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How to Celebrate Mother's Day When Your Mom Has Passed Away

Updated on July 24, 2014

Mother's Day Without Mom

Learn how to celebrate Mother's Day when your mom has passed away including Mother's Day poems for moms that have passed away and ways to celebrate her life.

Losing your mom is difficult enough, but it's even harder when her special day comes around. As sad as it may be, there are ways to turn this into a positive celebration and honor your mom for all she did for you.

I know how it feels. I lost my mom. The first year is the hardest, but it gets easier from there. The big question to ask is would your Mother want you to be sad or would she prefer you to remember the good times? I'd like to show you ways to do just that.

Flower image by Angie David2011 at Flickr through Creative Commons licensing.

Mother's Day Without a Mother

Bright Heart
Bright Heart

It might sound crazy to try to celebrate Mother's Day when your mom is no longer with you, but there are numerous ways in which you can do this.

Let's start with flowers. Most moms like flowers. It's quite traditional to place flowers on a grave. However, who is going to enjoy them? If you want to give your mom flowers, then place them on a table or mantel in your home so everyone can enjoy them and think of her each time they walk by.

Did she have any favorite songs or music? If so, play them in honor of her. What about a favorite food? If you and your family happen to like this food, why not cook it up? How about a favorite activity? Did she enjoy taking walks? If so, why not take one in honor of her and look for the sights she most enjoy seeing such as fresh flowers, birds in a tree, etc?

How about crafts? If she enjoyed making these, gather up the whole family and make some. What a delightful personalized gift this would make. No matter what you chose, the idea is to remember her by doing something that she liked to do.

Heart image by Arbor Lux at Flickr through Creative Commons licensing.

Memorial Picture Frame

Broken Chain Remembrance Memorial Photo Frame
Broken Chain Remembrance Memorial Photo Frame

Place your Mother's picture inside the frame for a beautiful remembrance of her. The poem is very touching and is a tribute to the love your Mother felt.

 

Remembering Your Mother

Mother's Day Candle
Mother's Day Candle

This is a wonderful opportunity to go through old pictures and remember some special times. One of my favorites was Christmas. I used to wake up at the crack of dawn and slowly make my way down the hallway to see if Santa had come and brought me toys. Then, I would wake my parents up at around 5 or 6 am to show them each toy one at a time. They were so patient with this. My family Christmas pictures are priceless to me.

Another fond memory are vacation photos. My mom loved her vacations and I have tons of pictures from each of them. A great idea is to gather up happy memories like these and either put them into a photo album or scrapbook.

To be honest, mixed emotions will occur. Yes, you'll still feel the sadness of your loss, but on the other hand, it's a great way to remember some of your favorite moments with your mom.

A different idea is to gather everyone up at night and light a candle. Pass the candle around and let each person say something about Mom. It could be reflecting on a memory or even speaking directly to her. This is quite a beautiful experience.

Candle image by YIM Hafiz at Flickr through Creative Commons Licensing.

Scrapbook for Mother

K&Company 12-by-12-Inch Mega Scrapbook Kit, Pink/Brown
K&Company 12-by-12-Inch Mega Scrapbook Kit, Pink/Brown

Putting together a scrapbook can be so therapeutic. It's a really good way to incorporate all of the great memories of your mom. This set comes with a scrapbook, pages and stickers so you can have a special keepsake of memories of her.

 

Mother's Day Poems for Deceased Mothers

Heaven
Heaven

It's never too late to let your mom know how you feel about her. If you feel comfortable, why not write her a special poem and read it out loud to her? If you can't find the right words, I have a couple of poems I've written for my mom that you are welcome to use. I'm a writer, not a poet, but if you like either of these, I would be honored for you to share them with your mom.

I Miss My Mother

I miss my Mother on this very special day,

And I wonder what words of wisdom she would have to say.

Would she offer a hug or a warm embrace?

Or would she gently touch me on my face?

I wonder where she is now and what she can see,

Does she hover around still taking care of me?

I hope she feels the love from my heart,

And of my life, she is still a big part.

Goodbye Mom

It's so sad to see you go,

My tears will not end.

Yet, I see your smiling face

Across every bend.

I know your love is here

I feel it every day.

Yet it's hard to understand

Why you had to go away.

On Mother's Day I honor

The memories of you.

The joys that you have given,

And the love that is so true.

Clouds image by JFXie at Flickr through Creative Commons licensing.

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Mother's Day for Deceased Mom

Pink Rose
Pink Rose

Even if your mom has passed, you can still honor her with a Mother's Day gift. Did she have a favorite charity? If so, you can make a donation in her name. Keep in mind that donations don't have to cost anything. There's a good chance you have some items lying around the house that you don't need anymore.

Perhaps you have some gently used clothing, old books, appliances, toys or other items you no longer use. Some charities accept items whether they work or not. This can include old TVs, cell phones, computer monitors, radios, etc. You could check to see which charities are in your area and what they are in need of.

You could also volunteer your time. Is there an animal rescue group nearby that needs help? How about a soup kitchen? Not only would you be honoring your mother by remembering her for Mother's Day, you would also be helping out others in her name.

Rose image by T.Kiya at Flickr through Creative Commons licensing.

