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Ideas and Gifts for The Single on Valentine's Day
Valentine's Days is often celebrated as the holiday for love and couples, making it a challenging day to make it through for singles.
For singles there are three main ways to celebrate Valentine's Day as a Traditional Valentine's Day, a Damaged or Broken Heart Valentine's Day or an Anti Valentine's Day.
Which of these ways one chooses to celebrate depends a lot on the single person's relationship status and/or their post break-up status.
Those who are still looking for love can view Valentine's Day as an opportunity to connect with other singles. Celebrate a Traditional Valentine's Day with a Single Mingle Valentine Party for singles to meet other singles.
Those who have recently broken up might prefer celebrating a Damaged or Broken Heart Valentine's Day and those who are down on love post break up or delusioned with love or the over commercialization of Valentine's Day might prefer an Anti Valentine's Day party.
Of course one could decide to ignore Valentine's day all together, but that isn't as much fun.
Spending Many Single Valentine's Days
For many of my adult years during college, medical school and residency, Valentine's Day always came as a harsh reminder and a reality check of the absence of someone special in my life.
Valentine's Day was a bit easier to ignore during college, except for the Valentine Grams that would be delivered by different groups as fund raisers.
As a medical student and resident physician in training, it was difficult to see the married and coupled hospital and nursing staff, students and residents getting special gifts and flowers from their "special someone" on Valentine's Day in the hospital. When I could, I would try to focus on being happy for them instead of unhappy for me.
I eventually got to the point where I started getting myself a gift on Valentine's Day.
Sometimes, even with kids and a spouse, I still get my own gift. This year I might just get myself a Valentine heart decal (seen above) for my new Kindle.
Are You Ready for Valentine's Day?
Vote on Valentine's Day
Who is Valentine's Day for?
Art of Appreciation Spa Set
Treat yourself to the Art of Appreciation Gift basket.
Debate Celebrating Valentine's Day as a Single Person
Which do you (or did you) celebrate as a Single Person?
Traditional Valentine's Day
Love as Shades of Gray
Traditional Valentine's Day Celebration
Eating a Broken Heart
Celebrate Valentine's Day as a Single
Singles who are still looking for love can celebrate Valentine's Day in a more traditional way can throw a Valentine's Day Party to meet other singles. One could get together with several other friends and have a Valentine's Day gift exchange. Those who don't like to party can follow one of the many other "Tips for Celebrating Valentine's Day Single" below.
Singles can also decide, like I did, to be their own valentine and buy their own gifts. Consider doing something indulgent like a trip or a massage, or decadent and calorie laden like a Valentine cookie. After all, it's only one day and a little calorie splurge might boost the mood.
Tips for Celebrating Valentine's Day Single
- Pamper Yourself
Do something nice for yourself. A spa treatment, new hair cut (or color). A Massage.
- Give Yourself a Gift
Find something to give yourself as a gift of love to you.
- Do Something Fun
Find a fun activity to do on Valentine's Day. Go to an Anti Valentine's Day Movie. Go Skiing, skating, snowboarding, hiking, running.
- Throw a Valentine's Day Party for Singles
Host your own Single Mingle Valentine, Un-Valentine or Anti Valentine's Day celebration. Meet other's in the same position.
- Share Valentine's Day with Friends and Family
Celebrate Valentine's Day by honoring the love you have for your family, friends, maybe even your pet.
- Enjoy the Financial Benefits of Being Single
Remind yourself if you are single, you don't have to spent a lot of money on Valentine's Day gifts.
- Create a Valentine's Day Ritual
There are many rituals that can be created to remember a loved one or banish memories of past relationships.
- Recognize the Valentine's Marketing Hype
Adopt the attitude that Valentine's Day is just a hyped up Hallmark Holiday that you're not going to be a part of celebrating.
- Do Something Nice for Someone else
Make a Valentine's Day Tree (random act of kindness). Decorate cookies for a homeless or women's shelter. Do something to cheer up someone else.
- Ignore the Holiday
The easiest to do, but perhaps the least fun, unless you like ignoring things.
Bake a Batch of Mini Cupcakes
At least if you eat a batch of mini cupcakes it won't be too over-indulging.
Indulge with Chocolate
Indulge a bit on Valentine's Day
Singles might consider indulging a bit on Valentine's day by preparing or purchasing a yummy, decadent dessert like this scrumptious-looking, very calorie laden recipe for Chocolate Raspberry Napoleons from Martha Stewart. Yummly estimates a serving of Chocolate Raspberry Napoleons at > 1000 calories.
