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Making and Keeping Goals Beyond New Years
Tips for Setting Realistic Goals That You Can Keep
Anytime of year is a great time to set goals for your life vision, or to change a bad habit. Don't wait until January 1st, 2015. Are you still working on New Year resolution goals which you can't seem to remember? You have come to the right article. This may help you change all that. Set lasting resolutions, plan goals, change your life! Learn some easy steps and tips.
Why do we find resolutions so hard to keep? Do you think we don't take our goals seriously enough that they are soon forgotten? Do we find the goal too hard to attain? Or, procrastinate?
Setting Unrealistic Goals?
Don't Bite Off More Than You Can Chew.
Nothing gives a sinking feeling of discouragement quicker then setting an unrealistically high goal. Big plans to accomplish our life dream seldom are attained immediately, but involve taking some smaller steps to get there. Put your life dream on a pedestal of hopes, and persevere, realizing the phrase life dream may mean just that. It may take what seems a lifetime to achieve. So keep that as a long-term goal.
Make Smaller Short-term Goals for Success.
Plan small stepping-stone resolutions, the path leading to accomplishing your Life Dream Goal. Setting smaller goals are easier and quicker to accomplish, giving confidence as a reward to spur you on.
Bad habits are hard to change, but making a resolution is a good way to change for the better. If you have determination and the motivation to change your bad habit to good, you can.
It may be harder as a person ages to change old bad habits. Sometimes, an older person becomes set in their ways. You've probably heard this saying "You can't teach an old dog new tricks". My opinion is that for people with a determined spirit and motivation, this isn't always a true analogy. With older individuals, as anyone, the will to change is a first step, and writing the resolution down where it's seen regularly as a reminder is helpful.
Difficult Goals? Seek Help.
With addictions, and extreme weight-loss dieting and other difficult goals, seek help from professionals. Don't procrastinate any longer! With any resolution we need to make a concentrated effort, but . . . It Is Possible. You will have great satisfaction in achieving your goal.
Continue reading Five Easy Steps To Making Resolutions and Keeping Them. Were there life milestones and events that triggered you into making resolutions and goals? Did it change your life, or rid bad habits? Find more tips for making those goals below. Plus, read three areas of life to explore and improve with self-development.
This year you may be excited to make new resolutions you'll keep.
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An Easy Resolution To Begin Today. Smile!
How contagious it is to see someone smile. It makes YOU smile! Or laughing? You may laugh, just hearing that person laughing. Did you ever think how much better a person looks smiling or laughing? When a person smiles or laughs their face brightens up. Their eyes shine or twinkle. Don't you love to be around happy-looking people. What if everyone smiled more. Try it! Pull up the corners of your mouth when with your family, or out in public.
Smile! Spread Some Happiness!
5 Easy Steps To Making Goals And Keeping Them. You Can Start Now!
How To Set Goals
1. Set reachable goals when making a resolution. Motivate yourself by having a good attitude and keeping the end result in mind. Have determination to carry through.
2. Write your resolution down where you will read it often. Keep it in your face for awhile. Place it on your mirror, refrigerator, day planner, calendar, computer, or smart phone. Stick a bookmark with the resolution printed in the current book you're reading, or in your Bible (if regularly used).
3. Announce your resolution: Tell your spouse, family, or friend. Ask them to encourage, or gently nag you if you need it. Better yet, if you have the same goal as a family member or friend you can work together. Do you both want to eat healthier foods, lose weight, get along better, or exercise. Give each other support.
Get closer with your teenager by resolving together to learn a new craft, a sport, or take a class you share an interest in. Choose one you'd both enjoy.
4.. Repetition, Repetition, Repetition. Old or bad habits change after much repetition. New things have to be learned. If your resolution is to learn a new skill, It takes repetition and practice, plus time.
