How to Celebrate Father's Day When Your Dad Has Passed Away
Father's Day Without a Father
It's hard to not feel sad when your Dad has passed away and Father's Day comes around. However, there are things you can do to turn around the day and make it brighter for you by celebrating his life.
I've lost my Dad, so I know what it feels like. I also know there are ways to feel better and learn to rejoice and honor the memory of your Dad. I would like to help you to do that.
Now ask yourself, what do you think your Dad would wish for you to do? Most likely, he would rather see you be happy on his special day.
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Father's Day for Deceased Dad
It's hard for anyone to lose their Dad. What made it even harder for me is that I lost him less than a year after I lost my Mother. Combine that with being single, having no kids and being an only child, I really felt alone in the world.
Then, I started to think about how my Dad lived his life. He was pretty low key and not very emotional. He had a real love for life. I knew in my heart that he wouldn't want to see me in tears, but rather remember him for all of the things that he loved. This was a turning point for me.
I decided instead to try to celebrate his life and the things that meant so much to him. This made it so much easier.
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Father's Day Dad Passed Away
What were your Dad's favorite things to do? Perhaps you do one of them in his honor? My Dad loved the Mexican culture and always listened to the Hispanic radio station and watched the Hispanic TV shows. For me, listening to this kind of music brings back fond memories. If your Dad had a favorite type of music, how about listening to some of it?
A lot of dads love sports. If your Father had a favorite, how about playing it or perhaps watching it on TV? Did he enjoy being outdoors? If so, why not spend some time outside doing something that he liked to do? Perhaps playing some ball or going on a bike ride?
Lots of fathers like to barbecue. If your Dad was liked to do this, how about planning a family barbecue. Not only would you have people around who knew your Dad, you could comfort each other and hopefully share some happy memories of him.
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Memorial Picture Frame
Here's a sentimental and beautiful way to remember Dad.
Dance With My Father - Celine Dion
If you feel like you need a good cry before you can move on, "Dance With My Father" is sure to bring on the tears. The lyrics are so emotional and beautifully written.
I've included two different versions. Females will probably relate more to Celine Dion's version, while males will most likely connect more with Luther Vandross's version. In either case, get some tissues ready as it's a real tear jerker.
Try to remember some funny stories about your Dad. These can really help to bring a smile to your face. Here's one of mine.
My Dad was bald. My Mom decided that he should get a wig. Imagine the horror I felt when as a teenager, out in a public place with a bunch of friends, when my Dad suddenly showed up with a full head of hair!
I was so embarrassed at the time, but now when I think back on it, it makes me crack up. You must have some funny memories of your own. Try to think of us many as you can to make the day brighter for you.
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Father's Day Quote for Deceased Dads
Perhaps an inspirational quote might make you feel better. Here is one that I particularly love. It offers hope. I find a special meaning in this as I believe our souls live on after death and I still think my Dad watches out over me. Do you ever think you feel your Dad's presence? If so, you are not alone.
"To live in hearts we leave behind is not to die."— Thomas Campbell
Has your Dad passed away?
Has your Dad passed away?
Father's Day Memorial
I don't know about you, but my Dad was always the one who worked on the yard. If you have a yard or garden, you might be interested in adding this in memory of your Father.
Memorial Garden Stone
I love how beautiful this is and what it has to say.
Remembering Your Father
Sometimes people live with regrets for not telling a loved one something before they passed away. If this is the case with your Dad, Father's Day is the perfect day to speak out loud and tell your Dad whatever it is you wished you would have told him while he was still alive.
Whether you believe he can hear you or not, it's almost like a form of therapy to get the words out of your mouth and system. Yes, it will probably bring some tears, but mostly you'll feel better afterwards as you were at least able to speak the words. I still talk to my Dad every Father's Day and always wish him a happy day.
It's been many years since my Father passed away and the pain does get easier. In fact, these days Father's Day is more about celebrating it with my kids for their Dad.
It doesn't mean I don't still miss my Dad. In fact, my eyes have teared several times while writing this. However, I have followed my own advice and each time this happened, I would just recall another good memory of my Dad and that would put a smile back on my face.
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Father's Day Poems For Deceased Dads
Sometimes poems can express the words we can't seem to find. If you would like to offer a poem for your Dad, I have some listed below you might enjoy. Just click on the link to be taken to the different poems.
Father's Day Poem
This is a lovely tribute.
Happy Father's Day to My Late Father
It's easy to want to mourn the passing of your Dad on Father's Day. After all, it's hard to let go of one of the most important people in your life. If you need to cry, go ahead and do it, then please try to turn things around and celebrate his life.
Don't forget to remember some of the fun things you and your Dad used to do together along with the funny stories. As parents, we want to see our children happy. I'm sure your Dad would much rather see you smiling than crying. It's also a way to keep his memory alive through the good times the two of you shared together.
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