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‘Tis Much Better To Give (To Yourself) Than To Receive Crap

Updated on November 26, 2010


Well it’s official, the holiday shopping season is in full swing and as we all gear up to get gear and other products for the people in our life I find that once again I’m doing much more shopping for myself than for others. I know this is the season for gift giving and I think in my quest of finding self loving (other than that which can only be expressed with my right hand) I think shopping for yourself at holiday time is one of the best things you can possibly do for yourself. ‘Tis much better to give (to yourself) than to receive crap! – Don’t Get Me Started!

There was a time when I thought that you just had to wait and see what you would get from the people in your life for the holidays return the crap and then use the money or gift card balances to get what you really wanted but I have freed myself of these chains and have begun to realize that there truly is no time like the present to buy your own present(s). Let’s face it, you’re in the stores and there are sales all over the place why would you even want to try to resist when you can help the economy and yourself all at the same time?

I think what we all need to do is embrace that we’ll be shopping for ourselves and set some boundaries. You see, when you don’t know what you’re doing, you’re going to spend way too much but if you actually budget yourself into your holiday shopping then you’ll come home with great stuff for you and none of the guilt. Now for those of you who shop for lots of people, your percentages may be different but for me, I have a small amount of people to buy for and budget therefore I allow myself one third of my entire budget. I know some of you are thinking that’s an awful lot of your budget to be allocating on yourself but here’s where a little rationalization goes a long way. You see, some of what I buy is actually worn at holiday events therefore I’m really giving everyone around me the gift that you just can’t put a price on, me looking really nice.

Now let me be really clear on this whole gift giving to yourself thing. I don’t buy myself big ticket items like computers or cars, I keep it to new clothes and things like those cowboy boots I’ve been wanting for awhile but haven’t bought because I always talk myself out of spending the money for them. It’s in the budget so yee to the mother freaking haw, pardner – get you some of them thar boots! The other rule is that I never just shop for me I always buy something for someone on my list when buying something for myself. Think of it in a “one for me, one for them” kind of way or more realistically, “three for me, one for them” kind of way.

Using this method also allows me to no longer have any expectations on the gifts others give to me. I can actually appreciate them more because I don’t have to wonder whether or not they’re what I really want because I all ready have what I really want at home. This or that gift that I’ll be getting is just icing on the cake. The joy goes back into the tearing open of the wrapping of the gifts for everyone involved. Now for those of you who may be feeling as though I’m being too self absorbed, I still believe that the best gift anyone can give me is their time. I’ve made a pact with several of my friends to no longer exchange gifts and instead exchange dinners, long phone calls or trips to see one another. Frankly I’d rather have these things than a sweater I’m going to have to take back anyway and the true friends in my life feel the same way. I get that gifts are tokens of our esteem for one another but honestly, the gift of time is less difficult to wrap, more fun and won’t go out of style next season.

I still love finding the perfect gift for someone but I no longer feel badly about how much I love finding the perfect gift for myself too. ‘Tis much better to give (to yourself) than to receive crap! – Don’t Get Me Started!

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      SJ 6 years ago

      LOL! I gave to myself a good amount on Friday, and will likely repeat that performance. Made me feel like dancing--now that you mention it, I think I'm gonna go dancing! My favorite line of yours in this: "I get that gifts are tokens of our esteem for one another but honestly, the gift of time is less difficult to wrap, more fun and won’t go out of style next season." May the sales be good to you and your's, Scott!

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      Sabrae 6 years ago from Georgia

      Ha! I hate shopping and espically shopping around the holidays! OMG! I refuse. That's why everyone gets gift cards from me! LOL