5. Give yourself rewards. It works best getting rewards for small accomplishments in changing our bad habit. If it's something you dislike doing but it's in your best interest to do, treat yourself as one of your kids, who may hate to go to the dentist or doctor. The doctor gives them a sticker or small toy. Give yourself a small reward. Sometimes, our own satisfaction of achieving our goal is enough of a reward. Another person's compliment of how well we are doing, works. If not, plan to reward yourself. Buy yourself a little gift or do something you enjoy to motivate yourself to go on.
You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.
Milestone Life Events Are Triggers For Life Changes
Did You Think People Make Resolutions Only For The New Year?
Okay, before a class reunion draws near, when we look in the mirror, we may promise ourselves to lose weight, exercise, eat healthier, change hair color or style. . . All to get a new image.
If you want to improve your life, make yourself happier in some way, or organize your life, then resolutions are a start.
Life Events That Trigger Making Resolutions, Goals, and New Habits
~The start of the New Year
~Before Class Reunions
~Searching For a Spouse
~To break bad habits
~At milestone birthdays
~Before upcoming wedding
~Recognizing own Mortality
~Losing a job
~Having a health crisis
~Divorce or break-up
~Wanting to Achieve dreams
~Losing someone dear through death
Second Half- Three Areas of Life
Continue Reading To The End To Learn Three Areas Of Life Needing Good Habits And Goals
There's suggestions for making resolutions as you continue reading.
I hope this has sparked some ideas of your own. Share your New Years resolution or a comment about a goal you've accomplished.
Three Areas To Improve Your Life
Look Inward (Personal Growth)
Look Outward (Loving and Serving Others)
Look Above (Relationship With God)
Strive to Better Yourself
Make Goals For Personal Growth
Reflect on yourself. How are you doing? What are your problems? They could fall into a category of:
Physical, emotional, mental, material, or spiritual. What would you like to change about yourself? Take Action!
Here's some ideas to get you thinking. Form good habits to keep your resolutions:
1. Your health is concerning you? Schedule an appointment with your doctor or health provider. Make a resolution to stop procrastinating and plan ways to find solutions to your health problems. See the dentist, eye doctor, dermatologist, or whoever you need.
2. Don't exercise? Make a plan. Pick a way to get fit that you'd enjoy most. Join a gym, walk so many times a week, learn a new sport or dance. A resolution to walk regularly or work out is easier to keep if you do it with another person or group. Shoot baskets, bowl, hike, swim, yoga, play tennis, bike, lift weights, walk the mall . . . . Exercise to a pilot or aerobics CD at home. Get your body moving.
3. You are often late? Make a resolution planning ways to avoid being late and make an effort to change.
Suggestions, (for example):
a) If your problem is staring at your clothes closet not knowing what to wear, have it all figured out the night before and set out. This works well with children, also.
b) Pack things you can't forget to take in the car, but take them to your car trunk early or the night before.
c) Plan how long it will take to commute to your destination and add time for each extra stop. Count back time from the appointment time to know when you need to be out the door. Will you need a gas stop? Add some time for traffic, or unexpected delays. Set a timer if you get preoccupied before it's time to leave.
d) Stop what you are doing a half hour before leaving to get yourself ready. Pick up and put things you're taking by the door.
Keep Plans and Goals Remembered in a Planner with Calendar Pages.
This convenient sized 2015 appointment book/calendar is sized to carry along easily. One thing I especially like is that it is wirebound so lays flat open while adding your posts.
Loving and Serving Others
Take Action! Resolve to help build your relationship with others.
What charitable or friendly ways can you help others? Make a resolution, for example, to do something once a week, or once a month. Here are a few ways:
~donate food, clothes, and household goods
~get to know elderly neighbors
~volunteer to coach or be a leader in your child's activities
~volunteer to help the needy at a food bank, or St. Vincent de Paul
~sing or play music to entertain at a homeless shelter or nursing home
~grow some extra food to give away
~re-connect with old friends and distant family
~become involved in your child's education
~spend time with close family and friends
~volunteer at a church
~arrange with a trusted neighbor to exchange feeding each others pets for vacations
~take a neighbor a plate of goodies
~help individuals struggling with illness
~be a mentor to a younger man or women
~do a random small act of kindness
There are people in need after the holidays, all-year around. Opportunities are awaiting volunteers at many organizations. Pick one that fits your skills and interest. Your self development may be a stepping-stone goal to land you a paid job of your life dreams.
