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Ways to Celebrate Valentine's Day as a Single Person

Updated on August 29, 2017

Broken Cookie Heart

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Ideas and Gifts for The Single on Valentine's Day

Valentine's Days is often celebrated as the holiday for love and couples, making it a challenging day to make it through for singles.

For singles there are three main ways to celebrate Valentine's Day as a Traditional Valentine's Day, a Damaged or Broken Heart Valentine's Day or an Anti Valentine's Day.

Which of these ways one chooses to celebrate depends a lot on the single person's relationship status and/or their post break-up status.

Those who are still looking for love can view Valentine's Day as an opportunity to connect with other singles. Celebrate a Traditional Valentine's Day with a Single Mingle Valentine Party for singles to meet other singles.

Those who have recently broken up might prefer celebrating a Damaged or Broken Heart Valentine's Day and those who are down on love post break up or delusioned with love or the over commercialization of Valentine's Day might prefer an Anti Valentine's Day party.

Of course one could decide to ignore Valentine's day all together, but that isn't as much fun.

Vaentine Heart Decal
Vaentine Heart Decal | Source

Spending Many Single Valentine's Days

For many of my adult years during college, medical school and residency, Valentine's Day always came as a harsh reminder and a reality check of the absence of someone special in my life.

Valentine's Day was a bit easier to ignore during college, except for the Valentine Grams that would be delivered by different groups as fund raisers.

As a medical student and resident physician in training, it was difficult to see the married and coupled hospital and nursing staff, students and residents getting special gifts and flowers from their "special someone" on Valentine's Day in the hospital. When I could, I would try to focus on being happy for them instead of unhappy for me.

I eventually got to the point where I started getting myself a gift on Valentine's Day.

Sometimes, even with kids and a spouse, I still get my own gift. This year I might just get myself a Valentine heart decal (seen above) for my new Kindle.

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Traditional Valentine's Day Celebration

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Celebrate Valentine's Day as a Single

Singles who are still looking for love can celebrate Valentine's Day in a more traditional way can throw a Valentine's Day Party to meet other singles. One could get together with several other friends and have a Valentine's Day gift exchange. Those who don't like to party can follow one of the many other "Tips for Celebrating Valentine's Day Single" below.

Singles can also decide, like I did, to be their own valentine and buy their own gifts. Consider doing something indulgent like a trip or a massage, or decadent and calorie laden like a Valentine cookie. After all, it's only one day and a little calorie splurge might boost the mood.

Tips for Celebrating Valentine's Day Single

  1. Pamper Yourself

    Do something nice for yourself. A spa treatment, new hair cut (or color). A Massage.

  2. Give Yourself a Gift

    Find something to give yourself as a gift of love to you.

  3. Do Something Fun

    Find a fun activity to do on Valentine's Day. Go to an Anti Valentine's Day Movie. Go Skiing, skating, snowboarding, hiking, running.

  4. Throw a Valentine's Day Party for Singles

    Host your own Single Mingle Valentine, Un-Valentine or Anti Valentine's Day celebration. Meet other's in the same position.

  5. Share Valentine's Day with Friends and Family

    Celebrate Valentine's Day by honoring the love you have for your family, friends, maybe even your pet.

  6. Enjoy the Financial Benefits of Being Single

    Remind yourself if you are single, you don't have to spent a lot of money on Valentine's Day gifts.

  7. Create a Valentine's Day Ritual

    There are many rituals that can be created to remember a loved one or banish memories of past relationships.

  8. Recognize the Valentine's Marketing Hype

    Adopt the attitude that Valentine's Day is just a hyped up Hallmark Holiday that you're not going to be a part of celebrating.

  9. Do Something Nice for Someone else

    Make a Valentine's Day Tree (random act of kindness). Decorate cookies for a homeless or women's shelter. Do something to cheer up someone else.

  10. Ignore the Holiday

    The easiest to do, but perhaps the least fun, unless you like ignoring things.

Bake a Batch of Mini Cupcakes

Bella Cucina 13465 Cupcake Maker
Bella Cucina 13465 Cupcake Maker

At least if you eat a batch of mini cupcakes it won't be too over-indulging.

 

Indulge with Chocolate

Chocolate Raspberry Napoleons
Chocolate Raspberry Napoleons | Source

Indulge a bit on Valentine's Day

Singles might consider indulging a bit on Valentine's day by preparing or purchasing a yummy, decadent dessert like this scrumptious-looking, very calorie laden recipe for Chocolate Raspberry Napoleons from Martha Stewart. Yummly estimates a serving of Chocolate Raspberry Napoleons at > 1000 calories.

For those not want to go over board on calories, Martha's Chocolate Raspberry Napoleons could be made using dark chocolate (> 70%) and a lower calorie raspberry sorbet. Haagen-Dazs' Raspberry Sorbet has 120 calories in a 1/2 cup serving which is comparable to other sorbets.