For those not want to go over board on calories, Martha's Chocolate Raspberry Napoleons could be made using dark chocolate (> 70%) and a lower calorie raspberry sorbet. Haagen-Dazs' Raspberry Sorbet has 120 calories in a 1/2 cup serving which is comparable to other sorbets.
Another lower calorie option is to get some luscious fresh or frozen berries and top with light whipped cream and dark chocolate shavings.
Mini Treat Makers on Amazon
Make your own delicious ice cream sandwiches.
Fix a Heart Recipe from Martha Stewart
- Chocolate and Raspberry Heart Napoleons - Martha Stewart Recipes
In Martha Stewart's Chocolate and Raspberry Heart Napoleons recipe chocolate hearts are layered with raspberry semifreddo ("half cold" in Italian), a frozen dessert similar to ice cream.
- Bittersweet Chocolate Hearts - Martha Stewart Recipes
Martha Stewart's Bittersweet Chocolate Hearts recipe are perfect paired with raspberry semifreddo in Chocolate and Raspberry Heart Napoleons.
- Heart-Shaped Raspberry Napoleons - Martha Stewart Recipes
Martha Stewart's Heart-Shaped Raspberry Napoleons recipe is a perfect Valentine's Day dessert.
- Rich Chocolate Heart Cakes - Martha Stewart Recipes
To make Martha Stewart's Rich Chocolate Heart Cakes you need small heart molds or tart pans with removable bottoms to make individual chocolate cakes.
- Raspberry-Almond Financiers - Martha Stewart Recipes
Martha Stewart's Raspberry-Almond Financiers, petits fours, conceal a honeyed, cakey interior beneath a crisp, crackly surface embellished by hand with hearts of raspberry puree.
- Valentine's Day: Valentine's Day Dessert Recipes - Martha Stewart
View all of Martha Stewart's Valentine's Day Dessert Recipes collection to get even more ideas.
Love in Gray
More Tips on Being Single on Valentine's Day
- Single on Valentine's Day?
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- David Wygant: It's Valentine's Day And You're Newly Single . . . What Do You Do?
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- Single. On Valentine’s Day : CollegeCandy
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- Valentine's Day Guide for Singles
Single this Valentine's Day? There are plenty of ways to celebrate!
- Reasons to be single this Valentine's Day | iVillage UK
A list of reasons to be single this Valentine's Day
- Being Single on Valentine's Day - Maybe You're Better Off Alone
It's February 14th, and you're not in a relationship. So what? Celebrate being single this Valentine's Day by remembering why it's easier to be alone.
- 18 Reasons to Love Being Single
Dateless on Valentine's Day? There's no reason to gag yourself with a box of chocolates. Cosmo offers some reminders of why being unattached totally rocks.
- If You're Single on Valentine's Day | Psychology Today
February 14th may be a hard day for you. By Barton Goldsmith, Ph.D.
- Being Single on Valentine's Day: A Survival Guide
For millions of Americans, there is one thing preventing them from participating in these celebratory acts of love: a date. Learn how being single, and dateless, on Valentine's Day can be fun.
Gifts for Angry Little Girls
Angry Little Girls offers Lela Lee's unique perspective on Love, perfect for those who are still angry over a breakup.
Celebrate a Single Mingle Valentine Party
Host a Single Mingle Valentine Party
Singles can celebrate Valentine's Day by going to or hosting a Single Mingle Valentine Party. This type of Valentine Party is just for singles, giving the unattached an opportunity to meet others who are similarly unattached.
Singles might also consider celebrating Singles Awareness Day, also known as SAD on or around Valentine's Day. Singles Awareness Day is a day to get away from the Hallmark aspect of the holiday (the commercialism), but is it also a day to celebrate being single.
If one is still feeling a bit blue about being single on Valentine's Day, Cosmo has 18 Reasons to Love Being Single which are terrific reminders of why being unattached has it's advantages.
