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Updated on June 20, 2011

A Reflection of my childhood.....

So today is hard for me. Today is hard for anyone who has lost their father. It's Father's Day and somewhere in the sky my father is playing with some sort of "swingin band" with all sorts of characters surrounding the room. Sort of like a Woody Allen movie but with musicians where they break the fourth wall and yell at the audience. Oh, I mean "perform" at the audience! Demanding your attention! Yes.....that's show biz!!!!!

Every year I get a bit down cause I miss him. He has been gone almost 12 years now and it still hurts. Death has played a big role in my life and although he was 92 when he passed (most would say that he lived a good, long life), it does not make things easier. I was lucky enough to be able to visit my sister in another state close to this time and I guess as time has passed and we have both grown to be mature, responsible adults and parents....the thing that is missing the most is his laughter and his "so alive spirit." People always tell me that they see glimpses of him in me when I bring a few people to a "great giggle state" with my "out there" stories. I always seem to have a different angle on life's every day occurances. I guess it is sort of my way of bringing light to something so ordinary. This I learned from my father. He was so good at telling great stories. I miss all the laughter and "old timers" at my family home. I miss the stories and the "over the top" crazy laughter. It was a different time, a rare generation of "I was born to swing." "Swing" at that time meant "let loose and get crazy baby!" ha. It meant "enjoy life and the moment!" Boy, times have changed!

So today I wanted to thank him for the gifts that he gave me. I have never thought about them before and wrote them down. I thought if I really look back, it would make my heart "lighter" today.

My father was very talented and loved attention but inside was a very sensitive man. He did not often show emotion when he was hurting and when he cried, it was a very big deal. The best gift of all he gave me was the confidence to "get out there" in anything and make things happen. Since he was 60 when I was born, I guess I sort of missed out on his younger years. He was a "mover and a shaker" and when he wanted anything, he made it happen. Sometimes I felt he was selfish, but he was of another generation. Some would say a bit chauvinistic. Sometimes it was hard to grow up with him since he was so much older then other dad's. But when it comes to everything and the memories, he was always "in my corner." I never doubted his love and belief in me. I wanted to make him proud cause I loved him. I did try to please him a lot in my younger years, but he got so excited about my achievements...I just could not help it!!! He was always the loudest person in the audience. He was always the loudest person at home. He often said "go get em G!" I am who I am because he gave me so much support. The best cheerleader in town he was!

He once told me something that he regretted. We used to spend hours talking about stuff and shooting the breeze. Sometimes it was about food, funny events, boy stuff. I could ask him anything! He always had an answer or a great opinion and I always took a lot of what he said to heart. He told me that his one regret in life was that he never "felt like he was good enough." That fear stayed with him even though he was very successful and dynamic. He achieved a very high level of fame but deep down he felt like he could have done "more." The one thing he said that I always think of is "Never think you are not good enough." He said that if you get up in a room, there is a chance that you will be in the top nomatter what. You have to atleast try." I always think of this in everything I do even if it is something simple that I fear. I understand what he was saying because "fear" can sabotage a lot of things.

I guess that the best gift he gave me of all was the knowledge that I was always going to be ok. That he loved me in every way and that he believed in me. It was in everything he did and said. I never doubted that I wouldn't because it was never a possibility in his mind or mine. This keeps me going every single day. Even in my hardest times. That deep security that he installed in my heart. And even when times get tough I hear him say "This too shall pass."

Love you Daddy

G xo


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    • GPAGE profile image

      GPAGE 6 years ago from California

      THANX WILL! What you say is so true!!! LOVE is everything! So glad you stopped by! Thanx for being here.....GPAGE

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      WillStarr 6 years ago from Phoenix, Arizona

      Great Hub G!

      The best fathers are the ones who love their children. Everything else is icing on the cake.

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      GPAGE 6 years ago from California

      Thank you Pamela....I do appreciate you being here! Thank you for your lovely comment. It seems when life gets a bit tougher for me sometimes, I miss him even more. I have been going through so many changes this past year. Positive but also difficult. My sister and I created a tribute for him on facebook this past weekend and yesterday I got a bit down cause I missed him so much. For some reason it helps to write about him so I wrote this first thing yesterday morning. It did make me feel "lighter." Lovely to see another "daddy's girl here!!!.....Best, G

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      Pamela Oglesby 6 years ago from United States

      This is a beautiful tribute to your father who sounds like a wonderful man. I lost my father nine years ago and still miss his sense of humor and and being able to spend time with him. I was a daddy's girl also. I keep his picture on the wall by my computer.

      It sounds like your father adored you and that's something to treasure forever. Thank you for sharing this information as this is a beautiful hub.

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      GPAGE 6 years ago from California

      IV. Thank you so much for your heart, your love and your words S. I have been very emotional for the past few days. I'm so happy to know another "daddy's girl" who has a big heart and a love for life, romance and hot cocoa!

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      Sylvia Van Velzer 6 years ago from Hawaii

      Just like an artist, we feel, we're never good enough'...which is what made your dad a success and who he was. Like you G, thinking about dad is always very emotional, and i am in between tears, and a host of other feelings since a couple days past. I love your heart, and how you express your love for your dad. I'm daddy's girl forever. I think you are too. Love it!