The obvious. Why? Because men, unlike women, have few outlets for their emotions of vulnerability. From our culture, we men equate vulnerability with 'weakness', even though this is not so. Most men only allow themselves to be vulnerable for those few moments of bliss in our women's embrace. Our women take us into their bodies and hold us; we know it is their supreme gift to us. And why is this vulnerability we experience when we are there so very important? Because it is in vulnerability that we get our emotional battery recharged, we are 'fed' through the nurturing of the act, we can 'let down' and truly, completely relax. There are many men who are unable to articulate this, because they lack the emotional language that comes so easily to women. The embrace of our woman goes far beyond the physical act; the physical act is just a vehicle for something deeply intimate, spiritual, and satisfying. No purchased item or trinket, or gadget could ever be as much of a gift as that. So, you see, it is not about the obvious, it's about what is hidden beneath the obvious that is the real gift.