Single Mingle Valentine Party Invitations on Zazzle by Paperstation
Research on Valentine's Day
- A Holiday Loved and Loathed: A Consumer Perspective of Valentine's Day
Valentine's Day is an event associated with lavish consumption, rituals, expectations, and commercialism. Much of the romance is displayed with store-bought and marketing-driven exchanges, contrary to the unique personalized and intimate nature somet
- The Sad Side of Valentine's Day - What the Industry Should Know
Valentine's Day, like other holidays, can be a depressing time for singles and some couples if they feel left out of the festivities. However, the service-hospitality industry is in a unique position to reach this audience - and in so doing - cater t
- How do holidays influence relationship processes and outcomes? Examining the instigating and catalyt
Might Valentine's Day, despite its marketing as a holiday to enhance romantic relationships, paradoxically facilitate their demise? Valentine's Day provides a useful opportunity for exploring the potential influences of recurring culture-wide events
Throw Yourself a "Me Party" for One
Dance and Have a "Me Party"
Throw Yourself a "Me Party"
From the Muppets, Amy Adams and Miss Piggy have a "Me Party" Party of One.
Me Party MP3
Amy Adam's version of "Me Party" featuring Miss Piggy is a great song for anyone feeling a bit down on Valentine's Day. It's a positive song that it's o.k. to have your own party.
Muppet's Me Party
I'm having a me party
A party by myself
A me party
I don't need nobody else
I'm having a me party
I'm the first and last to show
There's no one at this party
that I don't already know
Hold a Valentine's Day Burning Ritual
One of my favorite ways to cope with rejection and old lost loves is to have some kind of a torching or a burning of old letters, rejections and any old boyfriend things that might still be around.
These feelings were depicted on a classic "Friends" episode from the first season, "The One with the Candy Hearts" episode. In this episode Phoebe leads Monica and Rachel in a cleansing Valentine's burning ritual that results in a bonfire in their apartment. This Friends Valentine's Day ritual ends up with male fire fighters showing up to put out the fire and cheering up their day.
Several years ago, I put together "A Cleansing, Healing Candle Burning Ceremony" that can be used at Valentine's Day. If you do this Valentine's fire ritual, you might want to start or finish by watching the Friend's episode. Be sure to have a fire extinguisher around, and at least 20 feet of defensible space.
Watch "The One with the Candy Hearts" Friends Episode
In this episode from the first season of Friends, Phoebe leads Monica and Rachel in a cleansing Valentine's burning ritual that results in a bonfire in their apartment.
This Friends Valentine's Day ritual ends up with male fire fighters showing up to put out the fire and cheering up their day.
Watch the episode with your friends as you share a Valentine's laugh with "Friends."
Read about Being Single and Loving it
Treat yourself to a new Kindle, or a new Kindle eBook on Being Single: Living Alone and Loving It or on Living Alone and Loving It.
Give Yourself a Valentine Spa Treatment
A soothing spa treatment will help ease any Valentine Day Blues.
Wrap Yourself in a Heart or Pashmina Scarf
Wrap yourself up in a Pashmina Scarf as a no calorie way to spoil yourself.
Cuddle with a Scented Stuffed Animal
Cuddle with a scented stuffed animal to feel better on Valentine's Day.
This 2 pack of lavender scented teddy bears lets you share one with a friend, who may be feeling down on Valentine's Day.
Drink the Best Cup of Hot Chocolate
Drinking a delicious cup of hot cocoa is truly a decadent and indulgent Valentine's Day treat.
Make a Heart Pillow
Make Yourself a Heart Gift
Crafty singles can still get a heart on Valentine's Day by knitting or crocheting themselves a special heart gift for Valentine's Day.
Who is a more special person to make a heart gift for than yourself?
The Winged Heart Pillows from Lion Brand Yarn is a fun project to knit.
Even more the Heart Pillow makes a great cuddling pillow.
Make Your Own I Heart ME Tree
Have fun making your own Shrinky Dinks "I ♥ ME Tree"
Comes with 30 printed ornaments, heart-shaped jump rings and accessories for hanging the hearts on a 10" velvet flocked tree.
Or turn your Shrinky Dinks hearts into I ♥ ME jewelry.
Damaged Heart Valentine's Celebration
A Heart in Pieces
Tend To Your Damaged Heart
Valentine's Day can be a particularly difficult day for the newly single, whether the broken heart is due to the end of a relationship, a divorce or perhaps the most painful, the loss due to death.
Perhaps most of all out of all of the holidays Valentine's Day (along with birthdays and anniversaries) can be another painful 'trigger' days that can bring back old memories of special days.
Finding ways to tend to a damaged or broken heart can be important for many singles at Valentine's Day as the broken heart may still be mending.
Stages of the Broken Heart
With heart ache, the heart breaks and shatters. Ever so slowly the pieces of the broken heart begin to mend and to repair and to heal, but a scar is left behind.
In time a new heart may emerge from the broken one, ready to love again.
