wrong with things today?

I always felt that there was something inherently wrong with the economic disparity issue between certain individuals being so poor, and others having pretty much everything they could ever dream of, also known as being filthy rich. So when it comes time to celebrate anything the holidays or what have you, the playing field isn't fair at all, and holidays for those less fortunate souls are the worst at times when compared side by side.

This is true mainly because of all the material aspects many people focus on alone, and it even boils down to not having a home to celebrate a thing, nor food to eat during such festive occasions. (The true story about my childhood helped me to learn never to take anything for granted, and to cherish every moment I have been given, and so Christmas time means much more to me today then just gift giving, it's all about love of family)

As for me when I was young, all I ever wanted was for my mother and that of my family to have the simpler things in life, like a full refrigerator and besides having grill cheese all the time to eat for dinner. To have more then just a single bedroom apartment to sleep and rest our heads at back then, and all of this is not to much to ask for, but in all actuality it was due to the fact that my mother and my father had separated, then eventually had divorced.

Sad but true this is the case for millions of people worldwide, where they are crammed into tight spaces due to lack of income, and even no means to survive due to widespread unemployment issues (Online life has become an alternative for applying for work, but its proven to not work at all for most people seeking employment today).

So the holiday times for most of us worldwide are not the best at all, which closely resembles my youthful experiences and for me I'm use to it, but many others are just getting a sweet taste of what it feels to truly be poor, and down and out for the count.

Kids love toys, but need love & guidance even more today


Why do children suffer so much during the holidays?

Children tend to suffer the most when such things such as a separation or divorce tends to happen or loss of life. What's surely next to come for them would be the possibility for poverty to emerge onto the scenes, if the now single parent cannot cope with the heavier financial load and responsibilities. This all depending on the predominant factors that an entire life blood and survival income has instantaneously been lost. Holidays then tend to become a very rough moment for them, and this is a true reality to bear witness to.

The remedy for such a thing is far from achieving for most single parents, but there is a chance for recovery if they lucked out at either finding a new partner to replace such a loss of income for that of the household, or maybe a better job.

This is one unavoidable element that definitely has an evasive effect on the children of the family, and it occurs to most Americans, and so many others worldwide. So if you have no means to pay the bills, and if you fall below that of the poverty line good luck! on making any purchases of products to keep up the celebrations.

Note: If you really wanna help people during the holidays, donate gifts to your family members who need help the most, make sure to ask if they need any help, because some folks will have to much pride, but its the thought that counts.

So what do we do to change it all?

How does a person change these factors of their lives if they have no control of the system that controls its forceful grips on our reality. The rules are the rules pretty much, so if you have no money to pay rent, to pay your bills, to pay for food, to entertain yourself or that of your family into doing anything related to the usage of monies, well then your out of luck pretty much, and that goes for anyone and anywhere.

You can help to support homeless victims today, which is directly where many families find themselves without the means to earn income. This is a continuous reality whenever people have fallen short of holding a good job, so if anyone is in the position in life to help someone up off their feet, you can try using this holiday season to make an effective change for them.

You can give gifts from the heart if anything, like creating things for one another out of inexpensive arts and crafts stuff. Maybe learn to use wood to carve out cool toys for children, and you can even become a toy maker yourself for other families in the future, who knows. (A guy named Sherm Poppen used some old skies and tied them together which lead to the creation of the Snowboard, and did it for his daughters, which cost him nothing at all)

Spousal issues during the holiday season:

  • Maybe if you really cannot get along with your significant other, try to plan your divorce at a moment long after the Christmas holidays season.
  • Its not easy for children to deal with such a life altering period, and so either way breaking up will hurt them no matter what (Do everything in your power to avoid from having to get a divorce).
  • Try your best to stop being so self centered if you are, and correct your problems with your spouse to avoid from divorce occurring (don't cheat on your partners), or seek a marriage counselor

Merry Christmas folks we really need to change, and being mindful of ones action towards others as well as responses help

If anything give true love to one another for the holidays, try to stay far from being negative, or being wrong towards anyone. We all need love to be spread like a cure and all around the globe. Season's Greetings!
If anything give true love to one another for the holidays, try to stay far from being negative, or being wrong towards anyone. We all need love to be spread like a cure and all around the globe. Season's Greetings! | Source

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @Sunnie Day, thank you again, wow you get around hubpages at light speeds Hehe. I been trying my hardest to keep up with everyone, and its tough but I am finally catching up.

      Gift giving is truly awesome and thank you for the real life gift you just gave me, wow I was stunned to see it come all packaged up in gift wrapping and all.

      You are such a cool person for that, as well as for sharing with me in a bunch of my hubs recently, and I definitely consider you to be a friend of mine fore sure.

      Cheers! to meeting real people who care, and to awesome hubpages writers.

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      Sunnie Day 

      5 years ago

      Mike this was a beautiful hub and you spoke from your heart. Many are suffering financially and Christmas gift giving seems like a daunting task. I have always loved homemade gifts, a letter, or a sweet card handmade, they mean the most than anything store bought but the best gift of all is love and there is nothing this ole world can do to take that away. Rough times come for sure but I am so happy you had a beautiful mother to instill such wonderful values within.


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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @always exploring, thanks for the commenting and for reading Ruby.

      You know childhood isn't always the best for many people worldwide, and I'm glad I experienced what I have as well to discover the true meaning of Christmas and many of the other holidays as well, which forced me to become as real as ever.

      I just hope that those kids that are suffering mentally from the lack of having can learn what we have about the holiday, because many folks grow up with pure negativity in them because of it all.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @CrisSp, Thank you for sharing my hub, I liked that cool video as well, so I had to add it here to add flavor and all to the article.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @Nellieanna, thanks once again for the visit, and comments.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @Mhatter99, its good to hear that some of us are indeed on the right track, I'm so happy to know such a thing bro, good on you.