Another lower calorie option is to get some luscious fresh or frozen berries and top with light whipped cream and dark chocolate shavings.


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Tovolo Ice Cream Sandwich Molds, Classic Icons - Set of 3

Make your own delicious ice cream sandwiches.

 

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Gifts for Angry Little Girls

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Angry Little Girls in Love

Angry Little Girls offers Lela Lee's unique perspective on Love, perfect for those who are still angry over a breakup.

 

Celebrate a Single Mingle Valentine Party

Single Mingle Valentine Party Invitations
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Host a Single Mingle Valentine Party


Singles can celebrate Valentine's Day by going to or hosting a Single Mingle Valentine Party. This type of Valentine Party is just for singles, giving the unattached an opportunity to meet others who are similarly unattached.

Singles might also consider celebrating Singles Awareness Day, also known as SAD on or around Valentine's Day. Singles Awareness Day is a day to get away from the Hallmark aspect of the holiday (the commercialism), but is it also a day to celebrate being single.

If one is still feeling a bit blue about being single on Valentine's Day, Cosmo has 18 Reasons to Love Being Single which are terrific reminders of why being unattached has it's advantages.

Single Mingle Valentine Party Invitations on Zazzle by Paperstation

Throw Yourself a "Me Party" for One

Dance and Have a "Me Party"

Throw Yourself a "Me Party"

From the Muppets, Amy Adams and Miss Piggy have a "Me Party" Party of One.

Me Party MP3

Me Party
Me Party

Amy Adam's version of "Me Party" featuring Miss Piggy is a great song for anyone feeling a bit down on Valentine's Day. It's a positive song that it's o.k. to have your own party.

 

Muppet's Me Party


I'm having a me party

A party by myself

A me party

I don't need nobody else

I'm having a me party

I'm the first and last to show

There's no one at this party

that I don't already know


Burn Something

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Hold a Valentine's Day Burning Ritual

One of my favorite ways to cope with rejection and old lost loves is to have some kind of a torching or a burning of old letters, rejections and any old boyfriend things that might still be around.

These feelings were depicted on a classic "Friends" episode from the first season, "The One with the Candy Hearts" episode. In this episode Phoebe leads Monica and Rachel in a cleansing Valentine's burning ritual that results in a bonfire in their apartment. This Friends Valentine's Day ritual ends up with male fire fighters showing up to put out the fire and cheering up their day.

Several years ago, I put together "A Cleansing, Healing Candle Burning Ceremony" that can be used at Valentine's Day. If you do this Valentine's fire ritual, you might want to start or finish by watching the Friend's episode. Be sure to have a fire extinguisher around, and at least 20 feet of defensible space.

Watch "The One with the Candy Hearts" Friends Episode

The One with the Candy Hearts
The One with the Candy Hearts

In this episode from the first season of Friends, Phoebe leads Monica and Rachel in a cleansing Valentine's burning ritual that results in a bonfire in their apartment.

This Friends Valentine's Day ritual ends up with male fire fighters showing up to put out the fire and cheering up their day.

Watch the episode with your friends as you share a Valentine's laugh with "Friends."

 

Read about Being Single and Loving it

Treat yourself to a new Kindle, or a new Kindle eBook on Being Single: Living Alone and Loving It or on Living Alone and Loving It.

Give Yourself a Valentine Spa Treatment

A soothing spa treatment will help ease any Valentine Day Blues.

Wrap Yourself in a Heart or Pashmina Scarf

Wrap yourself up in a Pashmina Scarf as a no calorie way to spoil yourself.

Cuddle with a Scented Stuffed Animal

Cuddle with a scented stuffed animal to feel better on Valentine's Day.

Pack of 2 Lavender Scented Plush Brown Teddy Bear Cuddlebudz - "Cocoa"
Pack of 2 Lavender Scented Plush Brown Teddy Bear Cuddlebudz - "Cocoa"

This 2 pack of lavender scented teddy bears lets you share one with a friend, who may be feeling down on Valentine's Day.

 

Drink the Best Cup of Hot Chocolate

Drinking a delicious cup of hot cocoa is truly a decadent and indulgent Valentine's Day treat.

Make a Heart Pillow

Winged Heart Pillows
Winged Heart Pillows | Source

Make Yourself a Heart Gift

Crafty singles can still get a heart on Valentine's Day by knitting or crocheting themselves a special heart gift for Valentine's Day.

Who is a more special person to make a heart gift for than yourself?

The Winged Heart Pillows from Lion Brand Yarn is a fun project to knit.

Even more the Heart Pillow makes a great cuddling pillow.



