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Valentine's Day Sucks! - Anti-Valentine's Ideas
Dear Valentine's Day haters, I am totally on your side. There are many excellent reasons to hate February 14th. And dear Valentine's Day lovers, don't get me wrong; I am not against the idea of giving and receiving love. I just hate to see Valentine's Day being so commercialized that a non-descript rose bouquet is sold at the price of caviar. Romantic love has been given so much significance on this so-called special day that many seem to forget it's not the only kind of love that deserves to be celebrated.
For singles, Valentine's Day could be even more depressing than Christmas. For breakup survivors or "dumpees" who are recuperating from severe heart wounds, seeing silly couples acting extra lovey-dovey might aggravate the lingering pain and prolong the healing process. A lot of men also secretly dread Valentine's Day and the grueling burden of fulfilling their beloved women's expectations. I am in none of these situations but hate the Cupid's Day nonetheless. Luckily, my husband is allergic to Valentine's Day as much as I am, so we usually ignore it completely and stay home to avoid witnessing public love scenes. But if you'd rather do something anti Valentine's instead of just ignoring it, here are some fun ideas you might want to adopt.
Anti Valentine's Idea # 1 - Host a "Love Gone Wrong" Movie Night
Invite some friends to your place and watch a marathon of "love gone wrong" type of movies. Here are some good ones:
- War of the Roses - A couple battling in a nasty divorce. Their aggression and cruelty toward each other will make you grateful to be single.
- The Kill Bill series - A retired assassin seeking revenge upon her former lover. It is quite graphically gory.
- American Beauty - The true beauty of this film is the fact that it portrays misery of married life in such an artistically depressing way.
- Curse of the Golden Flower (Chinese film) - A tale of nasty secrets in a royal family. The queen has an affair with her stepson. The prince sleeps with his half-sister. And the king slowly poisons his wife. However, none of these is the most horrible thing that happens in the movie.
- Shutter (Thai film) - The spirit of a woman comes back to haunt the man who betrayed her. Like most horror films, the plot isn't very complex or interesting, but the creepy factor is quite astounding.
Anti Valentine's Idea # 2 - Remind People about the Thorny Side of Love
Being anti-Valentine's doesn't mean you shouldn't offer gifts to your loved ones and show them you care about them. Just don't do it the cheesy way. Forget about the exorbitantly priced Valentine's roses and get them potted cacti instead. Yes, roses are a great symbol of love, but people tend to admire only the flowers and scorn the thorny stems, which is like choosing to see only the beauty and ignoring the possible difficulties in love. Enough with such naivety! Give them some cacti and show them the spikes! Love can hurt. No relationship is absolutely perfect. And sometimes love can even kill! And yet, it's still a precious thing just like a little pot of cactus.
Anti Valentine's Idea # 3 - Make an Anti-Valentine's Statement with Your Attire
On Valentine's Day, some streets might look more like strawberry fields since lots of people suddenly fancy wearing red clothing. If you're a real V-Day hater, you might want to opt for black from head to toe to defy the day. If you don't want to be mistaken for a goth and would rather do it in a more humorous way, get an anti-Valentine's t-shirt, hat or sweater from websites, like Cafepress and Zazzle. These sites offer a galore of affordable clothing, most of which are printed with funny and creative designs.
Anti Valentine's Idea # 4 - Let People Taste Your "Pain"
This idea is especially appropriate for recent breakup survivors. Bake some heart-shaped cookies, then break each of them in half or make little holes in them. Dark chocolate is probably the best flavor, as it's very bitter and very black. Share a taste of your "wounded heart" with your friends, family or coworkers. This Valentine's present can tell people two things about you. First, you're accepting that your healing is not yet complete. Second, in spite of that, you're strong enough to bake some funny goodies and laugh about your own problem! Plus, it's a nice satirical gift that might encourage some people to think twice before gloating over their romantic dinner plans in front of you.