Coping with Valentine's Day for the Newly Single
These suggestions come from a blog post that I wrote several years ago on Coping with Valentine's Day as a Single:
- Take time to relax and enjoy the day.
- Focus on good times you shared with your loved one, rather than the loss.
- Make time to attend to the needs of family, especially children.
- Find a way of celebrating (or not) that will be the most meaningful for you.
- Focus on yourself and take care of your health.
- Find someone to talk to about how you are feeling.
- Decide to celebrate the day in a new way.
- Pretend it is an ordinary, regular day.
Books on Mending a Broken Heart
Heart of Candles
Design a Valentine Ceremony for You
The Valentine's Burning Ritual inspired by "Friends" is just one type of ceremony that can be used to observe Valentine's Day as a single.
Another is to follow or adapt the Cleansing, Healing Candle Burning Ceremony that I blogged about several years ago.
This cleansing and healing candle ceremony works for Valentine's Day or when dealing with the end of a relationship or divorce.
The ceremony also works for clearing out bad memories or cleaning out the cobwebs of the past or manage a transition.
More on Creating a Valentine's Day Ritual or Ceremony
- A Cleansing, Healing Candle Burning Ceremony
Discover this a positive, healing candle burning ritual and remembered that I had created on for my friends several years ago. This candle burning ceremony would work for Valentine's Day, when you are coping with a break-up or divorce.
- Coping with Valentine's Day as a Single
For many, many of my adult years, Valentine's Day was a harsh reminder and a reality check of the absence of someone special in my life from the Grief, Loss & Transitions - Journey of Hearts Blog.
- Fall In Love With Yourself First... A Valentine Ritual for One
Your first stop on the road to romance is with You! If there is no partner in sight, it sometimes helps to fake it until you make it.
- A Valentine Ritual for One - A Self Love Ceremony
Here's a Self Love Ceremony suggestion from Rev. Laurie Sue Brockway, the Wedding Goddess.
- Valentine's Day Ritual For The Single Man!
The Genius Symbols, 2nd Edition Review - Valentine's Day Ritual For The Single Man!
Use Humor to Cope with the Stress of a Break Up
Humorist Erma Bombeck, wrote "If you can laugh at it, you can live with it." Humor and laughter are very healthy ways of coping with the stress of a break up. Laughter eases distress by triggering the release of endorphins which makes it easier to cope with a painful loss.
Watching a funny movie that makes you laugh or about different relationships like Valentine's Day ♥ The Movie can ease the pain.
The lyrics of the classic song "Smile" written by Charlie Chaplin, John Turner and Geoffrey Parsons help to explain that life can still be worthwhile, even if your heart is breaking.
- Smile, what's the use of crying?
- You'll find that life is still worthwhile
- If you just smile.
Laughter by jvangalen
More on Humor for Coping with Stress
- Humor: a powerful coping aid
This article on ways to cope with serious illness (particularly cancer) is by a nun who challenged people to live more joyfully, handle stress effectively, and improve interpersonal skills.
- Humor As Coping Mechanism - Beliefnet.com
Excerpt from From No Laughing's the Matter, on SpiritualityHealth.com
- Dealing With a Break Up? Use the Power of Humor to Heal
When dealing with a break up, many of us forget the old adage that "laugher is the best medicine."
- Humor and Mental Health: Using Humor to Cope With Stress (Part of Humor and Health Online CEU Course
Freud pointed out a century ago that humor offers us a healthy means of coping with life stress. George Vaillant, in his book, Adaptation to Life, reported that in-depth interviews revealed that humor was a very effective coping mechanism used by man
Gifts with Fun Ways to Express Anger
More fun ways to express your anger.
Scream and shout and get it all out!
Sreamn and Shout
Find Healthy Ways to Express Anger
Anger is frequently a very common and normal response to a break up or ending of a relationship, particularly if you were not the one who wanted the relationship to end. It is another way of expressing the intense pain, heartache and loss of the connection to another person.
Expressing anger may be more natural and accepted for men than for women. Finding healthy, constructive ways of coping with anger can help in managing the emotion.
Some suggestions of healthy ways to express anger include: screaming into a pillow, finding a solitary place to let it out, telling a counselor about the anger, exercising or doing other physical activity that does not result in harm. Hiking up to the top of a hill and screaming into the wind is a way of combining some of these suggestions. Talking to friends or family may be helpful as long as care is used to not lash out and hurt them in the process.
