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Valentine's Day Surprise Gift Ideas
I know you're all excited about surprising your sweetie with something romantic for Valentine's Day, right? That's probably because you like surprises yourself.
I don't want to be the one to burst your bubble, but have you considered the possibility that your valentine might not enjoy surprises quite as much as you do? Is it even possible that he/she gets really anxious when something unexpected happens?
Of course, if he/she just adores surprises, then, go ahead surprise away. If not, I hope the next few paragraphs might help you make Valentine's Day an enjoyable experience for both of you.
Surprise - Exciting or Anxciting?
Some people just love surprises. Some people just love to surprise others. Is it always a great idea? There is some evidence that it isn't always as appreciated as some of us like to think.
Five Gifts of Love
Best of all, they're free. They just require a little brain work on your part.
My personal favorite is number 3. Imagine you get this awful gift and you're about to throw it in the garbage. Don't. Get some love mileage out of it first. If necessary, take an acting class and pretend you just love it. Display it prominently. Use it daily, whatever it takes to show that you love it. It could be the best gift you've ever given. Isn't pretending the same as lying? It most certainly is, but Jesus taught us to love one another as he had loved us. Pray and He will tell you.
- Words of Affirmation
- Acts of Service
- Receiving Gifts
- Quality Time
- Physical Touch
Dealing with Surprise
Since you landed on this page, I have to assume you're someone who loves surprises and to surprise others. There is no need to totally deprive yourself of surprising your partner once in a while even if he/she is the kind of person who gets really anxious in the face of surprise. You just have to work a little harder at it than other people.
The best part about the above five love gifts is that, not only are they free, they are also non-threatening for the anxious receiver, so give them as often as you like.
Another possibility is that you have a partner who loves surprises, but you have a hard time coming up with one. I hope this helps you as well.
So you thought I'd never get to the actual surprise gifts?
Why not start with Dr. Chapman's book? It really is something else. It's not just for couples, you know. There is plenty of wisdom for all your relationships.
If dinner and a movie or any other event that involves going out is in your plans or staying in for that matter, consider making it a homemade gift card and put it in his/her lunchbox or sock drawer. It'll still be a surprise, but it won't interrupt his/her day and it allows him/her to get used to the idea at his or her own pace. Relaxed, both of you will be able to enjoy yourselves.
Presence - You Are the Most Precious Gift
For some of us, spending quality time with the one we love is the greatest gift.
If you want to take your presence gift to the next level, figure out what your valentine's favorite activity is. Then, even if it's not your favorite activity, go with him/her anyway. You might have to stretch a little to be genuinely interested in the activity. Whatever you do, you cannot complain or appear distant. It will show and that will have the opposite effect of what you intended.
And of course you remembered to let him/her get used to the idea first, right?
Safely Stepping Out of the Comfort Zone
Someone who is surprise averse may not be all that adventurous either. Sleeping on the ground in a tent while the rain is pouring down outside? I don't think so!!
The good news is that it doesn't have to be that way. The experience of being in the great outdoors can be had without sacrificing any of the usual luxuries of modern life. There are resorts that cater directly to this segment of the population. Just hunt around a little. You will find them.
Modern RVs are just as luxurious as many apartments, perhaps better in some cases. Modern camp grounds have all kinds of amenities. Camping does not have to be a rough experience.
Camping is a great bonding experience and there's a level for everyone to participate. Here are a few things that might come in handy when you go.
Time Together Brings You Closer Together
These games can be played by two or more people. Some games are collaborative. Others are competitive. Either way, they bring you closer together.