Say, I Love You
To say I Love You....
Are the most important words you can say to someone, they have to be meant or they are worthless...these words are what has given me years of a successful marriage. This is the secret to reaffirming ones commitment in a relationship or marriage, without it, you will always wonder what that person really feels....Valentine's Day should be everyday!
Of course this is just my opinion and not a researched fact, but when I think of my own relationship and marriage, it is based on the affirmation of those words, affection and deeds.
I have found that this saying "I Love You" can become a habit if you allow it, just like "not" saying it, is a habit...but it has to be meant...so what does I Love You mean? To me it means many different things, you can Love in many different ways, my love for my husband is different then the love of my children....you can Love God, your friends and pets, they also have a commitment of meaning.
There's not a day that goes by that my husband does not tell me he loves me, I bet in one day it's not less then a half a dozen times...we kiss each other, we hold hands and hug, we respect each other and want to do for each other...yes this sounds like a fairytale, but it's not always like this, we are human and we have issues at times and get upset with each other, but Love is compromise, sharing and communication (the hardest of all, for a man)
Not only on Valentine's Day do I Love You - but Every Day of the Year!
In the beginning and the years that followed
My husband and I have been through great deal of things that would have broken up many other couples. Coming from completely different backgrounds, ethnicity and religion, baptism of children in a different faith, the separation during the Vietnam War and the aftermath of his service, our separation while having to work in another states for months, moving half a dozen times and I having to be in charge of all the moves and sales of homes, kids moving away and being alone, having a life threatening illness, and other things that could affect a couples well being. How did we manage these issues? For us it was respecting each others feelings, wanting to make it work and praying for God given guidance....I won't lie, it is hard but when you commit to a relationship like marriage and have done it in the eyes of God, then you have to at least try, not just walk away because it did not feel good or suite your expectations. It's a great idea those that get together for counseling with a professional before marriage.
My mother used to tell me to ask myself these questions about loving someone and making commitments, although funny as some may seem, they are true. These are in order of importance to me...ask yourself: does he believe in God the same as you? Does he love his family/parents? Does he love animals? Would he take care of you for the rest of your life if something happened to you, and would you take care of him in the same circumstances? These questions show sensitivity, and the fact that I could say, Yes to all!
Remember you don't need a Valentine’s Day to use these words...they should be a part of your daily vocabulary.
I would like to share some of the things that my dear husband has done to make this marriage successful with the words " I Love You."
He shows his love by always saying I love you before going to sleep or hanging up on a phone, always making sure that I have what I need or want, just a simple example: if there is something that I like, a food or drink he always leaves it for me to have, or he always asks if there is something that I need to have done, like grocery shopping, laundry, ironing, gardening or house cleaning...oh yes, he does all those things, however we do share these responsibilities...the only thing that I do myself is the cooking, making arrangement like trips or entertainment, financial aspects, the paying of bills and taxes, filing all papers and keeping records (he truly does not want to do this, and I must admit it is stressful for me to do, but at least I know it's being done and done correctly)
Another endearing thing my husbands does, is when his favorite song pertaining to me comes on the radio,"When a Man Loves a Woman" (by Percy Sledge) he would call me on the cell phone and say, this is for the woman I Love!
I have gotten into my car at times and he had the song set on the CD to play as I started the car...how romantic!
I do admit I sound spoiled, and maybe I am because I have so much Love in my life, but I am an easy keeper, I ask for nothing and want nothing...God has Blessed me with this man, what more do I need? The older I get I realize what the most important things are, showing your Love by serving God, family and friends.
Check out my husband's hubpage "Vietnam Tour 1966-1967"
Being retired has been challenging but a freedom I hope all will be able to experience. My husband loves to golf and serve his fellow servicemen through volunteering for the Veterans, the V.V.A. Chapter, Purple Heart Association, Patriotic Soc. VFW Veterans for Veterans and many other Events, including participating in several Funerals a week honoring a Veteran with a ceremony.
