Taking Risks and Making Changes
"How does one become a butterfly?" she asked pensively. "You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar." ~ Trina Paulus
Sometimes, just when you think you have life figured out, fate creeps up behind you and pushes you through the door of love. Not knowing where you are, how you’re going to find your way out, or where you are going to end up, you put one foot in front of the other and walk down the long narrow road, having faith that someone will be there to walk with you and hold your hand. Suddenly he shows up like a thief in the night. Looking like ghetto meets GQ, with a black and white beanie cap on his head; nicely ironed, loose-fitting jeans; and a polo shirt. His smile melts your heart. He steals your emotions and turns your world upside down. He will teach you about life, love, happiness, and most of all…CHANGES.
Every song you hear from that moment forward reminds you of him. Every card you read makes you think of how much you love him. The birds seem to sing louder and the flowers seem to look more beautiful. You step higher, you smile wider; life is the best! The way he holds you in his arms makes you melt like butter. For once in your life, someone understands you, someone feels what you feel, someone cares; you are not alone any longer. Day and night you dream of life with him. You dream of the moment you can be Mrs. Man of Your Dreams. You want to be the mother of his children, to make him happy, and to help him make his dreams come true. You want to do everything you dream of, and you want to do it by his side. You want him to see you as the most beautiful woman in the world. You want him to look at you and see the stars in your eyes.
You wake up one morning, many years down the road, and all of this has happened. You are now Mrs. Man of Your Dreams. You have completed every one of your dreams…together. You make each other two of the happiest people on Earth. After 40 years of marriage, you still look at each other the way you did that first night fate pushed you through the door. No one can split you apart. You love each other more than you love yourselves. All of this is true because you were willing to take a chance and walk with each other down the road of true love and changes.
"There is nothing in a caterpillar that tells you it's going to be a butterfly." ~R. Buckminster Fuller
Worth the Risk
This was a piece I wrote for my ex-husband before we were married. I was so in love with him and believed this was my forever. It was like jumping on a train track and hoping neither of us got crushed! We went through a LOT in the 10 years we were married and the many years we were together. We experienced the loss of our children, the birth of a miracle baby who was a twin and then suddenly only one, and the destruction of our marriage as we focused more on other things than on our life together.
It is interesting that you truly do have 20/20 vision when you look back. He and I are probably much better off living separate lives. It brings to mind the Kenny Chesney song, "Better As A Memory" in which he says,
"Cause goodbyes are like a roulette wheel
You never know where they're gonna land
First you're spinning, then you're standing still
Left holding a losing hand
But one day you're gonna find someone
And right away you'll know it's true
That all of your seeking's done
It was just a part of the passing through
Right there in that moment you'll finally understand
That I was better as a memory than as your man
Better as a memory than as your man"
Many people never step out and take chances with their heart. They spend their entire lives protecting themselves from getting hurt. In reality, they are hurting themselves by not taking the risk that they could find someone who makes them smiles, makes them feel warm and fuzzy, and gives them the love they deserve. Everyone has to be willing to take the risk that they will give hurt - or no one will find love.
Changes. We have to be willing to make changes in our lives at times or we will be stuck wondering, "What if?" I don't have any "What ifs" or regrets in my life. I have lived a full life. I loved hard and deep, and it didn't last. But while it did - it was amazing. We shared a love that I will never find again - and that is probably a good thing because I wouldn't want to repeat it! If I had never taken that chance, though, I would never be who I am today.
What risks do you have to take today? Why are you holding on so tight instead of letting go and taking a chance? Your change may be the one that leads you the happiness you always desired!