Add in some humor to help in expressing the heartache. The "You Ripped My Heart Out Werewolf Heart Bag" or Iron Fist's "My Rotting Heart bag" are fabulous examples of combining macabre humor with the anger to stylishly cope with the loss.
You Ripped My Heart Out Werewolf Heart Bag
Gifts for the Broken and Ripped out Hearted
Iron Fist Bags and Wallets are stylish ways of coping with the pain of heartache.
Anti Valentine's Day Celebration
Love Bites on Valentine's Day
Throw an Anti Valentine's Day Party
Another way of coping with Valentine's Day is to protest the commercialism of the holiday or rebel against the perceived forced celebration of a romantic love, or against the Hallmark holiday a sentiment termed Antivalentinism.
Retro Mamma (and Teen Program Planner) writes this about Anti Valentine's Day and planning an Anti Valentine's Day celebration. "An Anti-Valentine's day party is a fun way to "spit in the face" of lovey dovey couples, big business, and even the idea that we need to be in a relationship to be happy." Furthermore, an anti-Valentine's Day celebration can be for "single people, gal pals, or anyone who 'Damns the Man' and doesn't buy into that corporate greed nonsense."
Singles and even couples may choose to celebrate Anti Valentine's Day instead and throw an Anti Valentine's Day Party. This alternative to Valentine's Day is often celebrated on Valentine's Day, but it may also be celebrated early on the 13th or later on the 15th.
Grab your other single friends and disgruntled couples and celebrate Anti Valentine's Day instead recounting all of the reasons why "Love Stinks" and "Love Bites."
Love Bites Anti-Valentine Party Invitation by NoteableExpressions on Zazzle
How to Throw an Anti Valentine's Day Party
Learn from Partyland expert Stephanie Grassley how to throw an Anti Valentine's Day party.
More on Throwing an Anti-Valentine's Day Party
- Throwing an Anti-Valentine's Day Party
"Throwing an Anti-Valentine's Day Party", a playlist created by expertvillage featuring party planning expert, Stephanie Grassley.
- Anti-Valentine's Day party cures heartsick | al.com
Forget pink hearts and red roses; think black and blue for this shindig For some, all the cloying love in the air on Valentine's Day can bring on a spate of heartsickness. Instead of holing up with your fall-back boyfriends, Ben & Jerry, why not
- How to Throw the Best Anti-Valentine's Day Dinner Party
Valentine's Day isn't for everybody. For the recently single and broken-hearted it can be downright depressing. But February 14 doesn't have to fill you with dread.
- How to throw an Anti-Valentine's Day party
If you are dreading Valentine's Day, host an Anti-Valentine's Day party for yourself and all your single friends. Even if you don't have a special someone in your life, you can have a blast on February 14th.
- Anti-Valentine’s Day! | San Mateo County Library
Ok, it’s that time of year again—the dreaded Valentine’s Day. If you’re one of those people who don’t fall for the annual Hallmark Holiday then I have great news! It seems there’s a growing “Anti-Valentine’s Day” movement that has been going on.
More Ways to Celebrate Valentine's Day
In case you decide to do something more traditional for Valentine's Day, here are some suggestions:
- Smile Though Your Heart is Aching
A simple strategy for how to survive those most difficult of days...just smile. This lens includes a specially selected collection of videos with different versions of the classic song "Smile" written by Charlie Chaplin.
- Coping with Grief on Valentine's Day
Valentine's Day can be a very difficult day for those grieving the loss of a relationship or the loss of a loved one due to death. This day, devoted to celebrating love and couples, can be very hard on those who are single. .
- Valentine Tree with Heart Ornaments ♥
This year consider doing something different for your Valentine and decorate a Valentine tree. You can also cover a tree with hearts and heart-shaped ornaments or heart cookies as a way of spread love.
- Inexpensive, Healthy Ways to Say "I Love You" this V...
Even though candy, confection and chocolate manufacturers would like everyone to believe that we have to express our love with candy, sweet treats and chocolates on birthdays and holidays like Valentine's Day.
- How to Make a Paper Heart Garland
With just some paper, staples and string you can easily create a garland or chain of paper hearts to use for a special occasion. In looking for a way to make a fast and easy Valentine craft, I discovered several different version of paper crafts.
- Heart Bowls Show You Care Every Day
Whether given as a gift for Valentine's Day, Mother's Day, Birthday, Christmas, Wedding or any other special occasion a heart bowl is a lovely visual reminder that you care.
What have you done as a single person on Valentine's Day?
Share your thoughts in the comment section below.