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Things to Do on Valentine's Day

Updated on January 31, 2013
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Marye Audet-White is an internationally known food writer, food editor for Texas Living, cookbook author, and food blogger.

Are you starting to think of things to do on Valentine’s Day? The key to a special, romantic holiday is planning ahead. Whether you have been in a relationship for a long time or just a few weeks a special Valentine’s Day celebration can make lasting memories.

Many couples like to go out to eat on Valentine’s Day but if you really want to do something with a personal touch try creating a romantic picnic for the two of you in a special place. Generally you can’t go wrong with making plans to spend time together in a special way.

Men and women think very differently so take this into consideration when you are making your plans for the day. Women, as a general rule, like chick- flick type romantic interludes while guys may prefer more sizzle. Remember that you are planning the day for your spouse (or significant other) and not for yourself. Try to come up with ideas that will make it special for them.

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Love Letters

Who can resist love letters?

Channel your inner Shakespeare and send your mate a love letter a day starting on January 30.  Whether you send the letters to the house or to the office doesn't matter as long as they are received.

If you prefer, you can hide the notes in various places for him/her to find each day. 

  • A coat pocket
  • A lunch bag
  • A wallet
  • The dashboard of the car

Use your imagination and find unusual places for the letters to be hidden.  Just make sure that they will be found on schedule.  Hiding one so well that it isn't found until June is just not that romantic.

Again, as a general rule women will like love letters that are romantic.  They should be about how beautiful she is, how amazing she is, her characteristics, and other pleasing aspects of her personality, beauty, and character.  Men, generally, will like to hear about their sexual prowess, their amazing muscles, and how incredible they are. 

Don’t scrimp on the words, and be very generous with your admiration.

Create a Romantic Destination

Have you ever seen the honeymoon scene in It’s a Wonderful Life ?

The bride creates a romantic destination when honeymoon plans go awry. Is there somewhere that your spouse has always wanted to go? Create an exotic evening by reproducing some of the ambiance of that place. Use decoration and special food, music and even a DVD to create the atmosphere of the dream vacation spot.

This is a great time to experiment with role play and fantasy to make the evening everything you could imagine from your destination spot. Some tips to make this work:

  • Choose a wine from that location.
  • Choose foods that would be served there.
  • Consider how you would be dressed if you were actually there.
  • Get books from the library to help you choose the props that you need to create the perfect ambiance.

Slow Dancing

Slow dancing is romantic, sexy, and a perfect activity for Valentine’s Day.

  • Choose some good mood music.
  • Clear a portion of your living room or den to give you space to move.
  • Place candles around the room.
  • Have a bottle of champagne chilling in an ice bucket.
  • Ladies, this is a great time for that slinky red dress you have wanted to find an excuse to wear.


A massage is an intensely personal and intimate gift. Buy some massage oil or a LUSH massage bar (Try Soft Coeur: milk chocolate and honey) and lay out the satin sheets. Try to keep everything soft and sensual.

Light some scented candles and turn the lights down low. Soft jazz music playing in the background isn’t going to hurt.

You can get an idea of how to give a good massage at How to Give a Killer Massage.

How to Give a Massage for Valentine's Day



Yes seriously.  Most guys like active things.  A girl with a weapon is hot.  Playing a game of paintball or air soft might be totally out of your comfort zone but it may be smack in the middle of his.  Extra points if you wear black jeans, and black top.  Paintball is messy to try not to wear anything too good or that you will feel badly about if it gets ruined.

More Things to Do on Valentine's Day

  • Play an adult game.
  • Play scrabble but only use Valentine’s Day language
  • Use chocolate body paint
  • If you live in a warm area lie outside and watch the stars and talk.
  • Roses. Yep totally cliché. But they still work great.
  • Make a special homemade gift.

If you are not the romantic type, guys, all is not lost. Lame as it sounds rent a couple of chick flicks and watch them. Take note of the leading man, what he does that seems especially romantic. Is there a way that you could incorporate that into an idea for the two of you? You may get many ideas of things to do on Valentine’s Day so pay attention.

Most of all remember that it really is the thought that counts. Time spent together is the most important thing of all.


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      michael 5 years ago

      that video really helped me 2 think and plan a romantic day with my girl and spend more time atached together

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      vineet 6 years ago

      thanx budyyyyy

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      molly 6 years ago

      amazing thnx now i know how to trat my boyfriend to a nice treat on valintines day

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      savannah 6 years ago

      your took the words right out of my mouth ginger!!

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      ginger 6 years ago

      o please everyone with this express your love all year!!!! clearly you haven't been with that special some one long enough to have children or a life together.v day gets really special then because it becomes an excuse to slow down and really show you care.obviously there are not a bunch of people waiting around for Valentine's Day to buy their wife flowers or give their husband a massage.that being said vday is special to those who have been together not because they don't show they care all year.

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      Tania 6 years ago

      ah paintballing is a legendary sport. i do it like twice every year, so that is right in my comfort zone. and i go in my camouflage xD so looks like my date will be having fun this weekend, and so will i :)

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      SKM 6 years ago

      I might give my partner a proper massage today (:

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      veer 6 years ago

      very nice ideas they definitely works..thank u google..

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      yuliyuls 6 years ago

      I did the paintball thing last valentines and it's been one of the greatest ideas ever. my husband had no idea i would dare to do it. we had so much fun and he still talks about it with his friends. now every time i tell him i have a surprise he is looking forward to it

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      iZeko 6 years ago

      Very nice hub! I really like the paintball idea.

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      Carmela & Albert 7 years ago

      We going to do one of these. LOVE

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      text messaging softwarr 7 years ago

      Thanks! This helped a lot!