      Many more folks need to follow your lead, and do the right thing today for others if they are in the position to do so., lets hope more folks can locate this article and think about it at least.

      Thanks for the visit, and comment that was cool of you bro!

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      5 years ago from Southern Illinois

      I can remember a childhood when we got one present, but we loved it. My mother was poor but always managed to have one present for us. We cut our own Christmas tree and decorated it with strung popcorn and paper dolls. I never knew my father, so i didn't miss him. Christmas to me means giving. I wish the world would catch on. Thank you for sharing. Beautiful write..

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      5 years ago from Sky Is The Limit Adventure

      What a very powerful message you have here Mike. I like how you even incorporated the spousal issues during the holiday season and to put it off for the sake of Christmas and its true spirit.

      I also find the Lip-Dub Divorce video quite entertaining not that I favor it but I thought the wife is very creative. Lol!

      Good job in getting the message across Mike. Up and interesting.

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      Nellieanna Hay 

      5 years ago from TEXAS

      It's always my pleasure to visit your excellent hubs and leave my impressions! You are a REAL gem & I'm so glad to know you and your work!

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @Nellieanna, You are right about Christmas time being a good thing long long ago, because when I was a baby and my family was much more connected there was imagery my mother showed me of Christmas past, that showed true signs of pure happiness, of shear joy, and its the love of family that is the only thing that can muster up such an occasion.

      Thanks for the beautiful and kind words you left me here, I always enjoy it when comments like yours hit and light up the screen. Its awesome stuff! on HP to share with real true friends who sincerely care.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @Deborah Brooks, Thank you for relating to my hub here, and yup we all had very similar childhood experiences of struggles, and even those folks whom seem and appear to have it all, tend to have experience a great deal of emptiness in their hearts.

      We all need to look at these things in order to change for the better of all humanity, Celebrating holiday times is a reminder for sure of all that we need to make family our priority besides ourselves, and when we pull that together, things can definitely begin to get better.

      I feel this way also because community extends from having strong families who truly love one another and aren't just concerned about material goods neither.

      We all can repair things for one another over time, all throughout this globe, but it takes fixing the love issues between people for sure. Thanks again for sharing with me as well.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      Thanks @carol7777, yes life is rough for most of us today, and so I knew everyone would be able to relate to this true and living testament of mine.

      I pray and hope for things to get better for us all, and I do indeed know that all of the healing begins with the human spirit, the heart, and love most of all for that of your family.

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      Mike Pugh 

      5 years ago from New York City

      @lrc7815, Thanks for the comment Linda, yes indeed my mother was one truly awesome woman who was loaded with love, she did all that she could to raise us to become good people, and strong wise men.

      I wish my mother and father never divorced, and I think that is where our life turned and steered for the worst in terms of material things, as well as loss of love, but I learned a valiant life lesson in the end for sure.

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      Martin Kloess 

      5 years ago from San Francisco

      I have been blessed to serve on the "front lines" of the needy during the holidays. Everything from volunteer dish washer at a "soup kitchen" to a big time fund raiser for Toys for Tots. I have learned the values of gift giving. Powerful hub, my friend. Thank you.

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      Nellieanna Hay 

      5 years ago from TEXAS

      Such a heartfelt Christmas message, Mike. Your personal story woven throughout it drives home the message that the real Christmas gifts are love, family, kindness and concern for others.

      It's made you a bigger, better person to have learned from those experiences what matters and you've shared it so effectively. Thank you.

      I'm saddened by the commercialism during this season (which starts well before Halloween now) - and the meanness of shoppers toward each other as they vie to get to the 'bargains' first is tragic. Most of the stuff they're so eager to get is useless junk chosen & advertised by marketers and replacing the warmth of personal love for their kids and loved ones, anyway. Then they're in debt after Christmas. It misses the meaning of the season.

      When I was growing up our Christmases were always pleasant and full of love, but quite modest. One main gift which was memorable, with a few small things were more than enough. Many gifts exchanged were made by hand. Our stockings were filled with fresh fruit, nuts and some hard candy - not stuffed with expensive 'things'. Christmas music seemed to permeate the house.

      I remember that we had to eat our breakfast before the doors to the living room where the tree and gifts were. We could see the lights on the tree dimly through the glass doors, but not enough to make out anything under it. I'm sure that heightened the fun and excitement of it, and it was designed to make it more special.

      That's what I miss most - the simplicity of old-fashioned Christmases that taught appreciation, not greed - and leave people in joy, not debt afterward.

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 

      5 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      wow Mike.. I agree what a great hub.. I have worked all my life to have what we have today.. there were hard times.. when we were kids all we had to eat sometimes was packages of jello and grits.. there were eight of us kids.. but we made it.. I have one sister died young but things seemed to be better.. I try to help others when I an I do have a family I adopt at Christmas.. I remember the past.. I don't want others to experience that.. You are such a caring person and full of love.. and I am proud to call you friend.

      God bless you for writing this wonderful hub



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      carol stanley 

      5 years ago from Arizona

      You found a place in life and even though you had a tough childhood you reaped from the kindness and love you received. Holiday time is difficult for many of us...even those who have enough money for food, shelter and gifts..It is a punctuation mark as all holidays are..and family estrangement becomes bigger than life. Great hub as always .Voted UP++++

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      Linda Crist 

      5 years ago from Central Virginia

      Mike, what a great hub. You write from a place I can relate to. I've lived on both ends of the spectrum and I am a survivor. I'm back at the low end right now thanks to a job lay off but I won't let that ruin my holiday. The tribute to your Mom was so beautiful. She did a magnificent job raising you to have such a big heart. Voted up and awesome.


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