Mother's Day Memorial

Evergreen Enterprises EG844411 Not a Day Goes By Garden Stone (Set of 1)
Evergreen Enterprises EG844411 Not a Day Goes By Garden Stone (Set of 1)

Do you have a garden? If so, you could add this beautiful garden stone in memory of your mom. Isn't it beautiful?

 

Song For Mother's Day

This is a beautiful song for you to remember your Mother with. It's a ballad by Boyz II Men entitled A Song For Mama. Be sure to have a tissue handy.

My Mom Passed Away and I Miss Her

Mother and Child Holding Hands
Mother and Child Holding Hands

It's OK to miss your mom on Mother's Day and some tears are normal to be shed. If at all possible, try not to spend the day alone. You never know when you might feel the urge the talk or perhaps need a hug. However, try your best to turn your negative feelings into positive ones.

As a Mother myself, I stopped and thought about how I would want my children to feel on Mother's Day when I'm no longer here and my first thought was for them to remember the good times and celebrate them.

I would hope they would partake in a fun activity we did as a family. They could go for a hike, have a picnic at the park, watch a Disney movie or gather together for a board game all while recounting some of our family's funny stories.

It's hard when your mom is no longer with you and of course no one can replace her. However, you can celebrate her life and honor her in happiness on this day which is meant especially for her.

Holding hands image by davi sommerfeld at Flickr through Creative Commons licensing.

What kind of special memory do you have of your mom? (Whether she is deceased or not.)

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      @AlanJC321: You are so lucky you still have them.

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      AlanJC321 3 years ago

      Thanks for the inspiring lens. I feel so fortunate I still have my parents and will cherish them more now.

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      @favored: That must have been such a nice thing to do with your Mom.

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      @CoolFool83: Very kind of you to say.

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      Fay Favored 3 years ago from USA

      Conversations over a cup of tea are something I really miss with mom. Really sweet article Janis.

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      CoolFool83 3 years ago

      Such an inspiring lense! This is very thoughtful!

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      @BodyHairRemoval: This is such a sad situation, especially for your Mom. I hope she made it through the day. I'm sure you were there for her.

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      BodyHairRemoval 3 years ago

      Thanks for sharing. This is tough for me. My mother is still alive. But my grandma (her mom) recently passed. It happen a month ago, so celebrating was a little difficult this year. Obviously for her it was pretty hard.

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      @kimberlyschimmel: Oh it's like having a part of her mom still with her.

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      Kathryn Grace 3 years ago from San Francisco

      My mom is a lifelong nature lover and gardener, and even though she is in her nineties and cannot do a lot of gardening, she still keeps a small container garden on her front deck and a little kitchen garden in the back, as well as lots of house plants, some of them older than she is, for she inherited some of her dad's plants.Each year, we give gratitude that Mom is still with us, and we never know if this will be the last Mother's Day/birthday/holiday she will spend with us.Thank you for providing this resource for those who have lost their mothers or realize the time may be very soon. May you be comforted always with the good memories of your mom. Your reminders that Mom would want her family to be cheerful and enjoying life are so important. I especially like your idea of giving yourself the flowers you would have given to her. I know my mom would love that.

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      Kimberly Schimmel, MLS 3 years ago from Greensboro, NC

      Yesterday my mother was comforted on Mother's Day by the flowers all around her house--planted by her Mom over twenty years ago.

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      @esmonaco: I'm glad you are able to remember the good things.

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      Eugene Samuel Monaco 3 years ago from Lakewood New York

      I remember all of the good times we had growing up, as our mother was always there for us. Thanks

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      @CurtisStolz: I am so sorry Curtis. What you are feeling now it so normal. It hasn't been very long since you lost her. Please know that time is a wonderful healer. In time, you will be able to feel happy again. Please private message me if you feel like talking. I'm here for you.

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      CurtisStolz 3 years ago

      Theres a sickening pain that will never go away, lost my mom on march 22nd and every year we spent mothers day together, Maybe next year ill be less pragmatic about it but I thought after a month and a half I wouldn't be crying still. (not that there is anything wrong with that). then I get to really get broken down when i do her memorial service on her bday may 22nd. How any of you have lost your mothers and have gone on to be happy and successful i can not even fathom how you've done that, ive never felt so lost in my life.

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      @GrammieOlivia: I hope that time doesn't happen for a very long time.

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      GrammieOlivia 3 years ago

      Her just being around, a phone call away, or a short drive when I need to see her.......oh I'm not looking for the day when she isn't there!

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      @jolou: I'm sorry about your mom. To have this happen on Mother's Day weekend must have been so devastating. I'm glad things have gotten easier for you.

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      jolou 3 years ago

      I prefer to remember the good times. It will be seven years since my Mom passed away this year. She died on mother's day weekend, which made it that much harder. However, with the passage of time, it's much easier now to remember happy occasions, rather than to be sad.

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      georgepmoola2 3 years ago

      A very thoughtful lens.

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      @Kim Milai: I'm so sorry for the loss of your father.

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      WriterJanis2 3 years ago

      @takkhisa: I so appreciate that you let me know this.

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      Kim Milai 3 years ago

      This is a very touching and helpful article the photo frame is so beautiful. I still have my Mom but my Dad passed away in 1997.

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      Takkhis 3 years ago

      I am just sorry to know that your mother is no longer with you but this lens shows even though she is not with you now, still you can celebrate mother's day! Great lens with great ideas to celebrate Mother's day!