Forget About New Year's Resolutions... Try This Instead!
Deciding A Theme Word For The Year Can Help You Focus On Your Goals!
Do you set and keep New Year's Resolutions? Trying to lose weight? Quit smoking? Another big goal? So many people set resolutions and have the best intentions to keep them. After a few weeks or months, the motivation just seems to fade and the resolution goes kaput.
I gave up on New Year's resolutions long ago! I would diligently set them and manage to keep them for a few weeks. Then they always made me feel like a guilty failure when I realized I'd stopped keeping them! Now, what good does a thing like that do for you or your self esteem?
Somewhere long ago I heard the idea of focusing on just an "idea" for the New Year, rather than a resolution. I condensed that down further, and started choosing a single word to focus on for the New Year. I've always believed that if you want something to change - whether it's a number on a scale, the sales for a division, or an attitude about a pet peeve - just keep a reminder in front of you where you have to look at it every day!
One year during this first week of the new year, I was doing a bit of after-Christmas shopping. I was about 6 weeks post-op from my second hip replacement surgery, having had both hips replaced in 2011. It was a tough year, most of it spent either getting ready for or recovering from major surgeries.
I noticed a beautiful Christmas ornament with the simple word, "Hope." It struck me with a flash of realization - there it was, my "word" for the new year! "Hope" summed up everything I felt about the coming year! I'd put in my hard medical and physical work, lots more still to come, but for the first time in many years now I finally had "Hope" for a better quality of life! The ornament hung next to my desk where I could see it every day. It still hangs there today.
So, for 2012, "Hope" it was, and hope was realized! I had the best year in terms of walking and being able to do things that I've had in many years. It was amazing!
My word for the year 2013 focused on "Care." Actually more a phrase - "Care For."
2014's word ended up being "Free." That word meant a whole lot of different things to me personally that I wanted to change. I did manage to accomplish a few changes!
The phrase I have chosen for 2015 is "I Can." Having gone through so much medical stuff for years, the phrase "I can't" is constantly popping up in various situations. It's also easy to use some very medically justifiable excuses to say "I can't" when it's really "I don't want to." This year I'm going to try to be "tough girl" a lot more often.
So, what could your word for this coming New Year be? What's the one thing about yourself or your situation that you most would like to change, improve, or focus on? Most of us make New Year's resolutions, and we have a hard time keeping them. But just having a simple word to focus on - that's a promise much easier to keep to ourselves! Try it, you might just agree!
Keep Your Word In Front Of You!
Put it anywhere you can see it frequently – on the fridge, on a t-shirt, whatever it takes to keep you focused!
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2008's Word Was "Survive"
2008 was the year of suffering with an arthritic knee that was completely destroyed, and it took me a full year to find a surgeon willing to take on my high risk case. I was alone most of the time with my rescue schnauzer menagerie on a farm in southeast Missouri, away from quality medical care, and I was one fat mess. I was lonely, away from friends and family, and life looked pretty darned bleak at the time. I kept trying to be hopeful, kept creating and writing, gardening on a small scale, but all my living was mostly on the inside - not the outside.
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2009's Word Was "Fight"
I'd just gone through hell with my destroyed knee and finally got it replaced; I weighed almost 240 pounds and I had out of control diabetes, high blood pressure, and a host of other medical problems. I was headed on a fast track downward. I decided I had to fight to get my life back. And fight I did.
My Word For 2010 Was A Phrase, "Care For"
2010 was a pretty horrible year, all in all. Although I had lost almost 60 pounds by then, I was in pain constantly from my destroyed hip and at that time could not find a surgeon willing to take on my high risk case. We were living on a farm in southeast Missouri and my husband had been transferred back to Nebraska, so I was alone trying to sell the farm and care for all of my rescue Schnauzers (there were eight at the time).
I remember thinking that my main goal in life at that time was to make sure every family member, furry and otherwise, was cared for. During that year we did manage to sell the farm and get moved back to Omaha, and I managed to put the new house in survivable mode and make sure everyone was "cared for." That was about it. This picture was taken at Christmas in 2010.
Me In Late 2011, Hopeful!
2012 Was About Redefining "Normal"
2012 Was A Very Good Year!
2012 was the year of getting my life back! Without constant hip pain I became independent enough to do things like going shopping on my own and even working a couple of dog rescues!
2013 A Tough Year - The "C" Word
In early 2013 I was diagnosed with malignant Melanoma on my right cheek. I was lucky that it was caught in stage 1. I underwent facial resection and reconstruction surgery in May 2013. I was left with a large facial scar which is much better now although still visible. I'm just a lucky girl to have beaten the cancer!
3 Weeks Post-Op Melanoma Surgery Complete With Black Eye!
After Almost A Year Of Healing....
2014 - Keep Knockin' Me Down!
2014 started off so great! Then in late April a bizarre series of injuries (I kept getting cut on things!) left me fighting a number of open wounds on my legs. There were, at one point, 10 separate "owies" all in various stages of healing. I had numerous cellulitis infections in my legs from the cuts. I walked into a nest of yellow jackets and got about 3 dozen stings. I poked my arm on a twig and woke up with a big infection streaking up my arm. In November I ruptured my long biceps tendon on my right arm. In short I always felt like I got nothing accomplished this year besides being injured and trying to get well!