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Come here you, sit down, and let’s TALK.
O.K………So you’ve trawled through countless reams of Hub Pages, Facebook sites, Blogs, Youtube Videos, soaking up the sage pointers of the wise, and the offerings from knowledgeable novice monks, giving advice to the betrothed, and the married, lending their experience on why you should remain single.You’ve read intently, laughed, cried, been mad, turned on and turned off, but still, after all of this, still left wondering…..
“ Yeah…..it all sounds fine and dandy, idealistic, sensible and proper, but this is my life baby, and I’m doing it once, so why doesn’t it all ring wholly true? Why am I still left in doubt, even after listening to all of this good sense? Why doesn’t it sit well with me? I’m flattered, but flattened! “
Has any one of these sources ever truly shown YOU in a mirror, explored your heart, mind and spirit, then read you like a cheap novel without ever hurting you on some level?
I propose that the majority of what you’ve read in magazines, read online, been taught in school, experienced from friends, various conversations, and the prescribed feelings you’ve been taught to adopt are b*llsh*t. Controversial? So what……let’s do this thing……
Let me share this with you, for nothing – happiness cannot predominantly, be found in another person; it’s nigh on impossible. Only you can make yourself happy.
e.g. Someone tells you and your friend a joke; she is offended, whilst you nearly wet yourself laughing.You are happy, but she is not. Magic? No. YOU decided to be happy for your own reasons, but she took the option of unhappiness.All down to choice.You reacted differently, because it was simply ‘ funny ‘; perhaps your friend had been taught that certain things are not to be deemed as funny – learned behaviour, no doubt, that nurtured her reaction – one ‘ natural ‘, the other ‘ unnatural ‘.
I’m not offering any dime-store psychology here – let’s just look at it for what it is.Let me take your hand, as a friend, and walk through the various topics that crop up daily, and that matter to you and I. Help me if you can.
~ “ WHAT DO WE WANT? “~
Simple question, but bloody tough to answer, after all of the basic human needs are taken care of.In the Western world, we take a lot for granted, but some still live hand-to-mouth on a daily basis.Good food and drink, clean water, clean air, shelter, comfort, love, sexual fulfilment, purpose, and a goal to set one’s sight on to be achieved; comradeship/sense of belonging to a greater whole is also a major influence for most;
“ Goody!!; I have all of that, so why am I not happy, or why am I not satisfied yet? “
“ I feel empty, sometimes”, you may muse to yourself, “ Yet to the outside world, it looks like I have everything! “
I’ll venture why you’re not happy…..Because you live in a world where not everyone has, what lucky old you has, and you feel powerless to give them the same as what you are currently enjoying.Do you know what? Yes; you can’t do it – poor people are everywhere, but you CAN give a little, and collectively, make it happen; guaranteed, that this will make you FEEL happier.
“ I’m not happy unless I’m suffering, or seeing someone else feel down “, is an uncomfortable fact of human nature – most do not wish to be honest with themselves, and cheat even their very own soul from the life it is due. So you don’t want to face how horrible, and miserable the dark part of you really is? Good! neither do I, but face it I will, and get to the bottom of what makes me tick.
Does it all seem so pointless and vain at times? Yes; you would be right to think so, because it is.
“ I’m going to die one day, so what does it all mean? “
Does this scare the sh!t out of you, because it does me, as well it should.
“ I have children – what will become of them? “
Those parents that actually give a damn about their own flesh and blood, and didn’t just have them on a whim, or for financial purposes, would do well to think about such things.Your innocent babes are probably the closest thing to God that you will meet in your life.They are the strongest link in your chain, in this short life, upon this conflicting world, constantly exposing you, and also bringing about the greatest joy, the uniqueness of which is your very own, and stored in the treasure house of your heart.
Those of you with a mature understanding of love already know that it is the ultimate beginning and ending of life, and the best guide for everything else in between.It is the only thing in existence that is stronger than death.
~ “WHO ARE YOU, WHO DO YOU SERVE, AND WHERE ARE YOU GOING? “ ~
“ My wife is a selfish pig! “; “ My husband acts like he doesn’t care! “; “ Why am I not enjoying sexual relations like they do in a Hollywood blockbuster? “; “ Why do I feel like a piece of gold, hiding in a mound of sh!t? “……yadda, yadda, yadda…..All could be worthy articles in their own right. Guess what? We’re ALL selfish! One minute, we can love so hard, like the object of our affection is going to simply explode like dynamite because of us, and the next, we can hate so hard, that we feel we could peel paint off the wall, just by looking at it.This is YOU! Yes; and ME! Look at us! Aren’t we pitiful?; but aren’t we precious as well?
“ So what’s the answer? “,you may cry;
“ Where is the love? “.
Songs, and books, and countless other mediums have sung, and written about its’ gain and loss, and all the scenes in between.
I’ll tell you what true love is…….(let’s hope I don’t have a heart attack before I get a chance to finish this article :)……..It may not be what you expect……
It is an innocent man, in his early thirties, humiliatingly nailed to a wooden cross, the materials of his former family trade, hanging in his underpants, in the most unbearable, and excrutiating pain of torture ever devised by the imagination of man, shouting out to his Father to forgive his persecutors, and executors, who then turned His back on His only Son, for our sake, because He couldn’t bear to look upon sin.His name is Jesus Christ (Yehoshua Ha Mesiach), and he did this for US, out of love.He died, because I deserved to instead.He took the rap for ME, and for YOU, so that we can live life in all of its fullness.I love this man with every fibre of my being - do you know why? Because he loved me first, and I am not ashamed to say so.
“ But this is foolishness! Dying on a cross? What are you talking about? “.
Really? Maybe it even offends you.You may not even believe in God, but nevertheless, there He is, every day of your life.He runs the whole show baby, and He can do what He likes.Scared? So am I.You don’t like that? Well, I don’t always feel comfortable with it either, especially when things don’t go my way, but I trust Him – the only Person I really do.
“ So why did He have His own Son go through all that? I thought He was a loving God! “, some may cry.
Well guess what? You think you know what love is? GOD IS LOVE, and I’ll tell you why.He loves us, but what we do, seperates us from Him – this is death; Yes folks – you thought that death happens when you’re in an oblong box, six-feet under? Not only. Death, is being separated from God – God is love – separation from love is death.The only way, prescribed by God Almighty Himself, to bring us back into His loving Presence, is by paying the price He requires, in order to have that relationship – but we didn’t even have to do that…..HE took the initiative, and His Son agreed.Isn’t this the greatest Father and Son team you’ve ever heard of?Oh, and get this….He also brought him back from the dead as well – you don’t believe me?Check out the Gospel in the New Testament(God’s new deal with mankind), and arrive at your own conclusion – it will be more real for you that way – after all, it’s the welfare of your eternal soul He is looking out for :)
It makes me want to weep – I can’t even comprehend how deep this love is.And He’s proved it, by paying off our debts as well.His Son paid our debts, ONCE, and for ALL; so,you don’t even have to pay, either – how generous is that? It’s all laid on, and already been done for us.
I’m a bad boy, but I’m still working on it, because He is very patient.All any of us have to do, is accept this free gift of Grace, and say thank you – how simple is that?
Thank you for YOUR patience in reading this article, and I hope that you go away richer than when you arrived, and that you have something valuable to think about, and take with you.
All the best, and hopefully see you down the road………… :)