Making Valentine's Day Special for a Senior Citizen
Whether you're old or young, Valentine's Day should be a special day
Making Valentine's Day special for a senior citizen is really not all that hard - you just have to be aware that the day may be sad for them and just go a bit out of your way to make Valentine's Day special anyway. My Mom lost her love of 65 years in 2007; we had a few rocky years getting over the loss of my Dad but, one thing I learned was that anniversaries continue to happen, holidays come and go and that's where this Squidoo article came from. Just because Dad isn't here physically for Valentine's Day doesn't mean that the holiday stops.
My Mom lives with me and, even though I kid her that every day is Mother's Day around our house, Valentine's Day is still made into a special occasion. Want to see how I do it? Read on.
And, although Dad is gone, he is certainly never forgotten.
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Updated: Jan 2, 2013
Wrap your favorite senior lady in red pajamas or a red robe for Valentine's Day
My Mom gets cold if the cat sneezes so getting her new warm pajamas and a nice new robe is the way to go. And, there's something sexy about red pajamas...maybe not so much on a 95 year old though....
A senior citizen may not be as interesting in presents - as he or she is in your presence on Valentine's Day
I've long known that the gift of time is the absoute best gift one can give to another human, and spending time with my Mom is no exception to that rule. She doesn't require flowers and chocolates for Valentine's Day (although that's nice too) but, instead, just holding her hand is enough. You don't have to be rich to lend some richness to a senior citizen's life.
Here's a few ideas for you for spending Valentine's Day with a senior citizen.
- Spend Valentine's Day visiting a museum in your area. If there is an American History museum, you might find that seeing the exhibits from days of old sparks some interesting conversation with your favorite senior citizen.
If you've got a more housebound senior citizen with whom to spend Valentine's day, how about getting a few nice coffee table books about history, museums or their favorite subjects? Here's a few nice books on Amazon which would make great Valentine's Day presents:
- Bring in dinner and a movie. You don't have to be a gourmet cook - just bring in some of your senior citizen's favorite foods and slip a good movie into the DVD player. Lay out a red tablecloth and napkins and some red wine for a nice touch.
For some suggestions of good movies to view with a senior citizen, go visit my blog Good Movies For Senior Citizens.
Here's a few other choice which 95 year old Gertie rated "10 arthritic fingers up":
- Create some delicious Dessert shooters - mini desserts served in small glasses for an after dinner treat. Select your senior citizen's favorite things, such as pound cake, pudding, etc and layer them into a pretty glass. Make sure to add something a bit crunch between the layers though to add interest. To see more Dessert Shooter ideas, check out this link: Lori's Dessert Shooter articles.
- Pick a craft idea to try with your favorite senior citizen, purchase the supplies, and sit down over a cup of tea to put your craft together. For some good ideas for craft for senior citizens, visit my Squidoo article: Senior Citizen Crafts.
If you senior citizen's eyesight is good enough, how about picking up a jigsaw puzzle to work together? There's a few fun jigsaw puzzles particularly made for seniors in mind.
Give your favorite senior citizen a piece of your heart for Valentine's Day
I love these hand warmers and so does my elderly mom. They're reusable - just put in warm water to recharge - and inexpensive.
This heart shaped heating disc can be used for hands or placed inside socks for toast toes. Do not allow your favorite elderly person to walk with these in their shoes or socks though.
Some movies Mom and I have enjoyed
Mom is mostly in a wheelchair these days so we spend a lot of time watching TV - yes, I'm now a fan of Wheel of Fortune (well, that secret is out of the bag). The below are some of the movies we've watched that Mom most liked.
Mom laughed out loud at the antics of Walter Matthau in this movie.
Mom actually remembered some of this movie. The soundtrack alone is worth watching the movie
If your senior citizen is old fashioned, this movie might not be it but Mom rolled.
Another movie for the more progressive minded senior citizen.
The Odd Couple is just good for everyone. It's a wonderful flick.
Our last Valentine's Day together
I'm sorry to report that my adorable mom, Gertie, died Feb 15, 2012 but that didn't stop me from giving her roses on Valentine's Day. She nodded a thank you and sniffed their fragrance before slipping back into a twilight zone. Somehow though, I know that she took that last sniff with her as she left this earth. To read more about my amazing mom, please come visit my blog Travels with a 95 year old.
Let's not forget our senior citizen gentlemen in our lives - They love Valentine's Day too
Senior men frequently get forgotten at Valentine's Day but why? They have the same memories that their wives had. Celebrate them also with some red robes for Valentine's Day
Mom and I will probably spend Valentine's Day with my adorable boyfriend in our dining room over a nice supper. We're lucky enough to have her home with us and enjoy every single holiday together. How about you? Please leave me comments.