10 Commandments to Avoid Being a Douchebag
If you would have told me, in the 90's, that Mel Gibson would end up being one of the biggest douchebags on the planet I would have laughed at you while politely excusing myself. These are strange times, even the seemingly untouchable role models of our time are screaming "Look at me, I'm a douchebag!" Tiger Woods, wow, never in a million years did I see that one coming. Jesse James, was a shocking scenario because he seemed like a man's man who took care of his wife, who just happens to be "Americas Sweetheart", Sandra Bullock. It was heartwarming the way Sandra doted on him on her award winning tour only for Jesse to repay her with the humiliation tour of his own. What a douchebag. Even Lebron 'King' James appeared to be kind of douchey the way he went on television and burned Cleveland on his way to Miami.
These are some of the douchebags that we see and hear about every day in the news and on the internet but what about the casual, average, everyday douchebags that we know, are related to or run into constantly? These people suck! If you're reading this and are thinking to yourself,"'hmm... I can't think of any" then I have some bad news my friend, you may be the douchebag. Fear not Mr. Summer's Eve, it's not too late because I have ten commandments that will remove your pariah status and help integrate you back into the folds of normal society. One warning, if people do think you're a douchebag then it will take work and a genuine desire to change and this doesn't happen overnight but if you're serious then sincerity will win out.
10 Commandments to Avoid Being a Douchebag
1. Pay Your Debts. Are you the guy that everyone comes up to asking if you have that $20 dollars you owe them? Do you proceed to tell them you are a little tight right now and then go out that night dropping a buck-twenty at the club? Nothing will put you in douchebag status quicker than not paying your debts. People lend you this money in good faith and are probably tight themselves, so pay them back before running out and buying that new "sick" video game.
2. Braggarts Not Allowed. On the flip side, do you have copious amounts of coin and want everyone to know it? Do you go out and purchase the latest "it" item whether it's a car, clothing or electronic device and then talk about it endlessly to anyone within earshot? Do you feel that everyone must know about your trip or recent date with a supermodel? If this is you then you are a materialistic douchebag, stop it! Listen, having nice things is great and if you can afford to do it, even better. The key is letting your possesions and good fortune be an extension of your success and not the definition of it. People aren't blind and they know that your wallet is full and bragging about it will only make them feel bad and what's the point of that?
3. Thou Will Not Covet. Do you look at any girl a buddy is with and think "she should be with me?" Are overly flirtatious and friendly to your best friends girl? Do you wish you had Jesse's Girl? This is a symptom of being a creepy douchebag. Leave the girl alone! She's not yours and she wouldn't be better off with you. That whole "unattainable challenge" is tired and old, go out and get your own single girl and stay away from the attached ones.
4. Relationships Not Required. Do you fantasize about every attractive women you pass on the street? Do you try to hook up on a frequent basis? Are you married or in a relationship when you do this? Well, knock knock. Who's there? You, the cheating, sleazy douchebag! This one seems so simple but even so called "stand up guys" screw this one up. If you want lots of promiscuous encounters than don't get married! Break up with your girlfriend! If your thinking that you don't want to hurt her is a good excuse then you're also a stupid douchebag. Grow a pair, end it or don't get into the relationship to begin with.
5. Shut Up. Do you tell offensive jokes because YOU think they're funny? Does your brain constantly tell you not to say something only to be ignored? Are violent, racist or sexist statements leaving your lips unchecked? If you answered yes to any, or more realistically all, of these questions then you are a douchebag that suffers from verbal diarrhea. This is a two step process; 1. Locate mouth. 2. Shut it. You're only funny or appealing to your douchebag friends, everyone else thinks that, well, you guessed it, you're just a douchebag. You're social status or dateability doesn't rise just because you look to see if the room is devoid of the party you're about to offend with an off colored joke.
6. Listen Up. Do you have no idea what the person you're talking to just said because you want to tell him about what happened on South Park last night? Are you constantly changing the subject to whatever's on your mind? If yes, then you're a douchebag that needs to clean his ears out. The dialog coming from your conversation mate is just important to them as whatever you want to say is important to you. You learn so much more from your ears than your mouth. If you spend time concentrating on what the other person is saying then you might just be surprised at how rewarding listening can be.
7. Your Word's Value is Priceless. Do you often make grandiose statements that start with "I'm gonna?" Do you make commitments on a constant basis that you never follow through with? Do you throw out promises like they're going out of style? If so then you're a considered a worthless douchebag. It really is true that your word is gold and when you lose that, you have nothing. People would rather hear a no than an unfollowed through yes, because they can make alternate plans. If you can't or have no desire to do something then don't commit to it. If you break too many commitments you'll find that when you eventually do follow through people will still respond negatively because you're still a douchebag.
8. Settle Down. Do you insist that everyone does shots at the beginning, middle and end of the evening? Are you the one who accepts any and every dare even if it's in jest? Do often wake up asking yourself "did I really do that?" or even worse "what did I do?" If your nodding your head, while suppressing embarrassed laughter, than you're not just a douchebag your a fool as well. You're the guy that everyone is laughing at, not with. Here's some tips. Drink less, think it through and eliminate the "I don't give a f#@k" attitude because you should give a f#@k. It is your reputation after all.
9. Care! It May Be Important to Them. Do you listen to other people's problems thinking that they're over reacting, being drama queens or are just plain stupid? Are you too busy to be emotionally available for anybody? Do you really just not care? If you're rolling your eyes, thinking "oh God, here we go again." then your a first class, grade A douchebag! Everyone needs somebody and if you think you don't then it's gonna all come at once and you're probably gonna need more than one person. We're all on this planet together and we should be there for each other. You may think that Mr. Jiggles was the most annoying cat ever but that was their pet and empathy, sympathy and a hug could go a long way.
10. It's Not All About You! The previous nine commandments all lead to this one. If you think that this world and everyone in it were created for your enjoyment, if your cocky or arrogant rather than confident, if you only care about yourself and no other then you're a douchebag. Try spending your energy on other people rather than just yourself. The rewards you receive are ten times greater than anything you could give yourself.
So there you have it! If this article helps even one douchebag then it was worth it because lets face it karma's a real bitch.