How to Enjoy the Christmas Holidays Alone
Single and Alone for the Holidays?
Christmas is usually one of the happiest times of the year but if you find yourself single and alone at Christmas then you may be wondering how you are going to manage to enjoy this very special holiday season.
Christmas is a holiday of love, peace, joy, and giving, but when you are single it can also be a very lonely time of year if you have not prepared for it. So let's figure out what you can do to make the holidays a little more cheerful for you.
There are Many People Who Spend Christmas Day Alone
Christmas is the Ideal Time to Make New Friends.
If you have moved to a new town, undergone a marriage separation, been busy with work, or for some other reason lessened your social contacts over the past year then it is time to make some new friends.
Don't just allow yourself to feel alone during the holidays. It's time to dig just a wee bit deeper to find people to pass greetings along to this holiday season.
This year make each person that you know count. Christmas is a time to surround yourself with family, and friends, and it is also the perfect time of year to make new friends.
Keep in mind that you are not the only lonely person out there at this time of year.
Do up a card for your paper boy, your pharmacist, your doctor's office, and any other associates who gave you good service this past year. You can even pass cards along to your favorite grocery store, department store, and city hall. Businesses appreciate receiving a positive message during the very hectic holiday season.
Make eye contact with the people who you encounter in the mall or out on the street. Smile and say a Merry Christmas greeting to the people you meet. Just stopping to say hi or to give a kind gesture to another person is how we begin creating new friendships.
The process of acknowledging the people around you with a seasons greeting is a great way of bringing these people just a little bit closer to you.
Make a Firm Decision to Enjoy the Holiday Season.
Don't pack Christmas away in the closet and decide that you are not going to celebrate it this year. Being single or alone over the holidays should never take away your holiday spirit.
There are hundreds of ways to enjoy the season even when you find yourself alone. You just have to discover the method that works best for you.
It is funny but Christmas is a lot like smiling. You may not feel like doing it, but once you start, it has a funny way of forcing you to feel good inside. Putting on some lively Christmas tunes is the first step. Christmas music really does help to get you into the holiday swing of things.
Don't Have any Christmas Songs Recorded? Visit Youtube.com Where There is a Wealth of Free Listening.
Spend Christmas Visiting with Others on the Internet.
You won't feel quite so alone if you go online during the holiday season to a social networking or interactive game site. You may just be more than a little surprised at how many other people are spending a large part of their Christmas season on the Internet.
There are thousands of people who are single or alone during the holidays and they may be feeling exactly the same as you.
Great interactive sites for Christmas visiting, chatting, or game play are:
Fortunately Father Time is a Wonderful Old Soul. He Gives us 12 months Each and Every Year to Prepare for Christmas.
Find something that you would be able to do every year and begin your own unique Christmas tradition.
You could drop bird seed at a local park, visit your local seniors center with small gifts, build a snow man at your local park, or decorate a tree. You could attend church. It is your holiday tradition so you figure it out.
Prepare a list of people who you can send holiday greetings to.
You many not be as alone as you think you are. We sometimes don't realize just how many people we associate with throughout the year. There are a lot of people who are important to us in one way or another, but who we unfortunately sometimes tend to trivialize our relationship to, rather than acknowledge them as a person who exists within our social support network.
As the holiday season draws near start preparing a list of people who you can send out holiday greeting cards to. This list should include family, co-workers, friends, and even acquaintances who have shown us a kindness or good service throughout the past year. This gesture of well wishes to others during the holiday season is very important. Sending greeting cards is a visible way to show you that you are not alone.
Phone someone to wish them a Merry Christmas.
Surround Yourself with Friends Family or Acquaintances
If your special people are far away, then bring them just a little bit closer by thinking about them, talking to them, or sending them a Christmas greeting.
Pick up the phone and call your distant cousin or that friend who you haven't spoken to in quite some time. By bringing yourself emotionally closer to those who are distanced from you, they seem just a little bit closer as you draw them deeper into your heart.
