Celebrating Stepmother's Day
Ideas for observing Stepmother's Day
This page brings you information about Stepmothers Day and ideas about how to observe the holiday and show appreciation for a special stepmom.
Becoming a second mother to someone else's children is not easy, but millions of women have taken on the task. Stepmothers Day is dedicated to honoring those special relationships.
Stepmothers Day is observed on the Sunday after Mother's Day.
Why I like the idea of Stepmothers Day
One of the things children in blended families often face is feeling "torn" between one set of parents and another. Stepmothers who are involved in the lives of their stepkids want to be recognized for what they do, but they don't want to pull the children away from their mothers on Mothers Day.
Having a separate day to honor stepmothers acknowledges the role that stepmoms play in a family. We don't take the place of the children's mother, but the relationship we have with the children is an important one as well.
The origin of Stepmothers Day
It started from a young girl's inspiration
The original idea of Stepmothers day came from Lizzie Capuzzi, a girl in Pennsylvania. Lizzie wanted to set aside a day to honor and appreciate her stepmother, Joyce Capuzzi. Doing it on Mothers Day wouldn't work well because she devoted Mothers Day to spending time with her mother and stepdad. She chose the Sunday after Mothers Day as the special day for her stepmom.
In 2000, when Lizzie was nine years old, Lizzie and Joyce wrote to their congressional rep, Rick Santorum, and proposed that Stepmothers Day be recognized as a holiday nationwide. Rep. Santorum brought it before Congress and it was made a part of the Congressional Record.
Here are some special things you can do to celebrate Stepmothers Day
- Give a gift of memories. A photo album or scrapbook that highlights special family times.
- Make new memories! Plan a special day trip or activity to spend time together.
- Write her a letter telling her how much she means to you.
- Give a gift that relates to a special interest that she has. That shows that you recognize her as a unique person.
- Any of the typical Mothers Day activities or gifts would be cherished by stepmoms as well. Gift baskets, breakfast in bed, a spa day, chocolate, flowers, bring it on!
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A queen's gift to her stepmother
The embroidery on the right is the bookbinding of The Miroir or Glasse of the Synneful Soul, a manuscript translated from French by Princess Elizabeth of England (later Queen Elizabeth I) at age 11 in 1544, and presented to her stepmother, Katherine Parr.
Inspiring stories about stepmothers
There are plenty of articles to be found that talk about the trials of stepmotherhood and how to deal with them. But we can read those on another day, right? On Stepmother's Day, let's read something sweet.
These are true-life stories from real stepmoms.
- The Joys of Being a Stepmother
Author Sylvia Brownrigg shares the story of her first meeting with the boy who became her stepson, and how the relationship has developed since then.
- Stepmom with Class
Author Corry Lane talks about the positive relationship she has with her stepdaughter and how she manages "fitting in" when it comes to an important family event.
Heartwarming books about stepmothers
Again, there are lots of "how-to" books that talk about strategies for being a good stepmother and working through problems, but on Stepmothers Day, give her something uplifting.
My own story of being a stepmother
David was 6 years old and Charity was 4 when I married their dad. They had known me all their lives, but things were, of course, very different when I became their stepmother. My husband is the custodial parent, so I was jumping into the role of full-time parental figure. They spent more time with me than they did with their mother.
I have to say the early years were stormy. They were accustomed to certain ways of doing things that weren't always compatible with my lifestyle and my plans for the household. There were arguments and tears, there were times I had to call my husband for help, but there was also affection and fun and adventures. Over time, things smoothed out. I became more confident in my role and they got more comfortable with me.
David is now 22 and Charity is 21. They're both in college. We all get along well. They have developed their own sense of what advice and guidance they want to seek from me and what issues they prefer to discuss with their mother or with others. I have high hopes for the future for both of them.
Do/Did you have a stepmother? - How did things go?
What kind of relationship do you have with your stepmom?
Gifts to give to a stepmom
- How Stepmothers Day Began
More about Lizzie and Joyce's efforts to spread the word about Stepmothers Day.
- Stepmothers Day
By blogger Sweetie Berry.
- Celebrate yourself and all stepmothers on official Stepmother's Day
- Gift Ideas for a Stepmom
- Her cause: A day to honor her stepmother
From the Philadelphia Inquirer.