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How to Celebrate Mother's Day When Your Mom Has Passed Away
Mother's Day Without Mom
Learn how to celebrate Mother's Day when your mom has passed away including Mother's Day poems for moms that have passed away and ways to celebrate her life.
Losing your mom is difficult enough, but it's even harder when her special day comes around. As sad as it may be, there are ways to turn this into a positive celebration and honor your mom for all she did for you.
I know how it feels. I lost my mom. The first year is the hardest, but it gets easier from there. The big question to ask is would your Mother want you to be sad or would she prefer you to remember the good times? I'd like to show you ways to do just that.
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Mother's Day Without a Mother
It might sound crazy to try to celebrate Mother's Day when your mom is no longer with you, but there are numerous ways in which you can do this.
Let's start with flowers. Most moms like flowers. It's quite traditional to place flowers on a grave. However, who is going to enjoy them? If you want to give your mom flowers, then place them on a table or mantel in your home so everyone can enjoy them and think of her each time they walk by.
Did she have any favorite songs or music? If so, play them in honor of her. What about a favorite food? If you and your family happen to like this food, why not cook it up? How about a favorite activity? Did she enjoy taking walks? If so, why not take one in honor of her and look for the sights she most enjoy seeing such as fresh flowers, birds in a tree, etc?
How about crafts? If she enjoyed making these, gather up the whole family and make some. What a delightful personalized gift this would make. No matter what you chose, the idea is to remember her by doing something that she liked to do.
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Memorial Picture Frame
Place your Mother's picture inside the frame for a beautiful remembrance of her. The poem is very touching and is a tribute to the love your Mother felt.
Remembering Your Mother
This is a wonderful opportunity to go through old pictures and remember some special times. One of my favorites was Christmas. I used to wake up at the crack of dawn and slowly make my way down the hallway to see if Santa had come and brought me toys. Then, I would wake my parents up at around 5 or 6 am to show them each toy one at a time. They were so patient with this. My family Christmas pictures are priceless to me.
Another fond memory are vacation photos. My mom loved her vacations and I have tons of pictures from each of them. A great idea is to gather up happy memories like these and either put them into a photo album or scrapbook.
To be honest, mixed emotions will occur. Yes, you'll still feel the sadness of your loss, but on the other hand, it's a great way to remember some of your favorite moments with your mom.
A different idea is to gather everyone up at night and light a candle. Pass the candle around and let each person say something about Mom. It could be reflecting on a memory or even speaking directly to her. This is quite a beautiful experience.
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Scrapbook for Mother
Putting together a scrapbook can be so therapeutic. It's a really good way to incorporate all of the great memories of your mom. This set comes with a scrapbook, pages and stickers so you can have a special keepsake of memories of her.
Mother's Day Poems for Deceased Mothers
It's never too late to let your mom know how you feel about her. If you feel comfortable, why not write her a special poem and read it out loud to her? If you can't find the right words, I have a couple of poems I've written for my mom that you are welcome to use. I'm a writer, not a poet, but if you like either of these, I would be honored for you to share them with your mom.
I Miss My Mother
I miss my Mother on this very special day,
And I wonder what words of wisdom she would have to say.
Would she offer a hug or a warm embrace?
Or would she gently touch me on my face?
I wonder where she is now and what she can see,
Does she hover around still taking care of me?
I hope she feels the love from my heart,
And of my life, she is still a big part.
It's so sad to see you go,
My tears will not end.
Yet, I see your smiling face
Across every bend.
I know your love is here
I feel it every day.
Yet it's hard to understand
Why you had to go away.
On Mother's Day I honor
The memories of you.
The joys that you have given,
And the love that is so true.
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Mother's Day Poll
Have you lost your Mother?
Mother's Day for Deceased Mom
Even if your mom has passed, you can still honor her with a Mother's Day gift. Did she have a favorite charity? If so, you can make a donation in her name. Keep in mind that donations don't have to cost anything. There's a good chance you have some items lying around the house that you don't need anymore.
Perhaps you have some gently used clothing, old books, appliances, toys or other items you no longer use. Some charities accept items whether they work or not. This can include old TVs, cell phones, computer monitors, radios, etc. You could check to see which charities are in your area and what they are in need of.
You could also volunteer your time. Is there an animal rescue group nearby that needs help? How about a soup kitchen? Not only would you be honoring your mother by remembering her for Mother's Day, you would also be helping out others in her name.
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Mother's Day Memorial
Do you have a garden? If so, you could add this beautiful garden stone in memory of your mom. Isn't it beautiful?
Song For Mother's Day
This is a beautiful song for you to remember your Mother with. It's a ballad by Boyz II Men entitled A Song For Mama. Be sure to have a tissue handy.
My Mom Passed Away and I Miss Her
It's OK to miss your mom on Mother's Day and some tears are normal to be shed. If at all possible, try not to spend the day alone. You never know when you might feel the urge the talk or perhaps need a hug. However, try your best to turn your negative feelings into positive ones.
As a Mother myself, I stopped and thought about how I would want my children to feel on Mother's Day when I'm no longer here and my first thought was for them to remember the good times and celebrate them.
I would hope they would partake in a fun activity we did as a family. They could go for a hike, have a picnic at the park, watch a Disney movie or gather together for a board game all while recounting some of our family's funny stories.
It's hard when your mom is no longer with you and of course no one can replace her. However, you can celebrate her life and honor her in happiness on this day which is meant especially for her.
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