Why Some Don't Like Social Gatherings
I do enjoy going to amusement parks, but not with a large group of people. Honestly, I always enjoy going with my family, or just a couple of people. I am more of a small group kind of person, and when you are finally in your thirties, I think you are old enough to finally admit that. Back in high school and college I was the type who never went to large parties, and I have no regrets about that. I would rather be at home walking my dog or reading a book. Guess that is a bit nerdy for some, but that is the type of person I have always been. When your more on the introverted side you are not stimulated by the large crowds, but can enjoy smaller get togethers. So do you seem like a completely ungrateful social outcast just because you do not enjoy attending large parties? I say not!
The Party Pooper
I always thought that was a relatively negative term to give a person just because they are not the life of the party. So even if you have never been called a party pooper to your face, how do you contend with the knowledge that others know you are not enthused by parties and large groups? I enjoy spending time with family and few friends, but I have never been the large party kind of gal. This is part of the reason I never took a shine to dating because the bar and club scene hold no appeal to me. I detest the taste of liquor and would rather spend money to watch on a digital camera and blogging on a Friday night rather than to go hang out with a large crowd, or on a blind date.
When you are young others make you feel like a weird bird for not being social, but as an adult you realize it is just part of your introverted personality type. Not everyone wants to be the life of the party, and it is okay not to go to a large party. I was the only person who did not care if I did not get invited to the party, and never understood the point of crashing one.
If you are looking to make lots of business connections maybe you want to go to the large party and socialize, but I have never been able to feign interest in something I find boring. For instance, people standing around in a crowd socializing a topic I couldn't care less about makes me just want to get up and walk away. For me talking is more of a one on one thing in a less boisterous environment where the two people can actually hear each other. There is no way people can decipher a word you are saying in the cacophony of the crowd. So should you feel bad for declining an invitation to your high school reunion, or not going to a large event? No, actually I would not feel bad because as an introvert I know I am just not going to enjoy myself.
There are always people at the party you have to listen to, and I do not mind listening to others, but after awhile you might just want to get away from that. Especially when I am at a party with some talking about how this or that conservative icon is the best thing since sliced bread.
So when your friends invite you to a large party, just be upfront and admit this is not your thing. I have been to large events like luaus and amusement parks, but I only went with a few people. The thing about a party is you have to feign interest in someone contending to be the most "dazzling" personality in the room. I do not care about that guy's new ride, or that he buys suits that cost more than my monthly rent.
When I was younger I would nod my head and just agree with most of what people said at social events, but these days I find it harder to remain quiet about my true opinions, which makes socializing not an easy thing. Admittedly there is usually a liberal who might do the same big talk/money talk at a party, but to the few I have been to it is the conservative man.
No longer could I hide behind my quiet girl persona of years past, and I would have to engage in political debate. Not my up of tea. I know they say do not discuss religion or politics, the former is between me and God as a matter of personal faith, but the latter includes many social and political issues that affect our daily lives. I know from as a blogger and online writer I have a passion for politics, and I would have more fun staying at home to work on my blog Friday night and going on a hike on Saturday. It is okay to be different and not fit in with the cacophony of the crowd at a party. My suggestions might not be conducive for the business person looking to make new connections, but if you are just thinking about your own free time and how you want to spend this being your authentic self, then do not be afraid to tell others why you might not be attending a party. Truth be told, I just find parties a bit boring. Who wants to sit around and watch other people drink.