This helps to remind you that you really are not alone. There are people out there who care about you.
Volunteering Can Help You Feel Less Lonely
Surround yourself with other people during the holiday season. This is actually easier to do than most people realize. There are many charities and local care centers who are in need of volunteers during the holiday season.
It is hard to feel alone when you are surrounded by other people who are all working toward a common goal. Volunteer your time at a local food bank, a local church group, the Salvation Army hamper preparation, your local animal shelter, or a local soup kitchen. Your help will be very appreciated during the holiday season and you definitely will not be alone.
Check with your local radio station or newspaper to see which charitable holiday events, get-togethers, or meals are happening in your town on Christmas day.
For your Christmas meal you can choose to dine in on a small single serve meal, cook yourself up the full meal deal and freeze the leftovers, accept an invitation to dinner that you have been offered by a friend or associate, or go out to a local church or charity dinner.
Giving of yourself during the holidays is a very wonderful way to take the sting off of being single or alone at Christmas. You discover that you really are not alone and you also get to see how very fortunate you are in your life. Volunteering can be a great way to warm away any gloomy seasonal thoughts.
Make Your Own Merry Little Christmas.
Deck the house with holly. Put on the Christmas music and set up the tree. Pick up some bird feed and set it out in a feeder to give a few of the wintering birds a Christmas feast.
For this to be a true Christmas you will need presents from Santa under your Christmas tree too. So you need to find gifts which will excite you and keep you anxious until you are able to open them on Christmas morning. You need to find Christmas presents which will surprise you Christmas morning.
Many stores carry surprise packages, order one of these, and place it still in it's parcel state under your tree. Phone a couple of your local stores, and ask them to do up a specific priced gift for a person your age, and sex. Smaller sized specialty stores will usually gladly comply. The clerks are usually very willing to participate in doing the gift hunting for you.
A few examples of gifts which you might put under your tree from Santa Claus would be a new calendar, a nice bottle of wine, your absolute most favorite edible treats, a package of lottery scratch tickets, a movie video, puzzle books, a jigsaw puzzle, or a new book which you have been wanting to read but have not had the opportunity to. These gifts will give you something to look forward to on the big day.
Send Yourself a Gift Basket for Christmas.
Gift baskets are the perfect gift for a person who is single as they contain a wide array of items and come in a wide variety of themes. Food basket, treat basket, or spa basket are all unique choices. Amazon.com carries a wide variety or check with your local florist, grocery, or department stores to see if they offer these.
A spa gift basket is a nice treat for Christmas day. You can enjoy a soothing soak in scented relaxation. A home spa is a delightful pampering experience.
Everyone deserves a little pampering and around the holidays is the perfect time of year to enjoy a little relaxation. It is easy to be a little surprised at the gift items that are in the basket you receive.
Becoming single again was a very real surprise happening for me and with only a few weeks till the big day I made the decision that my holiday was still going to happen. I wanted my holiday to be as normal as I could make it. I wracked my brain for gifts I could purchase for myself that would still be a surprise for me on Christmas morning. I found a quite a few ideas.
Gifts to Myself - Gifts for a Single Person
- Scratch lottery tickets.
These take awhile to scratch so occupy quite a bit of time. I turn the tree lights on to blink, brew my coffee, turn on some music, and sit down to relax and scratch my Christmas tickets.
- A huge container of cashews.
I love cashews but they are very expensive so usually only get purchased a few times each year.
- After Eight Mints.
They are a special treat reserved for this time of year and they make me feel very special.
- A new notebook or journal.
- A new calendar themed to my interests.
I love the 365 page desk calendars as some of them are amazing. They feature an origami craft, recipe, or joke for every day of the year. I love that. It just makes every day of the year a little more special.
- A large jigsaw puzzle.
This is an activity that is relaxing and entertaining. (Impossible to do when you own a cat as they seem to love to get up on it and scatter the pieces from here to eternity. Yep been there and done that.)
