"A Leopard Cannot Change his or her Spots"

I've seen many relationships crash and burn and come to inexplicable end because the man would change his habits to make the wife happy. I think we get into relationships that aren't healthy for us and instead of waiting for that go through the same thing when you for their Ms. right. This is a bad habit for our society today, especially for the women. Listen up people, I've been screaming this for the absolute longest time, if you aren't getting what you want in a relationship. don't just settle for what you can get because you will be miserable I promise you. We all want certain things in our relation with our loved ones, so if your not getting at least 45-50 % of what you want, you might need to slow down just to see where it's going.. Now that I said that let me also say that you should give as much as your your counter part, so they don't feel that they're the only one giving. The giving has to balance out in all relationships, are they aren't going to prosper and grow.

The problem that I have been seeing in most relationships is that the women always be the one that end up giving the most in that relationship and the man hardly gives anything back. It is a misconception that the women should always be the one to stick her neck out on the chopping block,but that's a lot of garbage. When you're constantly taken advantage of, you will soon start to feel it. I can tell you about these types of relationships because I had my share of heartache and headaches because of them, before I finally found my real husband. It took time but I guess it's better late than never. Itt you're in a relationship where you're the one always letting the man have his way, then you're in a no win situation and you need to let him see first hand, what it feels like with the shoe on the other foot. Ladies we get ourselves into bad relationships by thinking that your love will change this man into the man of your dreams, but guess what? It's not going to happen. if a leopard can't change his spots, why do we think a man even want too.

I want you to remember one thing , you can only change yourself and your attitude, so if you're waiting for him to change, you might be waiting forever. The old saying about the leopard changing his spots is true, the leopards spots never changes in any situation. So, just remember the signs: If he wants to choose where to go all the time., or what to do all the time, and want to make all the decision in the relationship all the time, then there is something very wrong with this picture. Whether we want to except the writing on the wall or not, it's time to kick him to the curb and find someone that's truly into you and you needs and wants. we must also remember tha in all relationships there are compromises to be made so both parties can be content. I will say this once again,if you can find a man that love and respect God, his mother, sister and other women in his life, then he isn't going to treat you bad, because he has a conscience. It worked for me and I know for a fact thAT it will work for you. Happy hunting my friends.

Benny Faye Douglass (C) Copyright 2011