For My Valentine
It Sends Lovers Wild
The time of year when lovers of all types choose to make their day a whole lot better. It's a time to say I love you, and its a time to celebrate your partner and your relationship. So you should be prepared well in advance for how you will do that.
Gift giving is one of the nicest things that can happen to you and those on the receiving end will always remember the way you treat them. It might lead to a lasting friendship, a marriage proposal or just a casual relationship going nowhere into the future but it will always hold a special place in your heart when you make someone else happy, even for a day.
Who was Valentine?
Where does the Festival originate?
As with most of the old so-called saints of the Catholic church this one is shrouded in mystery and there is no official record of such a person, but there is a lot of speculation. The Church habitually adopted popular cult rituals into its calendar and twisted their origin and background until they became cemented in its own doctrine. St. Valentine appears to be just such a farce.
When searching for the origin of it only one possibility came up and that was an old Roman festival called Lupercialia (festival of Lupa). There is not a lot surviving on these events and one has to dig deep to find them as the Catholic fathers made sure that references to anything not Catholic was erased. But underneath there are remnants of things they could not erase, that is in writings by individuals and in archaeology. On History.com there is a reference to the Luperci as being related to the celebration of Romulus and Remus, the twins who supposedly founded Rome.
This took place on February 15th (the Ides) in or near a cave where they were cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. A collection of priests would sacrifice a goat for fertility and a dog for purity and then slice the goats hide into strips. They then dipped the strips in sacrificial blood before roaming the streets slapping women and fields of corn with them. The women enjoyed being selected as they believed it would make them fertile. Young women would then place their names in an urn and later these would be drawn out one by one by eligible bachelors in the city who then paired up with them for the coming year.
These relationships would often end in marriage and in 498 AD the Bishop of Rome, Galasius, outlawed the ritual and declared February 14th St. Valentine's Day. While the Church, founded in 325AD, could not stop the desire for the proceedings it was declared un-Christian and by outlawing it those who persisted with it could be severely punished or even executed.
The Church claimed 3 martyrs named Valentine, one of which was made a saint, but there is no actual record of them nor evidence that they are connected to the festival. If they were martyrs they probably had other things on their mind.
The color red is still a potent symbol for lovers and it is indicative of blood and, therefore, fertility as per the above practices. The idea of love and partnership obviously stems from such a festival as one cannot imagine a Catholic priest being responsible for bringing lovers together in such a way.
"The oldest known valentine still in existence today was a poem written by Charles, Duke of Orleans to his wife while he was imprisoned in the Tower of London following his capture at the Battle of Agincourt. The greeting, which was written in 1415, is part of the manuscript collection of the British Library in London, England. Several years later, it is believed that King Henry V hired a writer named John Lydgate to compose a valentine note to Catherine of Valois." (cited History.com)
According to this source the popularity of the day increased during the eighteen century when it became common practice to send notes and small gifts to friend and lovers and by the end of the century cards were already being used for that purpose. It is estimated that now more than a billion cards are received on this day world wide.
Valentine Day Quotations
Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.
Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.
- Lao Tzu
My bounty is as boundless as the sea,
My love as deep; the more I give to thee,
The more I have, for both are infinite.
- William Shakespeare, Romeo and Juliet
How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.
- Elizabeth Barrett Browning
Young love is a flame; very pretty, often very hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and disciplined heart is as coals, deep-burning, unquenchable.
- Henry Ward Beecher
Age does not protect you from love. But love, to some extent, protects you from age.
- Anais Nin
Life has taught us that love does not consist in gazing at each other but in looking outward in the same direction.
- Antoine de Saint-Exupery
Love has no desire but to fulfill itself.
But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires;
To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
To know the pain of too much tenderness.
To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
- Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart.
Love does not dominate; it cultivates.
- Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
Love makes your soul crawl out from its hiding place.
- Zora Neale Hurston
Love is life. All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love. Everything is, everything exists, only because I love.
- Leo Tolstoy
Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away.
- Dorothy Parker
I have learned not to worry about love; but to honor its coming with all my heart.
- Alice Walker
I love you without knowing how, or when, or from where.
I love you straightforwardly, without complexities or pride;
so I love you because I know no other way
than this: where I does not exist nor you,
so close that your hand on my chest is my hand,
so close that your eyes close as I fall asleep.
- Pablo Neruda, "Love Sonnet XVII"
Dear Kylie and Lovers
Famous Lovers of History
How many men model themselves on Casanova?
Casanova wrote of his many sexual and romantic exploits in 18th-century Europe. Born in 1725 he joined a seminary but was expelled due to scandalous conduct and his book, Historire de ma vie, covered many of his sexual exploits and encounters. "Casanova's celebration of pleasure seeking and much-professed love of women - he maintained that a woman's conversation was at least as captivating as her body - made him the leading champion of a movement towards sexual freedom, and the model for the famous Don Juan of literature." (History.com)
This was one of the first and most famous lover I heard about during my teenage years. So it was inevitable that one day I would possess his book and learn of his exploits first hand. As a Roman lover it was a puzzle why he was considered so great. Personally he appeared to me to be over-sexed and out of control as he entered bedroom after bed room of his lovers, many of whom later suffered the consequences with some great loss of face and dignity. In fact he was a rogue and in today's western society would probably be arrested as a serial offender.
There have been many other famous lovers and some are looked on with horror, one of them would have to be Henry VIII who used women for pleasure and not necessarily for their companionship or other attributes. To lose your head because the king got sick of you would have been a turn off but many women have died over the centuries for this same reason. Loose your looks and appeal girls and you might still be in for a fate worse then death.
But lovers don't see the future as they live for the present mainly. Hormones and sentiment, love and romance is all that matters on Valentine's Day and eventually there may be marriage as a result. But on the day it's all about love and more love and romance
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Valentines engage their sweethearts. Roses say it in a beautiful way and are the best Valentines flowers. They constitute an essential part of this day's gift Ideas. Red Roses are universal, and particularly preferred. Add chocolate to sweeten them and give a card with your message. The latter is the valentine.
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