Where Dreams Go to Die
Surviving the Death of a Dream
Some of the greatest ideas, the grandest intentions, the kindest hearts perish before they can make an impact. You may have had such a dream that was so strong, it carried a big piece of who you are with it.
Some dreams are destroyed by lust, or anger, or jealousy. Some dreams are destroyed by fear. Even more dreams are destroyed by the powerful institutions of man, who take great pleasure of stripping the kind and generous of their kindness and generosity.
If you have a dream that has died, it is important that you grieve it like a loved one. Below, I wrote an original verse as I grieved a dream, and share in sympathy for yours.
Where Dreams Go to Die
Dreams don’t die like a car crash
With shrapnel and spinning and cussing
The audience and the ambulance
The passersby inquiring and fussing
Dreams don’t die like a sparrow
Tumbling to the earth from its lofty perch
To land beneath the tree
Then as soil, then as a birch
Dreams don’t die like a sun
Swelling with pride before the boom
Puffing out its orange chest
to announce impending doom
Dreams don’t die like a king
With banners and commotion and pomp
The flashbulbs and the irony
White horses go clip-clap-clomp
Dreams don’t die like a year
In a room of masques and wine
the colorful masses toasting
to the prospects of a new vine
Dreams don’t die like a romance
With tears and gnashing of teeth
The parting with your lover’s things
Crimson vision that looks like grief
Dreams die somewhere in the mouth of a driveling madman, desperate to keep hope afloat amidst invading armies without faces and threats from yesterday’s demon
Dreams die grasping for your cloak like the hands of the poor
Dreams die as chloroformed infants, stuffed in the earth and can no longer cry for sweet milk until all that remains are teeth
Dreams die when their pleas are ignored like a helpless dog panting for water in the dry heat of day
Dreams die when they’re wrapped in plastic and distributed efficiently on your local corner by boys that don’t yet need to shave
Dreams die when they’re lost in piles of money on the checkerboard of the World
Dreams die like a poisoned friend, small and futile with a rotting mouth, unable to clean herself
Dreams die in the rain like a forgotten statue, awfully haughty for a hunk of chalk
Dreams die like a vacant home, punished by wind and ignored by decades
Heaving in desire for its family to return home
with rooms of memories …and abandoned toys for the children.
We were so happy.
Obscured by curtains, sunlight mocked harshly by dust
Feigning a sick greeting with scoliosis
Slumping to one side
Come in, and sit at my table.
And in the summer…a boy with a red wagon passes by, and vows to live there one day…
Copyright Julian J. Magdaleno, All Rights Reserved.
A Perspective on Death of a Vision
Grieving a Dream: Some Practical Advice
Dealing with the death of a dream can be absolutely miserable. You may feel directionless, or abandoned, or even betrayed (especially by fate, or God, or your own abilities, or those closest to you). Here are some possible reasons for its failure:
- Your dream was not an endpoint, it was a vehicle to bring you to the next one
- Your dream was too small, aim higher
- Your dream couldn't survive in the circumstances. Don't abandon it, alter it to fit life
- Your dream was for someone else to continue to build on, like the boy with the wagon
- Your dream's death is temporary, it will be revived at the appropriate time
- Your dream was, in fact, someone else's that was passed to you and not yours
The following is some practical advice on how to move on:
- Use your creative outlets to express yourself. It is important not to hold on to negative energy.
- Get closer to friends. Make sure these are supportive, non-judgmental friends. Friends can provide you with some inspiration to move on.
- Keep moving, don't stop and have a pity party. If you are a person who thrives off of activity, shutting yourself down will not make you feel better.
- DO NOT FORGET WHO YOU ARE. Nothing about YOU changed at all by shifts in your circumstances.
- Care for others. Nothing provides you with a feeling of purpose so much as nurturing someone else who is in need.
Some Understanding on Grieving- Very Helpful
- Coping with Grief and Loss: Support for Grieving and Bereavement
There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but there are healthy ways to cope with loss. These tips can help.