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A Friend Like You, (a tribute to another man)!!

Updated on May 19, 2011
Gordon and I, my long suffering very wise partner.
Gordon and I, my long suffering very wise partner. | Source

A stranger by any other name.

This hub is not a dedication to another hubber, but more of a tribute to a man who by chance came into my life. We all know him, many of us stand in awe of his dedication to the other members of hub pages. I feel privileged to consider him a friend.

It only seems like yesterday when I joined hub pages and not without faint heart did I join. Gordon my partner of fourteen years, had been reading his friends face book page, when he learnt of Hub Pages existence. Knowing full well about my ambition to write, he left the page open and encouraged me to join. It was the best decision that I have made in my writing career, and although it took several weeks for me to post my first hub, I have never looked back since.

Now I know I have my short falls, good days and bad days, and at times I write total rubbish; but I am always spurred on by the lovely comments that I received from the many talented writers showcasing on Hub Pages.

I bit the bullet one day, and feeling self assured that this person would love my hubs and fill me full of praise I asked for a review, but what I received back was a little hard to except. You see I was told that I had a "little talent, that needed to be worked with", lovely true comment, but I was devastated, and cried into my tea cup. How dare this person burst my bubble, my one true desire to become a published author, immediately? I had no time to wait and 'fine tune' my little ability. The world in my eyes was ready for me now.

I allowed Gordon to read the review, feeling completely sure that he would agree with me and then I could have the satisfaction of sending a rather rude reply. To my amusement, Gordon read the review and simply said "fantastic". FANTASTIC! I wanted to reach out and pull his neck! "Read it again Annette," Gordon advised with a smile, was he laughing at my broken heart? "Go ahead and read it again" he coaxed, and I did.

My reaction this time to the comments was an eye opener in deed. The review was so completely true, and the reviewers personal comment on my mail was "wrapping you in cotton wool will do you no good in the world of publishing" or something very similar. With sheer determination, still wearing a bruised ego, but with renewed life, I asked for support in a project I was writing.

Now I can not say that my progress has been a pleasure, we have had our ups and downs, at times he appears to have a lack of emotion, and I know that I frustrate the living daylight's out of him. When I want him to sing my praises, he keeps me grounded, and when I feel completely jaded, he lifts me with a little comment that reminds me that he does in fact have a huge heart.

However, what he has taught me and patiently worked through with me has been amazing. I can see a huge improvement in my quality of writing, but so much more, is the fact that he has done something for me that many other people have failed to do. He offered me a lifeline, fragile and testing and times, but now I am overwhelmed by his support. This hubber who at times reminded me of a Jack Russell, always having to be in control, is in fact one of the most genuine people I have ever had the privilege to work along side.

I am so pleased that I was adult enough to take the critiscm, instead of throwing the dummy out of the pram. For what this man has given to me can not be purchased, they are simply, faith, consideration and trust.

Fate deals some strange blows, and I still do not understand why I had to approach this man for a review, but I will always be grateful that I did.

I will still not mention his name, because we all know him and many of us are in the fortunate position of being mentored by him. He is self sacrificing, pushes himself tirelessly to the limit and offers his wisdom to anyone who asks.

Thank you my friend, for you truly are my friend; and I show you the respect that you so deserve.

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    • thebluestar profile imageAUTHOR

      Annette Donaldson 

      6 years ago from Northern Ireland

      WE thank you so much for reading this hub today. At times we act impulsively and without thought, I have done that so many times. You taught me one big lesson in life, patience. I am truly grateful for that. Your help has indeed allowed me to grow and I will always be indebted to you for the experience. Annette.

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      Website Examiner 

      6 years ago

      This is a very nice hub, Thebluestar. Very gently and calmly written.

      That initial review was definitely intended as a compliment. Saying to someone she could write professionally, if so inclined, is the biggest compliment I could think of - and not one I recall having given to others. You are a talented, productive writer, and I was very pleased to have the opportunity to work with you. I was amazed at the output on Grandpa Miller, which I am now pleased to see on Amazon. Good luck! And my regards to Gordon! W.E.

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      The Frog Prince 

      6 years ago from Arlington, TX

      Well done :)

      The Frog

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      wayseeker 

      7 years ago from Colorado

      This hub reveals the depth of a passionate human heart--there is no greater requirement for one to become a fine writer than this. It's also clear that you have the perseverance every writer needs to overcome the challenges of growing as a writer and the harsh voices of both inner and outer critics. This is a great tribute, and, for what it's worth, yours was the first voice I heard as I began my journey here on hubpages. It's scary to begin, but even a single voice can make a tremendous difference. Thank you!

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      Kathi 

      7 years ago from Saugatuck Michigan

      Way to hang in there blue, you are brave and in spite of some criticism (always hard to take) your passion to continue your writing is very admirable! :o)

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      Annette Donaldson 

      7 years ago from Northern Ireland

      Hello all my friends, you are an inspiration to me, each and every one of you. You all have a different style of writing and different personality types, but you are all talented writers of whom I have become very fond of. It has been a tough journey for me in my past life, but writing and sharing myself with you has been the very best thing that I have ever done. I give you all a round of applause, and thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your support. xx

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      Motown2Chitown 

      7 years ago

      This is absolutely awesome! I think it might just spur me to ask for a HP mentor of my own...I may wait until my skin thickens a bit, but hey, why not!?!? There are folks here that I admire greatly and trust immensely when it comes to writing. A wonderful idea, and an even more wonderful tribute.

      :-)

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      epigramman 

      7 years ago

      ....well what a lovely lovely story my fine fine friend that you are ...... you are a first class lady all the way and I am so glad that we met here at the Hub and thank you for all of your support and encouragement - the young man in the picture is so very lucky and blessed to be in your hallowed company ..... because you're awesome in real life and hubawesome here at the Hub! A life affirming and most beautiful write!

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      Mrs. J. B. 

      7 years ago from Southern California

      Well Well Well... I can only imagine who you were talking about. Little talent? Friends wrapping you up in cotten? BS.... I have loved your work from the get go. No I am not a published author but I AM THE READER... Who I think makes the difference. Improve or not who cares... YOur readers love you, love your work and YES make very honest comments. As for this person saying otherwise well FT

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      Maria Jordan 

      7 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      bluestar,

      What a mature take on improving a gift that you have been blessed with! I know of whom you speak and I could not agree with you more!

      Voted UP & USEFUL & AWESOME & BEAUTIFUL...!

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      b. Malin 

      7 years ago

      What a Beautiful and well Written Tribute to this Hubber...I've seen you grow and you've seen me grow since we have come to Hub Pages, BlueStar. We've laughed, we've cried... and told one another a thing or two in the stories and Poems we've written. We are like a Family, a trusting Family. I'm so glad, I'm one of your follower, and you mine.

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