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      Sam 7 years ago

      Lol i love the part of the romantic card,I didn't know that Women are so deep,and all men are so superficial. Id like to know what my partner thinks about my personality too, not just my amazing muscles and how amazing i am all the time

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      Missy 7 years ago

      I agree that you should show love every day of the year however with every day life sometimes you can't celebrate it so I think Valentines day is a day to forget about every day life and forget about your problems and focus on your love that so many of us tend to overlook due to dealing with life. So I say if you have the money or if you don't make the best and the most out of this one day!!!!

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      amy 7 years ago

      What i did for my man last year was i bought fake rose petals, and spreaded them all out on the bed, got in a sexc outfit, had candles lit and had baby oil, and i gave him a full body massage. It wasn't my day, i made it his. Yeah he got me a stuffed bear and a huge card, but i was happy because i was with him.It was a very fun day!

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      StormRyder 7 years ago

      Great ideas, but alas...I have no one to share valentines day with.

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      alifahru 8 years ago from Purwokerto

      give your love and care to your family and friend

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      blondepoet 8 years ago from australia

      terrific ideas well done.It makes me a little sad as today is Valentines Day here in Australia and my partner does not even know what day it is today,so again I go without any type of romance on this lover's day sigh. :(

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      irene.trel 8 years ago

      This Valentines Day is an opportunity for every lover in the world to spend time together and express the sweet nothings. Travel to Barcelona is a best way for a romantic getaway for it offers great places and sights where you can both relax and reminisce. The place in Barcelona is wealthy, rich and people are prominent that keeps you come back again to celebrate for another Valentines Day. Barcelona City has much to discover and spending time here with your beloved is a memories that you both could never forget. It is very famous for tourist visits that are coming from other countries that are coming every holiday season.

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      397268 8 years ago

      Real lovers do something romantic every day of the year.

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      Patriot 8 years ago

      It is a good occasion for you to express your feeling to lover.

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      Five Elements 8 years ago from Hawaii

      Thank you. Great stuff. I was getting worried about this coming V-day. Now I got ideas.

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      Anna Marie Bowman 8 years ago from Florida

      Great ideas!!! I know I have to do something special for my boyfriend this Valentine's Day. Not only is it our first together, it is also a bad day in his memory, long story there.

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      Adam B 8 years ago

      When I started dating my wife (obviously before she was my wife), I made it a practice to make a big deal out of valentines day.  I like it because it isn't a holiday you have to share with the rest of the world, meaning, it's a day for you and your loved one.

      The first valentines day, I hired a stretch Navigator Limo to pick her up from work, I had gone all over town to diffeent stores and purchased things for her, had them wrapped and left at the store for her.  Each present from each store had a not attached to it with a clue to the next place.  She went to I think it was four or five stores and got little presents until finally the Limo took her downtown chicago to the Drake hotel where I was waiting for her.  I had bought her clothes, toiletries and everything she would need to spend the night with me.

      The second valenties day I surprised her with dinner, roses and an extra surprize, a King Charles Spaniel puppy named Cupid.

      The Third Valenties day, I planned a spa get-away for us in Lake Geneva where we had a room for two days, couples massages and a facial for her.

      The fourth Valenties day, Saturday, Feb 14th, 2004, we got married.  Now we plan our Valenties day treats and get-aways together.

      I tried to out-do each year with the next but I have gotten to the point where I cannot due to financial and family situations (children).

      This year we planned on going downtown to Texas De Brazil for dinner and staying at the Amalfi Hotel in the Luxury Suite and the next day having a couple's massage.  Our 5 month old has a problem with anyone watching her while we are gone so we decided to got to dinner and skip the hotel.  We are going to take turns getting massages and I get to experience a flotation tank for the first time.

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      mercz_mice@yahoo. 8 years ago

      VaLentines Day is supposed to be the "the day of the LOVERS",but it doesn't necessarily mean that,the day of love is just only for also for those people who have not hEart,which means,they don't know how to love and be loved!!

      How to be happy on that day?Well...Forgiveness is one way of sharing your love with anybody!..forget all about those hatred that leads to our heart...because hatred can cover up the love....tnxXxx hub.....

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      Moe_on_RayStreet 8 years ago

      Roses are cliché, but I love 'em! Nice Hub!

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      Dink96 8 years ago from Phoenix, AZ

      "Lie outside and watch the stars and talk." Doesn't get much better than that!*

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      NDBEES 8 years ago from DEVON

      I'm with six9k9 on this one. Why do it on the one day everything costs three times as much, yet is three times worse. Where's the intimacy in sharing the same experiences as every other tom,dick and harry on the same day. There is 364 other days to show how much you love someone. USE THEM. Change the title to 'Things to do 365 days of the year with the one you love'. See nice and short. LOL

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      six9k9 8 years ago

      In the famous words of a great analytical man ( Tom Leykis), If you have to spend money then its not worth the effort. Valentines day promotes spending big money on things that really don’t mean anything except on that day. Many people get depressed if they don’t have a date on that one day, because that one day is supposes to represent love. Why? The rest of the year wasn’t good enough?

      If you have to spend money then politely tell the person you are with you cannot go out. If they still want to be with you, then figure something out to do at home. If they get mad because money isn’t spent then they are probably not going to appreciate anything you do anyway. Figure out small things you can do at home which won’t put you and your date in with the rest of the thousands of people in love.

      If you are single this year go out and find someone else who is single. Although I do think that bars are not the best place to meet people, when people get depressed they go drink. Go to a bar find a person to have fun with, and enjoy the day in your own rights.

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      Tim 8 years ago

      Paintball! woo!

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      asupport 9 years ago

      Great ideas and very inspiring. THANKS!

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      livelovecoffee 9 years ago from Georgia

      Great ideas. Some times it can become so difficult to think of new and exciting things to do for valentines day. Awesome hub