Do you need more family time with the kids? Here are some thoughts:
~Eat together when possible, preferably several times per week.
~Have a family night at home. Ideas include kids choosing favorite meal, family games, crafts, baking, kids entertaining with skits, or instruments, or a family movie.
~If extra outside activities are becoming overwhelming, cut down.
~On weekends attend church together, and have a family outing or a walk to the neighborhood park.
~Discover an interest you share with your child and find time to do it together.
~Work on home and yard projects together, or charitable volunteering.
Plan and commit to change, or time will pass and it won't happen.
"Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible."
~St. Francis of Assisi
Your Relationship With God
Spiritual Goals, Resolutions and Changing Habits
For Spiritual Growth and Renewal:
It came to me while contemplating a Bible passage, that there are three broad areas that humans could work on in forming good habits and making resolutions. I titled them Looking Inward, (personal growth), Looking Outward (Loving and Serving Others) and Looking Upward (Your relationship with God.) These areas of our lives overlap and are deeply connected with each other.
In the Christian Bible there's a scripture passage where Jesus gave the Greatest Commandment: ". . . You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, . . . and, You shall love your neighbor as yourself." Look up the complete passage of The Greatest Commandment. It is so important! It's mentioned twice in the New Testament in Luke,10:25-28, Mark, 12:28-34
Some suggestions for developing spiritual goals: (A couple tips have a Christian perspective, most relate to any faith.)
~Get in a habit to pray little prayers throughout the day the way you talk to a good friend or mentor.
~Set a time to pray. Suggestions are to start with morning and night prayer. Some people get up before work or pray silently while commuting to work. Make it become a consistent habit.
~Read the Bible. To plan this goal, read for a specific amount of time, spent over a set period. Or plan to read one portion of the Bible, the New Testament or Old testament, or the Psalms, within so many weeks or months. An ambitious goal could be to read the whole Bible over a year.
~Join a Bible study class, if interested.
~ Pray with your children before bed and at meals and be a good example to them.
~try attending church every Sunday
~volunteer at church sharing a talent, gift, and skill. If uncertain, pray for guidance of a way God may wish to lead and guide you.
Above are suggestions to get you thinking, use any of them or set your own resolution.
Be Thankful: Start Your Own Journal
Want to make a Gratitude Journal?
Write those Things You Are Most Grateful For.
This helps you feel happier, more fulfilled, and appreciative. Everyday just write a line or a paragraph of something you are grateful for. It could be something you've had all your life, but we all take good things for granted.
Or, it could be what happened that day to make you smile, like a sunrise; or a bird or unusual insect or flower you saw on a walk; or a hug, or conversation. The list is endless!
Many times we forget these simple things without realizing we could be worse off. God continues to bless us. We have much to be thankful for. The gratitude journal can also be a blessing journal. Write down blessings you have received from answered prayers, or those surprises that came unexpectedly.
~If you have children they may like to make their own gratitude journal and write a short line in it once a week. Or every day while they're enthused. Suggest younger children express themselves by drawing pictures.
~Pick a suggestion. I hope hearing some of these ideas helps you plan one of your own. If you have ideas you'd like to share, add them in the Guestbook comments at the end of the article.
Don't overwhelm yourself or burn yourself out so you give up. But, take little steps and persevere. God bless you!
Children Like Gratitude Journals, Too
Children, including my own grandchild, love to write and draw in journals. Writing in their own book is a very creative outlet, and thankfulness is a good quality to cultivate.
I hope you found this article helpful!