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A Step Mom's Ultimate Gift Giving Guide

Updated on November 2, 2012

How to Buy Awesome Gifts for Step Children

I love giving gifts; however, as a mother and a step mother I noticed some differences in my ability to give gifts to my own children and my step children. Because my step children only live with us during the summer, and visit every other holiday it is really difficult for me to keep up with their sizes, not to mention the changes in their interests.

The best gifts you can give to your step kids are to be FLEXIBLE, and CONSIDERATE and LOVING.

Ask the kids what they want, but sometimes it's necessary to ask the custodial parent for input.

Asking for Gift Ideas from the Kids (or their mother?)

Awesome Home-Away-From-MY-Home Surprises Merit Talking to Their Mom

I'd rather talk to my stepchildren about what their sizes are, or what they want for a gift than go to their mother. The mother/stepmother relationship I have with the kids' mother isn't necessarily a bad one - but I wouldn't say it's a deep one either. I've only met her on a few rare occasions, because most of the time the kids fly back and forth between our homes in different states.

Obviously there are some relationship strains between my husband and his ex-wife as well, so it is easier to communicate with the kids, rather than their mother. However, the primary reason I prefer to talk to the kids is because I'm working to deepen my relationship with them. They are my priority. So any excuse I can have to talk with them is a good one.

However, sometimes there are reasons to talk to their mother instead. When they were younger, she was the one I had to go to in order to find out the kids sizes. However, that's not really an issue now that they are older. For awesome surprises in their home-away-from-my-home, communication with their mother is sometimes necessary. Arranging surprise event tickets, for example.

Custodial Parent Input: Yay or nay?

Do you think the custodial parent would be helpful in your quest for the perfect gift for step children?

How do you buy gifts for your step children?

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      6 years ago

      great lens :)

    • lshields lm profile image

      lshields lm 

      6 years ago

      Nice ideas

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      6 years ago

      @moonlitta: I don't know if I've mastered it - but I sure am trying to bridge the gap! :)

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      6 years ago

      I see you've mastered it pretty good:)

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      6 years ago

      Nice information! Thanks for sharing!

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      6 years ago

      These Gifts for Step Children are nice


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