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Valentine's Day: Little Candy Hearts, Cards and Trying to Find True Love
It All Begins With Those Little Candy Hearts
Valentines Day. Heart shaped boxes of chocolates, long stem roses, a romantic dinner for two, these are the traditions of this special day. Think about it for a minute, one day of the year has been set aside to let that special person know just how special they are to you. A day to tell someone how much you love them. Whether they just recently swept you off your feet or if it has been sixty years since you first noticed the twinkle in their eyes and your heart skipped a beat when you first saw them, love and the traditions of Valentines Day continue generation after generation.
Children learn at an early age the traditions of this day. Small colored candy hearts with cute expressions like, “Be Mine”, “Ask Me”, “True Love” are passed around from child to child. Whichever little boy or girl you liked the most, you gave them the best ones with the best sayings. The kids you were just friends with got the, “Cool”, “Be Good” or “Be Nice” ones. But the person you had your first crush on got the, “I Love You” one. You had to work up the courage to finally give it to the person you had a crush on on year long, it was your way of telling them how you felt. You hand them the “I Love You” little candy heart, you feel proud of yourself only to have your heart broken for the first time when he or she gives you a “Be Cool” one back. First Love. It never lasts long. But that's okay because there will be another Valentines Day next year.
You're a little older now, 1st or 2nd grade, and in class you bring in an old shoebox, decorate it with red and white construction paper, draw hearts on it and cut a slot on the top of it so your classmates can drop in Valentines cards they bought and wrote their names on the night before. Picking out the right Valentine's Day cards is an important task for elementary school children. They can't be to mushy or nerdy, they have to show how cool you are. The cards are cute in a simple way, A Bumble Bee with the saying, “Bee my Valentine” or a monkey peeling a banana with the slogan, “You're appealing to me!” And of course there are a few in the box with the more direct and to the point sayings that you carefully pick out for the girl or boy you like. Cupid shooting his arrow with the saying, “Will you be my Valentine?”.
You carefully write the name of all the students in your class on the envelopes, saving the best one for the boy or girl you like. You drop them in their decorated shoe-boxes and they do the same to yours. When you get home, you dump them on the floor looking for the one from that special girl and once again your heart breaks when you see the card with the poem, “Roses are Red, Violets are Blue, It's Valentine's Day, This cards for You.” Not exactly a strong endorsement of love. And now you're regretting the one you gave her.
By the time you get to middle school things get more serious. You don't give cards to your classmates anymore, you're to grown up for that but if you have a girlfriend, they expect a gift. Now you are faced with the difficult task of finding a gift for the love of your middle school years on the measly allowance your parents give you. A box of chocolates, a stuffed bear, a mushy card or perhaps you go all out and buy a real ring (for under twenty dollars). Which one will you pick for her?
You keep it in your locker until lunchtime when you will see her. You pull it out of your locker and walk the hallway, all the while feeling like a fool while other students snicker and laugh at you but you're in love so it doesn't matter. You give her the giant stuffed bear holding a box of chocolates and you feel so good, so in love. Two weeks later she is dating the captain of the football team and you are trying to figure out how to get the bear back. Middle School love apparently doesn't last long either.
Love, Valentine's Day, will you ever get the hang of it? By high school you see how expensive this whole love thing can be. A dinner, movie, flowers and a gift? This is the reason most boys get jobs in high school; to afford their girlfriend and dating.
Valentine's Days have come and gone, you've gotten older and wiser and one day when you least expect it, it happens. The girl of your dreams comes into your life. You may have seen her playing softball, it may have happened at work, you may have met her at a grocery store, it can happen anytime and anywhere. You cannot believe it. She is beautiful. She is kind, she makes you melt every time you are with her. She makes your life complete and the best part is, she feels the same about you. Cupid has finally come through and this is true love. You get married and have a child. One day, you help your pick out little candy hearts to pass out to his or her friends and that special little boy or girl they like because it's Valentine's Day and Cupid still has lots of arrows!