God Blessed my husband and brought him home to me. Vietnam was a bad time and experience...he received a Bronze Star -V and Purple Heart while in Vietnam, but he lost his best friends at the same time. These are who he honors, they gave all of themselves...their lives. I admire the dedication of my husband, not only to me but to the Veterans.
I of course paint to my hearts desire, trying to do good with what I sell...this is what I enjoy doing.
Both of our daughters have been reared hearing those words "I Love You" and this meaning serves their lives...My heart swells with Joy and Love thinking about them...and I Love and Thank my husband for these two precious gifts of our life.
As different as we might be, we have made it work since 1963 and it will be till we say "see you in heaven" at our death bed...all this because we say " I Love You"
N. Captiva Island, Florida - our Spring vacation
Time together on an Island
Our youngest daughter treated us to a lovely vacation in March, to an Island off of Florida. Best of all, we where together with our sweet daughter.
Illinois June 2009 - Vietnam Veteran Reunion
At the Reunion
Every other year the Dreadnaughts, 4 Inf. Div. 2nd 34th Armour have a Reunion somewhere in the US.
In different languages
"I Love You"
German:......................Ich liebe Dich
Japanese:....................Kimi o ai shiteru
New Zealand:................ Arohanui
Love is always bestowed as a gift - freely, willingly and without expectation. We don't love to be loved; we love to love.
Love does not dominate; it cultivates.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
A man falls in love through his eyes, a woman through her ears.
Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired.
Books - never too young to teach the words I Love You
We as parents always told our children I Love You...they heard us say ir to each other. It's important to teach and show love to a young child so they become accustomed to knowing the true meaning...this helping them in later life.
The language of flowers
List of Flowers that include the symbol of Love - just a few listed here
Flowers have a language of their own. Experts disagree on the "true meaning" of many flowers and most have different meanings to different people. So, here are some of the more traditional flower meanings that express Love...these came from 1-800-Flowers
ACACIA - Concealed Love, Beauty in Retirement, Chaste Love
AMBROSIA - Your Love is Reciprocated
ARBUTUS - Thee Only Do I Love
ASTER - Symbol of Love, Daintiness
CAMELLIA (PINK) - Longing for you
CAMELLIA (RED) - You're a Flame in My Heart
CARNATION (GENERAL) - Fascination, Woman Love
CARNATION (RED) - My Heart Aches For You, Admiration
CARNATION (WHITE) - Sweet and Lovely, Innocence, Pure Love, Woman's Good Luck Gift
DAFFODIL - Regard, Unrequited Love, You're the Only One, The Sun is Always Shining when I'm with You
FORGET-ME-NOT - True Love, Memories
GARDENIA - You're Lovely, Secret Love
GLOXINIA - Love at First Sight
IVY - Wedded Love, Fidelity, Friendship, Affection
JONQUIL - Love Me, Affection Returned, Desire, Sympathy, Desire for Affection Returned
MOSS - Maternal Love, Charity
MYRTLE - Love, Hebrew Emblem of Marriage
ORANGE BLOSSOM - Innocence, Eternal Love, Marriage and Fruitfulness
ROSE (BRIDAL) - Happy Love
ROSE (RED) - Love, I Love You
ROSE (THORNLESS) - Love at First Sight
ROSES (Single Full Bloom) - I Love You, I Still Love You
Father's Day 2010
Our daughter and her boyfriend made arrangements to rent a boat with a picnic on board...gliding through downtown Milwaukee on the River, then out to Lake Michigan, a day filled with Love and Joy.
In the photo we docked at a Bar-landing having a drink. From left to right, my hubby Al holding my drink (he does not drink) and the grandog Annie, Scott, Tom (1933-2011) and our daughter in the back.
Our other daughter lives nine hours away, but Al got to hear those words "I Love You dad"
The Big 50th -
Made it to 55 years -
The most important Love
What you are is God's gift to you, what you do with yourself is your gift to God: Danish Proverb
Have you been Lucky enough to have a loving man in your life?
© 2008 Delia