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Updated on July 3, 2013

A Heart Fire Ignites.....

So, what is love? That's right, think about it! You meet someone that really gets you, then you end up having fireworks and you fall heavy in the beginning, great sex and romance and then it either sustains into the magic zone or it simply fades away with time. This has happened in all of my past relationships. Somewhere down the line someone "dropped the ball." I'm always willing to accept my part of the problem. I really think that both people in the relationship are to blame when things go south. It is never fair to blame the other one for everything. It takes "two to tango" as they say and it also takes two people to ruin a loving relationship.

After two failed marriages, I often find myself asking "what is love?" And as I see so many people on social networks pairing up and then breaking up one wonders if people are capable of sustaining a strong, powerful loving relationship? Sooner or later, someone decides to rock the boat or exit. Maybe they just weren't ready in the first place? I say listen to your "heart fire."


Marriage is sacred and yet I have broken my vows twice. Not always my fault, but I'm usually the one to leave because the relationship either gets distant or too volatile. Distance in a relationship is a killer and I'm not talking about being in another state or country. Distance can happen in the same house or only a little while away. The point is that if the disconnection happens, it is very hard to get back. It takes lots of work and both partners have to be willing to make it their priority.

I was one of those young girls who wished for "Happily Ever After." But after picking two younger men as my husbands (one was 22 when we married and the other 23), At the time I was older then both and also young and not good at communication whatsoever! You can imagine the breakdown of a relationship in your twenties. Not a huge shocker especially when you are so young and it is too much to handle. If I were to go back, I would have waited to marry in my late 20's or early 30's. But my heart wanted more and I needed to share my passion and was not willing to "not try" and I did love them. Maybe not in the right way, but my heart was true and I did have two amazing children with one of them. Looking back, I always picked pretty good guys, but the biggest issue that did not help things was that they were both in the entertainment business! Both marriages felt like working corporations in the end with me being the head CEO!

Relationship Saving Tips.....

I truly believe that if I stayed with my first boyfriend who had southern roots when I was a teen and lived in a normal place or town, my life would have been completely different. But growing up in Los Angeles sort of makes things a bit more difficult in the relationship area. Especially when you work in the entertainment business. I have tried so hard to move my children away from the chaos and into a small town where they can have a normal life about 100 miles North of Los Angeles. We have lived here for the past "10" years except for when we lived in Europe. They can tap into whatever they want to when they are old enough to do so. It has worked wonders on my spirit and creativity and most of the time I live a very peaceful and non chaotic life. I do still work in the entertainment industry with the dream to simmer it down to something "mellow and cool." I'm hoping to travel more in the future and make documentaries about things I truly care about. Writing poetry and stories is also my passion. Maybe one day I will do it all!

Raising kids is not easy and I have done most of it on my own even when I was married because his priorities were not what they should have been. Lack of "priorities" was one of the main reasons I left my last marriage. My children are in a very loving and nurturing environment and I do pat myself on the back for making this all happen even though I knew it would be harder on me in the long run. I put my career on-hold for quite a few years (I still worked in other related industries ; production and TV), but I'm finally starting to get things in a great place again now that my kids are a bit older.

If you are worried about your relationship, I would say the best thing to do is rid yourself of anything or anyone that is distracting from the relationship. Do not listen to others who have not had successful and loving relationships either. They do no know what they are talking about!

Mature Love, Young Heart...

This is what I think about love. I do know what love is and it is when two people ignite a fire and it stays lit forever. Even when things get tough, somewhere in the debris LOVE shines through. It is in words and a "look" or in actions. It is when the love of your life knows the right time to send you a heartbeat. It is in beautiful words written from the soul. A different sort of "love language" that only two people can know and who share the same heartbeat. Nomatter how crazy it is!

It is love at it's finest at any hour of the day! It is waking up and going to sleep with that person living in your heart whether they are there in bed in person or not. It is rushing to the computer for just "a glimpse" of heart murmurs from something they said or wrote (this is a virtual age you know). Love invades your deepest places and then pulls you up to the light with just one little treasured moment. True love never dies, the fire ignites your heart and lives in there forever.

I know what true love is.

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      GPAGE 4 years ago from California

      Ausseye!! You could not have said it any better!! I'm happy to see you here! I'm on a bit less now because I just finished my new album and also working in TV production....Gets hard to keep up with everything, but I try!!! Lovely words here. You always leave such lovely comments. So nice to know that someone out there can put words out there in such a lovely way. What a heart you have!! Thank you for always sharing such wonderful wisdom and thoughts!! Best, G

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      Ausseye 4 years ago

      Hi G and gee I love the topic:

      A beautiful hub about a most important subject….love is what makes a world of difference. There are no rules, no givens, no permanent forever, just what evry moment gives. I have received so much in unexpected situations, and hope I have given when the moment came. No security was the basic tenor of expectations, and after 40+ years I can honestly say we all slip up at times, but if your other is your soul mate you make it through and each years your loves grows stronger. Each day is a new day, and to keep love you have got to give it…no guarantees , no excuses just what you put in day by day. Rough deal but that’s life, and if you both gel there are boundless moments of passion, endless moments of bliss. But like all things it could end tomorrow. My love accepts what might happen tomorrow, she has the right to the freedom to choose…”we the people are born equal free to decide tomorrow” that’s love.

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      GPAGE 4 years ago from California

      Very entertaining tomy! Made me giggle......Thank you for your comment! Appreciate you stopping by......GPAGE

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      GPAGE 4 years ago from California

      Thank you jabelufiroz.....GPAGE

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      Christopher Hyer 4 years ago from Midland, Texas

      I believe the entertainment business fols have it difficult to make ends meet in a relationship. Maybe that is the root cause, it takes so much of your time away from family. Good Hub I voted awesome for you. I think you will find him in

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      Firoz 4 years ago from India