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How to Have More Patience by Slowing Down and Rushing Less

Updated on April 13, 2017
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As a poet, therapist, and observer of human behavior, Janis has a keen awareness of what makes people tick and behave the way they do.

We Rush Like a Fast-Moving Water Stream

Rushing waters resemble how impatient we can be. Niagara Falls, New York
Rushing waters resemble how impatient we can be. Niagara Falls, New York | Source

Putting on the Brakes . . .

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Have More Patience, Take a Breather, and Slow Down

As we attempt wind down from the fast pace of each day, let us think about taking the time to slow down.

Some of us drive way too fast, some engage in road rage, and others find it difficult to sit and wait in traffic at rush hour. We are not always gentle with the hard-working waiter in a restaurant or the over-worked cashier in a busy grocery store. We are short with our spouses and raise our voices at our children who are just learning how to navigate life.

This is called impatience and is known to cause a lot of tension and conflict between family members, co-workers, and strangers, as we interact on a daily basis. If only we could grasp the fact that life really is short and to have ill-spirited reactions to temporary things is a waste, having a negative impact on the body and soul.

As you contemplate making some changes toward self-improvement, consider practicing more patience. Make a commitment to yourself and those you love that you will take the time to slow down, wait, take deeper breaths, smell roses, and appreciate the life you have to live. Live with good intention. Be more patient and less critical of yourself and others.

Give your renewed patience time to grow. Start now by meditating on the following poem and remember that patience really is a virtue.

We Impatiently Become as Restless as Unstill Waters

Impetuous waters run constantly, similar to our out-of-control adrenaline. Niagara Falls, New York
Impetuous waters run constantly, similar to our out-of-control adrenaline. Niagara Falls, New York | Source

We Impatiently Move Like Rushing Water Falls

Our emotions sometimes run like uncontrolled water falls, taking us to deep places at the bottom of our souls. Niagara Falls, New York
Our emotions sometimes run like uncontrolled water falls, taking us to deep places at the bottom of our souls. Niagara Falls, New York | Source

"Impatience"


Rushing with nowhere in particular to go

Going with no particular reason to rush


We are restless to the point of reckless

Rushing to our own twilights


In a hurry to get there

Speeding up our lives just to die


To wait is to be ignored

Instead of waiting your turn


To slow down means to be late

Rather than slowing to pace


To brake means to lose our place

In lieu of braking to let someone else go first


Impatient souls are we

Missing the breath, the pause, and the exhale


Having no patience to wait and see

That death and taxes are certain to come


So stop to smell and taste, sit down to rest

Move gingerly toward destinations that are sure to come . . . in time.


(JLE 2012)

Lack of Patience Creates a Life of Turbulent Waters

Impatience creates turbulence in our lives. Cultivating more patience is a virtue which can bring inner peace. Niagara Falls, New York.
Impatience creates turbulence in our lives. Cultivating more patience is a virtue which can bring inner peace. Niagara Falls, New York. | Source

A Calm and Peaceful Beach Feeds the Patient Soul

If only we could acquire the calmness we see in the waters of a peaceful beach. We might then find the peace that eludes us.  The Potomac River, King George, Virginia
If only we could acquire the calmness we see in the waters of a peaceful beach. We might then find the peace that eludes us. The Potomac River, King George, Virginia | Source

© 2012 Janis Leslie Evans

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      JThomp42 4 years ago

      Hurry up and wait. People do need to stop and smell the roses before it's too late. Great Hub jan!!

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      Bobby Isenhower 4 years ago from Crothersville, IN

      What's funny, i drive a muscle car and people will fly by me in a hurry to get somewhere. And i'll get off at the exit and there they are sitting on a red light lol Now did that extra 15 miles an hour really help your cause? lol Like the hub :)

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      Rich 4 years ago from Kentucky

      Janis -

      There are times one just has to sit back and say, "Why?" Patience is a rare trait in our immediate gratification society. No wonder so many are on edge. Time to sit back and enjoy. Great Poem and strong message!

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      Thanks, JT. Yes, we can't rush time only to loose it prematurely. Appreciate the read and comment.

      Hey isenhower, thanks for stopping by. That is funny, happens to me a lot, too, makes me say, 'for what?'

      Rich, you're so right. Thanks for stopping in and liking the message.

