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Bereavement Gifts - A Beautiful Way to Remember Those Who Have Passed

Updated on August 16, 2013

Bereavement Gifts comfort those mourning

For those of you who have followed by ramblings here on Squidoo, you know that my darling Mom, Gertie, died February 15, 2012. She went quite peacefully, surrounded by those who loved her. We walked her all the way to Heaven's door as we watched her take her last breath and finally rest in peace.

I was astonished at the outpouring of emotion and praise from my friends, both near and far. One of my closest friends sent me a beautiful Tiffany style bereavement lamp. The very interesting thing is that the package came wrapped in butterflies - one of my Mom's favorite things ever. In fact, every day, for the last 10 years, she's worn a butterfly clip in her hair that I bought on a whim while walking through a local mall.

The bereavement lamp that my dear friends Marianne and Steve sent me was not of butterflies, but, instead, it is a stained glass lamp shade of irises - Mom's favorite flower. How amazing is that? So, now, when I look at my darling little lamp, I think of butterflies and irises and my Mom. What a gorgeous gift I've received.

Bereavement Lamps on Amazon

Amazon has some very pretty little lamps to send as a bereavement gift. Try to select one that matches a personality quality of the departed loved one. I love any Tiffany style lamp but my little iris lamp is my favorite!

Light is always a beautiful gift to those mourning

For some reason, there's serenity in the burning of a candle. I lit candles for a long time after Mom died as we both loved them so.

I clipped my Mom's butterfly hair clip to the top of the lamp where it is safe until I wear it next time.

I clipped my Mom's butterfly hair clip to the top of the lamp where it is safe until I wear it next time.
I clipped my Mom's butterfly hair clip to the top of the lamp where it is safe until I wear it next time.
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bereavement lamps

Grief can appear in many forms

Grief, like death, is a very personal experience. Try to take into account your grieving friend's needs when selecting a bereavement gift. Perhaps a gift certificate for a nice massage is all they need to finally relax and focus on themselves. A dinner out is also a very nice bereavement gift - take them to a very special restaurant and, if they're up to it, surround them with additional friends for support.

Don't expect those grieving to necessarily call on you. You need to make the effort to call them. Since I've been home, my closest friends have called me on a daily basis just to check in. These calls are very sweet and are confirmation that I'm surrounded by tons of love. I know that these calls will fall off after awhile and that's fine - that's how grief works too. Each day becomes just a bit easier. Each night brings a sounder sleep. And, life goes on.

I will have no problem remembering my Mom forever

I love this little silver pendant engraved with "Remember me forever." I think it's especially appropriate for a younger woman who has lost a loved one.

Cremation jewelry (who knew?!)

Being Jewish, we don't cremate and I find these jewelry gifts a bit "oogey" (technical term) but I can understand others wanting to keep those close to them, well, close to them. These little necklaces are a way to carry a bit of your loved one with you forever. Just strange to me...but, you might like them.

Angel Wing Heart Sterling Silver Cremation Jewelry

Wing of an Angel Sterling Silver Cremation Jewelry

Renaissance Heart Sterling Silver Cremation Jewelry

Eternity Heart Sterling Silver Cremation Jewelry

Wrapped in Love Sterling Silver Cremation Jewelry

Eternity Circle Sterling Silver Cremation Jewelry

I used to love to read all of the comments on my writings to Mom but, now, I'll just read them to the 6 dogs and 1 cat who surround me. Love comes in many forms, doesn't it?

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      anonymous 4 years ago

      Really, Am so much overwhelmed to see your love for your mother. Really, its so inspiring that you made so many lens that is dedicated to your mother and elderly people. Even i was very closed to my grandmother, seems quite like your mother. RIP for your mother. Hats off to you!

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      SarahPorter LM 4 years ago

      Very moving article with lots of really nice jewelry. Thanks for sharing!

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      Fay Favored 5 years ago from USA

      We all came to love your mom through your writings, and miss her. As you, I never heard of this jewelry. A bit strange to me but others may find comfort in it.

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      Jennifer P Tanabe 5 years ago from Red Hook, NY

      Beautiful ideas for bereavement gifts! So glad you found something so beautiful to write about after the loss of your mom. I was hoping you'd keep writing!

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      Lorelei Cohen 5 years ago from Canada

      Your mom will live forever within the article which you have so lovingly written. I am sure that she so appreciates this.

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      Gayle 5 years ago from McLaughlin

      I am so sorry to hear about your mom! You were so faithful to her through the many years of caring for her. Thanks for these ideas about bereavement gifts. It has given me several ideas.

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      Virginia Allain 5 years ago from Central Florida

      When I lost my sister, I bought a simple necklace with her name spelled out. Just having that around my neck each day was important to me. We each find out own way to grieve and pay tribute to the one we are missing.

      This page will help others going through this difficult time.

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      MartieG aka 'survivoryea' 5 years ago from Jersey Shore

      Love the remembrance lamp-how special and an idea I plan to remember if needed. Take care.

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      ChrissLJ 5 years ago

      I like the idea of the remembrance lamp. What a perfect and personal way to remember your very special mother. (And yes, my four-legged fur children agree that love comes in many forms.)

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      gottaloveit2 5 years ago

      @bossypants: So sweet to be remembered, Bossy. I am doing well - I have a plethora of the best friends in the entire world surrounding me. I couldn't ever have hoped for a better support system. They loved my Mom as much as they love me. How lucky am I?!

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      gottaloveit2 5 years ago

      @Scarlettohairy: Thanks, Peggy, I'm doing fine - I think that's because I have absolutely no regrets. I did the best I could, I fulfilled my promise to my Dad and to my Mom, and my Mom was with me to the very end. She died at home as she wanted. Life goes on now - just not sure where it's going to take me next. Lvoe!

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      bossypants 5 years ago from America's Dairyland

      So good to see you, again, Lori. You've been in my thoughts. As Peggy said, it sounds like you are doing well, safe in the love of many friends -- 2- and 4-legged.

      Once again, you've turned your circumstances and experiences inot a lens that will help many others. Nicely done!

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      Peggy Hazelwood 5 years ago from Desert Southwest, U.S.A.

      Lori, I'm glad to see you're doing all right. I knew you would. This article is a great way to help you work through your new life. Keep on writing!

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      TenPoundTenor 5 years ago

      What a wonderful idea. Great lens.