- A new address book for telephone or email addresses.
Gives me something to do as I clean up the mess I have made in the old one.
- Crossword puzzle books.
- A gift basket because it is filled with all kinds of surprises.
- A surprise package. I ordered one from a Regal Catologue. These can be purchased from ebay as well as many other retailers. Can't find one? Ask a clerk at a local store if they would be willing to create one for you.
Hang a Bird Feeder. Their Song and Antics can be Heart Warming
Let Santa Surprise You on Christmas Morning
We always retain a little kid factor in us no matter how old we get. So surprise yourself. The only difference with shopping for yourself is that you really do have to get a little more creative at keeping the present exciting for Christmas morning.
A gift basket full of delightful gifts and treats is the ideal treasure trove to surprise you under the tree on Christmas morning. It is a great gift idea for a single person even when that term applies to you
There are many available online or at your local retailers or grocers and these baskets contain a wonderfully wide array of items in them. No peeking before Christmas morning though or you'll ruin the surprise.
Exercise is Good for the Body and the Mind
A gift of fitness is great for putting you in better spirits. Plan to be a healthier you in the new year with a gift to yourself that will help you become a stronger person emotionally and physically. Wii Fitness, Zumba, a weight set, or a gym membership are great gifts to help bring confidence and good health.
Caring for a Pet or a Plant Really Does Help You Feel Less Lonely
When we talk to or care for other living creatures we really do not feel quite so alone. It may sound silly but picking up some houseplants or a pet to share your home with really does make a difference. If you are not quite sure that you are ready to adopt a pet then try volunteering at your local animal shelter over the holidays. The pets there will need Christmas dinner too.
Some animal shelters ask for individuals to take pets home with them during the holidays when staffing levels are low. Having a furry friend to spend Christmas with can really help to brighten the holidays. Don't forget that animals have feelings too, so put some special treats under your Christmas tree for them, and expect to give them plenty of love during their visit to your home.
Of course what the shelters really hope is that you will fall in love with your new friend and decide to provide them with a more permanent home...but that is completely up to you.
Speaking of the Christmas tree, make sure that you put one up, this traditional activity is a very important aspect of the holiday season.
It's a little cold to plant a new tree but you could hang a bird feeder in an old one. That would be so nice.
You Could Join a Publishing Site and Like Myself Write Online
There are quite a few free publishing platforms on the internet and many pay you a little pocket change to write online. It can be pretty low income but it is an added bonus to voicing your thoughts.
These are many excellent places to begin writing at and not only does writing out your thoughts make you feel better, but it also provides a tremendous support network of peers to connect with. Most publishing sites have community forums where you can go to ask questions and gain support from other writers.
Travel Somewhere Sunny Over the Holidays
Take Time To Play it is so Very Important
When you participate in pleasurable activities like smiling, laughing, exercising or playing, your brain does an amazing thing and releases a little chemical message known as an endorphin.
These endorphins are feel good messages that have the power to actually remove physical and emotional pain. They travel down the spine, and then throughout your body, sending a feeling of well being as they go.
These endorphins not only have the ability to relieve pain but they also have the power to make you feel happy. The good news is that your brain is a really not that smart and can't recognize a fake smile or laugh from the real one. If you smile at yourself in the mirror or practice different ways to laugh your brain will release the endorphins anyway.
Dance around the living room, build a model car, or watch cartoons. Remember to take time to play everyday - It really is important.
It is up to You to Make Your Christmas Holiday Special
Christmas happens each year, and even if you are feeling kind of Grinchy you cannot make it go away. No matter how hard you try to deny that it exists, it does and you are the only one who can decide how you will celebrate through it.
With a little pre-planning before hand, and knowing what you can do to celebrate your Christmas can turn out to be something which you look back on with a smile. Make yourself a merry little holiday season. Ho Ho Ho.
Have a very
© 2010 Lorelei Cohen