Make Your Own I Heart ME Tree

I Heart You Shrinky Dinks Create-and-Bake Charms with Flocked Display Tree
I Heart You Shrinky Dinks Create-and-Bake Charms with Flocked Display Tree

Have fun making your own Shrinky Dinks "I ♥ ME Tree"

Comes with 30 printed ornaments, heart-shaped jump rings and accessories for hanging the hearts on a 10" velvet flocked tree.

Or turn your Shrinky Dinks hearts into I ♥ ME jewelry.

 

Damaged Heart Valentine's Celebration

A Heart in Pieces

Broken Heart-ed
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Tend To Your Damaged Heart

Valentine's Day can be a particularly difficult day for the newly single, whether the broken heart is due to the end of a relationship, a divorce or perhaps the most painful, the loss due to death.

Perhaps most of all out of all of the holidays Valentine's Day (along with birthdays and anniversaries) can be another painful 'trigger' days that can bring back old memories of special days.

Finding ways to tend to a damaged or broken heart can be important for many singles at Valentine's Day as the broken heart may still be mending.

Stages of the Broken Heart

With heart ache, the heart breaks and shatters. Ever so slowly the pieces of the broken heart begin to mend and to repair and to heal, but a scar is left behind.

In time a new heart may emerge from the broken one, ready to love again.


Coping with Valentine's Day for the Newly Single

These suggestions come from a blog post that I wrote several years ago on Coping with Valentine's Day as a Single:

  1. Take time to relax and enjoy the day.
  2. Focus on good times you shared with your loved one, rather than the loss.
  3. Make time to attend to the needs of family, especially children.
  4. Find a way of celebrating (or not) that will be the most meaningful for you.
  5. Focus on yourself and take care of your health.
  6. Find someone to talk to about how you are feeling.
  7. Decide to celebrate the day in a new way.
  8. Pretend it is an ordinary, regular day.

Heart of Candles

Heart of Candles
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Design a Valentine Ceremony for You

The Valentine's Burning Ritual inspired by "Friends" is just one type of ceremony that can be used to observe Valentine's Day as a single.

Another is to follow or adapt the Cleansing, Healing Candle Burning Ceremony that I blogged about several years ago.

This cleansing and healing candle ceremony works for Valentine's Day or when dealing with the end of a relationship or divorce.

The ceremony also works for clearing out bad memories or cleaning out the cobwebs of the past or manage a transition.

Laugh

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Use Humor to Cope with the Stress of a Break Up

Humorist Erma Bombeck, wrote "If you can laugh at it, you can live with it." Humor and laughter are very healthy ways of coping with the stress of a break up. Laughter eases distress by triggering the release of endorphins which makes it easier to cope with a painful loss.

Watching a funny movie that makes you laugh or about different relationships like Valentine's Day ♥ The Movie can ease the pain.

The lyrics of the classic song "Smile" written by Charlie Chaplin, John Turner and Geoffrey Parsons help to explain that life can still be worthwhile, even if your heart is breaking.

  • Smile, what's the use of crying?
  • You'll find that life is still worthwhile
  • If you just smile.
People who use humor in the midst of stress tend to be much more resilient. Adopting the belief of "faking it until you make it" can also help in coping with a loss, since the body can't tell if the laughter is faked or real, but the benefits are still there.

Laughter by jvangalen

Gifts with Fun Ways to Express Anger

More fun ways to express your anger.

Scream and shout and get it all out!

Sreamn and Shout

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Find Healthy Ways to Express Anger

Anger is frequently a very common and normal response to a break up or ending of a relationship, particularly if you were not the one who wanted the relationship to end. It is another way of expressing the intense pain, heartache and loss of the connection to another person.

Expressing anger may be more natural and accepted for men than for women. Finding healthy, constructive ways of coping with anger can help in managing the emotion.

Some suggestions of healthy ways to express anger include: screaming into a pillow, finding a solitary place to let it out, telling a counselor about the anger, exercising or doing other physical activity that does not result in harm. Hiking up to the top of a hill and screaming into the wind is a way of combining some of these suggestions. Talking to friends or family may be helpful as long as care is used to not lash out and hurt them in the process.

Add in some humor to help in expressing the heartache. The "You Ripped My Heart Out Werewolf Heart Bag" or Iron Fist's "My Rotting Heart bag" are fabulous examples of combining macabre humor with the anger to stylishly cope with the loss.

You Ripped My Heart Out Werewolf Heart Bag

You Ripped My Heart Out Werewolf Heart Bag
You Ripped My Heart Out Werewolf Heart Bag | Source

Gifts for the Broken and Ripped out Hearted

Iron Fist Bags and Wallets are stylish ways of coping with the pain of heartache.

Anti Valentine's Day Celebration

Love Bites on Valentine's Day

Love Bites Anti-Valentine Party Invitation
Love Bites Anti-Valentine Party Invitation | Source

Throw an Anti Valentine's Day Party


Another way of coping with Valentine's Day is to protest the commercialism of the holiday or rebel against the perceived forced celebration of a romantic love, or against the Hallmark holiday a sentiment termed Antivalentinism.