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      Suzette Walker suzettetaos 4 years ago from Taos, NM

      Wonderful poem with a great message. Patience is one of the characteristics I had the hardest time with. I have always been an impatient person, and patience is something I've had to work on all my life. Therefore, I can really relate to your poem.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      I'm so happy you related well to it and glad you've worked on it for yourself. Thank you so much for stopping by and taking the time to read and comment, much appreciated.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      Not sure you saw earlier reply, glitches rule. Thanks for your comment and support.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      I hope you received my thank you reply earlier, a glitch with reply button. Thanks again for the comment.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      Not sure you received my earlier 'thank you', reply button glitches. I appreciate your support.

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      Martin Kloess 4 years ago from San Francisco

      Great poem. Guess what? As we get older this changes , be ready for the "balance years".

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      Rosalinem 4 years ago from Nairobi, Kenya

      Your hub is great and to the point. Sometimes I find myself is such a rush to go home at the end of the day and sometimes I just stop and ask myself what is so important at home that I need to almost break my legs hurrying?. Voted all the way up.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      Thank you, Mhatter and Rosalinem (excuse group reply, something not working).

      The balance years Mhatter? Uh oh, you mean I'm going to become cranky? :-) Thanks, I appreciate your read and comment.

      Glad you liked it, Rosalinem, appreciate your high vote! See you again soon.

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      Sean 4 years ago from PA

      In a world that doesn't appreciate it's own advances or accomplishments...when getting a step ahead simply isn't good enough...I have noticed this long ago, but you put the idea into a poem and gave it the crisp correct image it is...nice job.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      Thank you so much, SMonaghan. Your critique is meaningful to me. I'm grateful for the read and comment.

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      John Salatti 4 years ago

      Very nice, Janis, and very appropriate to the world we live in. I felt your message. Thank you for sharing.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      Thank you so much for stopping by to comment, John. I appreciate it.

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      Mike Pugh 4 years ago from New York City

      Lovely poem Janshares, we all need to slow down a great deal for sure, and learn to enjoy a bit of peace for once. I do agree!

      I'm sending you a inbox message today, check your email (It's just a helpful Tip!)

      Oh & Welcome to hubpages, its so nice to see that there's more good folks like yourself joining our awesome community here. Good Luck and I wish you much success here.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      Thanks, CloudExplorer, so glad you like this poem. I appreciate the read, comment, and the welcome.

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      Audrey Howitt 4 years ago from California

      Missing the breath, the pause, and the exhale

      so much is lost that way---great write!

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      Absolutely, glad you felt that line. I appreciate your taking the time to read and comment. Thank you so much for sharing my work.

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      Jasmine 4 years ago

      You're definitely right that death and taxes are certain to come! Once a man said to me: "Why are you always in a hurry? That way, you'll grow old sooner and your life will end sooner, which is not better than later in this case." He was right!

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      Ha ha, funny! I like that, vox vocis. Thank you for that comment. I appreciate your coming by, glad you liked it.

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      Jools99 4 years ago from North-East UK

      Great poem and prose and I loved the photos too. My poem on time led me to your poem about taking more time! Thanks.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      How about that :-) Thanks for stopping by, Jools99. I'm glad you liked the poem.

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      Audrey Howitt 4 years ago from California

      Came back for another read--I do think of poetry as a slowing down or meditative practice--

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      Janis Leslie Evans 4 years ago from Washington, DC

      Hey there, Audrey. Thanks for coming back. I've tweaked the hub but kept the poem the same. And, yes, poetry is definitely a slowing, meditative practice. I appreciate the return visit.

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      Live To Write 3 years ago from Phoenix, Az.

      Absolutely the best advice and your poetry is beautifully worded like song...

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      Janis Leslie Evans 3 years ago from Washington, DC

      Very nice of you to say, I appreciate that comment. Thank you for stopping by to read it.

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      Only one word needed here :

      Brilliant !!!!

      Eddy.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 3 years ago from Washington, DC

      Aww, thank you, Eddy. I'm so pleased you enjoyed it. Thanks for the visit and comment.

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      Oscar Jones 2 years ago from Alabama

      Thanks! this embolizes the acts of kindness that we (should) do each day, and a moment of our time shared (out there) to others.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 2 years ago from Washington, DC

      Thank you, Oscarlites, glad you enjoyed it. Patience does indeed involve kindness to self and others. I appreciate the visit.

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      Winter Rain 2 years ago

      Nice Poem Janis ..I can very well relate to it .. Thank u for the insight

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      Janis Leslie Evans 2 years ago from Washington, DC

      You're very welcome, Winter Rain. Thank you for liking it. I'm grateful for the comment.

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