Retro Mamma (and Teen Program Planner) writes this about Anti Valentine's Day and planning an Anti Valentine's Day celebration. "An Anti-Valentine's day party is a fun way to "spit in the face" of lovey dovey couples, big business, and even the idea that we need to be in a relationship to be happy." Furthermore, an anti-Valentine's Day celebration can be for "single people, gal pals, or anyone who 'Damns the Man' and doesn't buy into that corporate greed nonsense."

Singles and even couples may choose to celebrate Anti Valentine's Day instead and throw an Anti Valentine's Day Party. This alternative to Valentine's Day is often celebrated on Valentine's Day, but it may also be celebrated early on the 13th or later on the 15th.

Grab your other single friends and disgruntled couples and celebrate Anti Valentine's Day instead recounting all of the reasons why "Love Stinks" and "Love Bites."

Love Bites Anti-Valentine Party Invitation by NoteableExpressions on Zazzle

How to Throw an Anti Valentine's Day Party

Learn from Partyland expert Stephanie Grassley how to throw an Anti Valentine's Day party.

More Ways to Celebrate Valentine's Day

In case you decide to do something more traditional for Valentine's Day, here are some suggestions:

What have you done as a single person on Valentine's Day?

Share your thoughts in the comment section below.

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      SimonJay 3 years ago

      Nice lens for those who are single on valentines day and are trying to make it a good day.

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      AnitaJax 3 years ago

      Valentine's Day can be fun when one has a significant other. However the whole concept has been overly commercialized.

      The best Valentine I ever received was while I was single. A pal walked up to me on a particularly bad day, wrapped his arms around me and said, "Anita, I love you. Thank you for being my friend." He kissed my cheek and went merrily on his way before I could respond.

      Romantic? Not so much. But it was sweet, heartfelt and makes me smile years later.

      This year I am single again and plan to do a spa day at home on or about Valentine's Day. While my nails dry I will call friends and tell them how wonderful they are.

      Romantic? Not so much. But it will will remind me how many people care for me and let those dear to my heart know they are loved and appreciated, whether they have a partner or not.

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      Leah J. Hileman 3 years ago from East Berlin, PA, USA

      Coming back to leave a comment for the Valentine's Day Squidliking Quest. I LIKE alternatives to Valentine's Day, especially as a single person.

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      Kirsti A. Dyer 4 years ago from Northern California

      @convert-youtube: Thank you

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      convert-youtube 4 years ago

      All single person will like your lens ... nice ideas.

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      Kirsti A. Dyer 4 years ago from Northern California

      @lesliesinclair: Lovely sentiment.

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      lesliesinclair 4 years ago

      I think the best gift is given all year long - loving people for who they are and where they are.

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      Brandi 4 years ago from Maryland

      I'm married and I had to get myself a Valentine's Day gift! LOL Great ideas for single folks...Happy Valentine's Day!

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      Leah J. Hileman 5 years ago from East Berlin, PA, USA

      Oh, yes. In fact, I have a new bottle of bubblebath and some Reese's cups waiting for me when I get home from work today :)

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      JoyfulReviewer 5 years ago

      With Valentine's Day so focused on couples, it's good to see all your suggestions for singles. Very nicely presented lens!

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      gypsyman27 lm 5 years ago

      Although I am single, I am not angry about this circumstance. I have a lot of female friends and they always find their way to my home, holidays and regular days have me keeping company with the ladies of my life. I've never had to give myself a Valentine's Day gift, I get little presents from my friends all of the time. I try to maintain a good outlook and a cheerful disposition and this serves me well. See you around the galaxy...

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      Marigold Tortelli 5 years ago

      As someone who is perpetually single, I usually do something special for myself on Valentine's Day.

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      MissTree 5 years ago

      Great ideas! Every single single person would find this informative. :)

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      Tagsforkids 5 years ago

      Some great ideas and suggestions. Fortunately I won't be celebrating alone this year, but as they say, been there done that! Never a gift, but i do remember doing some indulging! :-)

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      Tagsforkids 5 years ago

      Some great ideas and suggestions! Fortunately I won't be celebrating alone, but as they say, been there done that!

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      Frischy 5 years ago from Kentucky, USA

      Some great ideas here for singles! One way I try to avoid feeling sorry for myself (a tremendous temptation on the big V day) is by doing things for others. I might try to figure out a nice way to surprise some other single ladies that day. Focusing on others helps me exchange my loneliness into something a lot more positive. Thanks for the terrific ideas!

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      Nancy Tate Hellams 5 years ago from Pendleton, SC

      Wow, anyone who is single needs to find this page so they will have some great ideas of Ways To Celebrate Valentine's Day!